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Is anyone else going it alone ?

thea

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Hi ladies, I've not spoken about this yet, so this is my first baby step.
Shortly before I found out I was pregnant me and my OH split up, we got into a bad place with a lot of stress and sadness, lord knows we tried our bests to get out of it we did but sadly we couldn't. We had stopped TTC a month before the split so I was convinced I wasn't pregnant, I decided right focus on me my daughter and work.. 5 days after the split I found out we're expecting ! We're over the moon proudest man and woman in the world.

So for our family's sake we tried to give it a go again but somehow our problems were bigger but we gave it our all trying again until it broke us, we decided that level of sadness wasn't healthy for my daughter me our baby or him and went our separate ways for good and I can say I genuinely felt relief .. not from him .. from the struggles of us being together.. we agreed it's about the kids and that's it. Of course there's emotions but for their sake they need to be taken away if that makes sense.

I've been a single mum .. I actually liked it a lot stepping up to the plate with my daughter being her mum and dad ( he chose not to be involved ) made me the strong woman I am but right now I can't help but feel lost.. you know when you wake up from a nap and you're confused and wondering why that person isn't there .. I'm heartbroken and confused .. I know there will come that day after a long while where I just wake up finally better and not lost I've been heartbroken before.

I know what we've done is for he best, and sadly there isn't a way back I can make peace with that. But I wanted to know if any other mums or mums to be have gone through the same or simular ? I'd love to hear from you :)
While I spend the next 6 months watching Bridget jones on repeat ������
 
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Hi Thea, I'm not in the same position but didn't want to read and run.
All credit to you, it's so brave to go it alone and it sounds like you and your ex have done the right thing by separating. Granted it's not ideal that it's worked out like this but things have a way of working themselves out.
I always hate it when people say it to me but time is a great healer and I truly believe that. You'll have days you wake up feeling better and sadly you'll have days you wake up feeling worse but soon enough the good ones will outweigh the bad.
Keep doing what you're doing, you've done it before and you can do it again :). And in the meantime we're here to chat x
 
Hello Thea, Yes i totally hear you, I brought up my daughter by myself for 18 years, It was the best 18 years of my life, We grew up together, We did everything together, I worked full time i had my own money, My own place it made me the strong woman that i`am today. However it also made me very selfish & i found it hard to share once i got into another relationship lol, My poor partner i dont know how he`s managed to put up with me.
Because i spent so many years being single i missed out on having more children which is why i have such a big age gap between my children & why i`am pregnant again so quickly.
Its going to be hard for you having a baby alone but you`ve got plenty of time to prepare yourself & you can do it, If i was suddenly left now pregnant & with a small baby i could do it too because we do what we have to, to survive.
Wishing you the very very best ... Keep believing in yourself X
 
Thankyou so much ladies !! It feels like an entirely new world although it isn't really, it's amazing how fast we can change and adapt to like you said loopylou survive .. it's almost like I could've wrote that myself !! I think I got to the point yesterday where I thought the worst thing I can do is isolate myself and wrongly believe I'm the only one going through this. So I hope you don't mind me opening up to you ladies.
Haylian you're right things always have a way of somehow coming together in the end or working themselves out .. ATM I'm trusting that if I do my best everyday despite the struggles it will all pay off :)

On another note when is frozen going to die down my daughter is 5 and sings let it go ( actually shouts let it go ) every day lol what did those characters have so magical about them ? Christ lol
 
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Haha I hate to say it thea but it'll probably die down just in time for the Christmas one to be released in November. Then it'll start all over again :)
 
Hahahahahhahhaha I love Frozen i tell you i`am worse than the kids, I even went to the frozen singalong pmsl, We are here for you hunni dont ever feel like you are alone everything is going to be fine you`ve just got to live it X
 
Hiya, I'm going it alone, the guy I was dating has said he doesn't want it and would prefer the issue 'went away' so rocking this solo (well with my mum, we live together since I split from my ex husband last year and then my dad died in March, she is beyond excited) x
 
Fair play to you thea and fairycake. It's not easy but we women are superhumans.
Good luck
 
Frozen is literally in my day to day life in fact tomorrow is consisting of buying DD a new elsa doll she coned me into it with going to bed nicely all week lol she does this creepy thing with elsa obviously not knowing it's creepy but will walk in my bedroom or the kitchen when I'm in the there shove her doll around the door frame and go HHHEEEERRRREEEESSSS ELSA .. reminds me of the shining ���� lolol

Fairy cake imthats horrible I'm really sorry ! Some men are really just nasty and very selfish of course women can be too but I bl..dy hate it when men try and say a little miracle is anything but a little miracle .. yes it's overwhelming but get a grip we all got here the same way no one is the Virgin Mary lol you have your mum and I bet you'll love being a single mummy ! I remember when ems was a baby I moved into a new property after the split she was only 4 months and it was my first time alone properly .. I love it I watched desperate housewives all evening eating crumpets and cheese religiously.. ( my type of therapy ) I didn't struggle as such I just enjoyed every moment ... you've got this girlie !

Sk8erzeh you're right we are aren't we ! All in our own quirky ways .. I mean hell our bodies are magical I'm classing it as a superpower ! Xxx
 
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