Is anyone else finding it hard having to plan BDing

[Pappadog]

It kinda puts me off knowing that theres certain days when we have to BD. Then we don't tned up BDing and I feel frustrated then.

OH always tries really hard but must be difficult for him to as I know he's so desperate for a child.

Any suggestions? Any herbal remedy that increases sex drive?

 

[Alicebabe]

Aw hun, its hard isnt it? I sympathise with you. There are lots of times I'm not up for it at all but I know I should so I just go through with it because the time is right. I always end up enjoying it, its just getting motivated thats the problem!

I have been feeling especially guilty as I know that any BD now wont have any impact on anything coz I have already ovulated and just waiting for AF or BFP. However, my OH has been well up for it (literally) these last few days and I've been saying I'm too tired. Now I feel bad because he has always come through for me (again, literally) when I have been requesting it during Ov and now I'm turning him down in favour of

How about spicing things up or is that not you? My local Ann Summers have a great sale on and I bought OH a stripper outfit, you know the collar and cuffs! But I seen a lovely sexy army dress in there I want. I'm gonna look on eBay for a cheap one!

Good luck
Alice x

 

[jenna]

hehe weve been doing it every day rather than once every 2 days! its great

 

[Alicebabe]

Hey Jenna

The girls on here advised not to do it too often as it lowers your OH's supplies. I think its OK during Ov but for the rest of the month, you should stick to every other day

 

[arcanegirl]

I dont tell OH when the important days are and we try to have fun every few days, he doesnt know when the big day is so doesnt feel like he needs to perform better on a certain day.

 

[Cat&Noah]

I do the same, I dont tell OH that we are having sex for that reason. Plus if your not in the mood, try to plan it more with dressing up and toys etc that way getting ready should help get you in the mood, and it will make it more enjoyable for you both as oposed to feeling like obligatory BD sex. The thing Im finding harder at the mo, is dealing with the heat, its to hot to want to have sex! Oh has a very high body temperature anyway, so BD in the heat means he sweats buckets over me eugh!!!

 

[Jayceesmumma]

The thing Im finding harder at the mo, is dealing with the heat, its to hot to want to have sex! Oh has a very high body temperature anyway, so BD in the heat means he sweats buckets over me eugh!!!

You can always do it in a cool shower!!

I agree with not telling OH its the big day, its pressure for them! Just spice it up every other time u do it! Do something special for him and he'll do something special for you like a BFP!!!

 

[Pappadog]

Well, it all went well last night. I never used to tell him, but because he's always so tired from work we both ended up not doing anything, so the last couple of months I've told him as he wants this just as much as me.

I can't wait for the day I post on this board with a BFP and dont miscarry.

 

[Wobbles]

I can't wait for the day I post on this board with a BFP and dont miscarry.

I'll second that!!!

 

[Melly+2]

it will be soon for you guys dont worry