Is it normal to feel like this?

Jen79

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Hi, I have a 6 month old baby girl and have been with my hubby for 5 years. Since we had our baby I have had a bit of PND which I am on tablets for and shortly I will start having some sessions with a councillor type women. I went back to work part time 6 weeks ago and it seems like ever since then I feel constantly pissed off with my OH for various reasons. I work 3 days a week and he does 2 days out of every 8 so it works out that he is actually at home more than me and yet I somehow seem to be lumbered with all the cooking and cleaning etc. He does stick the odd wash on and does some dishes but I just feel like I do 95% of everything and its just not fair. I dont like leaving Kate to go to work but we need the money so its not an option to quit my job, I just wish he would help out more as I am knackered and constantly run down. I even had some blood tests at the docs as I have been coming out in massive mouth ulcers and having a cold every fortnight for as long as I can remember. Last night we had a bad row because he went off to the pub and left me at home with Kate, also he went out to get his tattoo done on saturday afternoon so I never saw him then neither. I sound like a right whinge but I feel better for getting it off my chest, I get no time for myself at all and he seems to just do what he wants yet is still miserable and bored half the time which doesnt make me feel any better. Is this normal? What do I do? I have really had enough!! :wall:
 
Honestly I would be pretty p*ssed to hun. You both work so it should be 50 50.

I do all the cleaning in our house apart from the pots but Im not bothered because Mark works all day and Im a stay at home mummy.

Although I am a little selfish at weekends because he sits about and does bugger all while I clean and look after Leah. I would like more help from him but he sees it as his time off. When do I get 2 days to sit on my arse lol makes me mad but I guess I can see his point.

Have a word with him just say I would like it if you helped abit more.

Hope you feel better soon hunny.
 
u hav a right to be pissed off! i do all the chores in our house (apart from cat litter atm as i'm pg) but i only work 30 hours a week n my boyf works about 45 hours so its fair. if u work 50/50 the chores should be the same, and if one of u works more then the other should do more chores!

cant u get signed off work with the PND? i think someone at my work was off on full pay for 6 months with regular depression. if ur struggling it might be worth doing until ur daughters a bit older and youll still hav the same income then. can u talk 2 ur doc about it?
 

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