Is anyone else struggling to get excited?

[Annie050408]

I am really struggling to feel excited about being pregnant - I suspect that it is my way of emotionally protecting myself until I know all is well.

Also as Ella will only be 18 months when the next bub is born I have pretty much everything so not sure how I'll stoke that excitement I had when I was expecting Ella as last time I could go on lots of little shopping trips for clothes and bits for her.

Am feeling a bit blah which is very unlike me. I know how lucky I've been to fall pregnant 3 times first time trying so don't get me wrong- I am absolutely delighted about it but just a bit numb....

 

[hugsy]

Yeah im feeling a little numb you might say too

I just dont know how I feel, It just doesnt seem realy that im gonna have a actual person that I own in a few months, I just dont feel ready even though it is what I want Im struggling to get my head around it

That and being scared silly about labour

 

[Nurse 26]

me! i'm stopping myself from getting excited just incase something happens, even though my scans have been fine i just cant seem to accept everything is going right.

Dont think i will be able to bring myself to buy anything for ages, told family about the pregnancy after scan and they are all excited about everything especially telling the wider family but i'm dreading telling everyone as i feel like even after 12 weeks it will be a jinx and something will go wrong.

Will you be finding out what you are having annie? if so and its a boy this time, you will still have plenty shopping to do

 

[charlie26]

Like myself Annie your protecting your self from getting hurt, incase the worse happens. I am secretly over joyed but also not getting too carried away, only a hand full of people know. I would love to start planing but i am deo leaving that till after my scan on 10th oct. Lucky for you that you have lots of stuff, my lo is 5 so i have to start again, i dont have nothing. Hmmmmm very expensive few month. Prob just ur hormones aswel hun xx

 

[Corrinne37]

Yes I feel the same too!!
I just think Im so early! I check the paper for blood every time I go to the toilet and worry about every little thing.
Today - oh I dont feel too sick, ooh my boob dont hurt too much.
Im trying so hard to be positive, where really deep down i am worrying so much that everything is ok.
I think after a loss its very normal - yes just protecting yourself from getting hurt should the worst happen.
Hopefully for us everything this time will be perfect - a perfect baby. xxxxx

 

[Annie050408]

Yep I'll definitely find out again - finding out at the 20 week scan that we were having a little girl was one of the most special moments of my life- I felt joy from the inside out and I was so utterly delighted that I would be having a daughter.

I think it's important for me to know this time as it made the whole pregnancy feel so real last time and I really started to love her. Also, on a practical level it will dictate what we need to buy.

 

[Samsgirl]

i am really struggling...everyone else round me is really excited and i am just too worried to be excited and i just dont feel emotionally ready. as you say, it could be an emotional barrier to protect myself...

even though i had my scan on thursday and everything was fine...i have had a few niggly pains today and i am crapping myself....i know its probably just stretching and growing pains but i am just so worried about everything

xx

 

[lanny]

I'm the same, I keep trying not to think to far ahead of myself. I love thinking of names but at the same time it scares me and I don't want to get my hopes up.
Because nobody really knows and I'm so busy with the children it's kind of forgotten that I'm pregnant and I think I sometime try to forget myself hoping the wks will past till my scan. I think only then I will relax and believe I will be a mum of 4 xxxx

 

[BevG]

yeah, totally with you on this one, im the one reminding everyone that it could all be over any time and that i wont even get happy about it or admit its real til i see it in front of me, one week exactly til my scan..........

 

[TORino]

I'm struggling to get excited too. For many of the same reasons no doubt. I'm so so worried things are going to go wrong and it is spoiling my experience completely.

I'm hoping to have a private scan very soon so hopefully my mind will be put at rest.

 

[Levi89]

Same. I'm so scared incase one morning I wake up and all this is gone. I love the 'glow' it's already giving me and the amount of things that used to stress me out - I've been so laid back about it all incase I harm the LO. It's crazy how much I've changed within a week! But I'm sure all will be well ladies! I'm still opting for the private scan at 8 weeks though! My mind will be put at rest lol! xxx

 

[Piglet10]

after my mc and i was preg with madison, i thought it hadnt held me back from getting excited , but the morning she was born i was in shock! i dont think i ever REALLY thot she was gonna make it, and i didnt even realise id been feeling like this!!

i think you will get excited when ur a bit further on chick! if not im excited for you ayway!! xxx

 

[Jaxx01]

Hun am I right in thinking u fell pregnant again without af?? Same here and I was the same as you feeling numb, protecting myself from getting hurt the mc was still very fresh in my mind!! It does get easier and u will start to get excited...the turning point for me was my 20 week scan. I found out I was having a boy and now feel a whole lot better about it all xxx

 

[Annie050408]

Yep there was no AF and when I first got my BFP I thought that it may have been leftover hormone hence the multiple testing to ensure the hormone was actually increasing.

Am sure that after the 12 week scan I'll be super excited.

 

[x.Lilly.x]

saaame, i know its awful but because i already have a boy and a girl i dont feel its as exciting. but i think because we want a boy when it gets to the 20 week scan and see what were having (even if its a girl because of course i wouldnt mind!) ill be more excited. at the mo its just alittle splodge in there, when it gets bigger it gets more real!

 

[JJ Mum]

Ahh Annie, once you get too about 14/15 weeks you can start getting excited for your 20 week scan and then either gender I just know you will be shopping..... it makes it real and if you have another lovely girl, she will need a few bits that you know were hers to keepsake after , special babygrows etc for her memory box, personalised bits etc, big sister t-shirt for Ella!! so exciting - hang on there in Tri 1 , know how you feel, I didn't relax a bit till about 17 weeks when we told the kids and wow it went quick from then - try to enjoy it. Write yourself a pregnancy diary incase you don't do it again and this will help you pass the time and revel in whats happening hun