im so hurt.

[Riley's Mommy]

as you know, riley was taken to bristol childrens hospital for pyloric stenosis.

well. the first night, adam was moaning about not wanting to stay with me as he was to tired. so my mom (who;'d been working nights and also hadnt got muxh sleep) stayed with me.

i later find out that he wasnt sleeping, he was out on the town pissing it up. he shared a room with my dad that night.

the second night, after riley had had his surgury. he was saying to mom and dad that there was no way he was staying in the chair. and did moan to me abit about it, so in the end i told him to go.

ive now found out that on the night, instead of being there for me and riley (i was on my own 2nd night as he wouldnt stay) he again went out on the piss, my dad went for a couple. my dad saw him on the dancefloor with 2 women. my dad left him to it. and found out the next day he went on to a strip club, and didnt get back to the hotel until early in the morning (not sure what time, probs about 5,6am)

all this when his son was very ill. and just out of surgery.

im fuming! i cant believe he did this to me. he even went to the hotel room to hide the tickets to the strip club before me and riley joined him.

and he expected my dad to keep this from me (which i think he would if he hadnt have annoyed my dad)

thats just part of it. he also kept claiming he had no money, then took us for a £50 meal and then said it was disgusting. ect.

he got the money back from the hotel for the room, and i think the meal too.

he is supposedly at work now. but when he gets back im going to ask him to leave. he told me 'you know where the door is' last night when i asked him what went on in bristol.

he obviously doesnt care about me or riley.

i think i needed to rant to you ladies. i really am so hurt and annoyed

 

[leckershell]

don't know what to say really other than he's been a complete piece of crap to you

sorry this is happening to you

 

[Emmylou]

Oh no, you def need to have it out with him, or it will boil up inside you.
Take care hun, sorry to hear about this

 

[Sarah&Braydon]

oh sweetie wot an arse u and riley deserve so much more

 

[A&J]

Don't know what to say really, he is treating you like **** hope you manange to sort it. Don't worry about the ranting it's what we are all here for. Hope Riley is getting Better.

 

[Riley's Mommy]

thanks ladies.

i asked him to leave tonight. at the very least i need space.

he didnt seem the least bit upset, other than initially refusing to go.

he left and returned later for his helmet and moped. and he then did the 'i love you' spiel. he should have said that straight off, which makes me think his parents told him to go suck up.

tbh, i am petrified. ive never lived alone before. i cant afford the £400 rent plus water ect. i just cant live here now. and i have sasha aswell. (dog)

im so scared of how im going to live. which i think he has been playing on.

im so confused. and upset.

how dare he come back after and say he loves me ect.

he hasnt shown the least bit of interest in riley. which he says is because he is 'scared incase he hurts him'

ive got to do what is best for me and riley. and im not sure what that is at the moment.

but i dont think i could ever trust him again. this isnt much of a relationship. i could take him back, then years down the road it could get worse.

he is an alcoholic, that i am sure of.

i really dont know what to do or think

 

[Misslarue]

Hun you are so brave
You are completely right to be p1ssed. I remember when Dan was in hospital with bronchiltis and kept stopping breathing. I was shouting at my OH as I couldn't believe he could sleep when our son was so ill, let alone gone out and got drunk
You have every right to be so mad with him. The 'scared incase I get hurt' thing is a cop out. Your son is hurting, that's all he needs to know.
Give yourself some time to work out how you feel. The bills and rent will work themselves out. Let him do what he wants. You need to work out what's best for you and Riley and sod him. I never thought I would say that as I always believe kids need thier Dads, but right now he is being an a$$hole. Give yourself time and really think about what you need
Be strong hun

 

[trixipaws]

omfg i cant believe how horrible hes been! especially as poor little rileys been so ill
it does sound like he doesnt care, and youd be better off shot of him. stay strong hun it sounds like u hav family 2 support u, ur mum sounds very suportive xx

 

[Redshoes]

He's been an absoluta tw@! and he deserves a good slap, he's being childish and selfish, not to mention down right stupid, his gf and son needed him and he did that
BIG hugs
From a very saintly place, I would also suggest maybe Riley having surgery scared the beegeezuz out of him and his only way to deal was drink (I hope that's what it was), NO excuse mind, but some men are that stupid and defensive at expressing themselves.

 

[Sammystar]

OMG I've never heard aynthing like it!

What a tosser!!!!!!!!!

You poor thing Keslo.

This is an awful time for you hun but it sounds to me like you are a strong lady who has a wonderful mum for support and no doubt many trues friends (both on here and in 'real' life!)
It might not seem like it now, but you WILL come through this, I promise.

Concentrate on yourself and little Riley. You are better off without idiots like him in your lives......

 

[Babylicious]

You are doing the right thing, what the hell is he playing at? He sounds really cold.

You'll cope on your own hun, you'll get single parents allowance, not to mention csa and probably some (or all) of your rent paid

 

[M&Ms]

Oh Steph hunny! Like you need all this right now, what a pillock!

I'm at a loss for words! To some extent you can understand a bloke wanting to drown his sorrows in a pint or two, but a strip club??? What an insensitive twat!

It is hard going it alone, but you can do it, I never thought I would be able to cope on my own, but I have and am determined that I will do what is best for me and Marcus. If the best means being without a fella, so be it. We women are amazingly resilient to this sort of thing and though I am sure you will be angry and hurt at the moment, things will sort themselves out for the best.

As for worrying about rent and stuff. Get yourself onto your local council and get claiming housing benefit. That's what I had to do, and they now pay almost all my rent for me. I need to get onto them myself now as I am sure they will pay it all now I have the baby with me. And dickhead should be coughing up money to keep a roof over yours and Riley's head anyway or the CSA will make him do it. Oh and you can claim child tax credit too!

What a moron! Oh this has really annoyed me

I suddenly got the urge to text you after midnight last night for some strange reason as I had a feeling things were bad for you, but I didn't just incase I woke you and the baby up. Gonna text you my home number so you can ring me cheaper if you want to talk through this. I have been there remember? You know where I am if you need me!

 

[Riley's Mommy]

thank you everyone. im in utter shock tbh. i dont know what to think.

i think that he is a great actor. the way hes been behaving, was as if he wanted me to do this.

but i still think, 'what if im doing the wrong thing'

but i cant see i am tbh. after what hes done, and his drinking, i dont see things would change.

oh i feel like punching a wall. or a punchbag if anyone has one.

 

[Vicki83]

Aw hun , i don't know what to say apart from if it's really what's in your heart to do then do it, you've got Riley to think about now and after what you have been through with him in the past few days your OH should have been there to support you not out on the piss.

We're all here hun, so rant away

 

[Babylicious]

He deserves the punch

 

[Robyn_]

aww hunni after reading through this, it just makes me think what b@stards men are, they dont deserve shite, and the fact hes not even showing interest omg he needs a good slap in the face, you are extremly brave to tell him to leave when you have a little one, but it was the best thing to do in my eyes and i would have done the same, theres no way you should be treated like that it just isnt right.
id tell him where to go if he said he loved me. pfft..
men what gives the the Fecking right to piss us about
omg i hate them
your better off hunni, it may be hard with the money issus and stuff but it will all get sorted dont you worry, the most important thing right now is you and Riley

 

[frangelle]

Poor you hun, no wonder you're hurt

That is absolutely disgusting behaviour...is he not ashamed of himself? I would no way put up with that sh*t!

It sounds like your better off without him, I can't believe anyone would be that selfish, I was shocked when I read it... hope you feel better soon

 

[Riley's Mommy]

he came here last night. and his attitude stunk. he just waltced in. 'ive come to see riley' me: 'why you never bothered in the past' blah de blah.

me: let me know when you are coming next time'

him: ill come whenever i want. im not going to tell you. ect



His things are now in bin liners which are being put into the outside shed. and the locks are being changed this morning.

wrong idea to piss me off. im a brummy after all

if he wants his bigger items (fish tank ect) he can make an appointment to come.

and if he tries getting in when he hasnt told me he is coming, im ringing the police.

i was going to try and split amicably. but the gloves are off now. he wants a fight he's sure as hell got one.

he wants the comp back. so ill be returning to useing my laptop.

he now doesnt want rebel, so im going to have to ring the rspca. as much as i love rebel, i cant cope with him, and it isnt fair on him.

 

[weenik]

well done Keslo - you're doing the right thing. You've had concerns about him for a long time so its time to start afresh with just you & Riley. Make sure you sort out money with him coz he still needs to help you with Riley xx

 

[leckershell]

i'd ditto the two posts above me...

good on you