I'm so frightened of giving birth :(

[midnightrose25]

I've given birth twice before, both by c sections due to medical reasons. My third baby is due in 6 weeks and is being bought into the world by c section. I'm so unbelievably scared. It's in a new hospital as we've moved areas so i am not sure that's helping with me being anxious, i'm petrified that i might hemorrhage again as i did with both other two. I'm worried they won't notice or i'll hemorrhage once i've been sewn up. I'm scared the spinal might paralyse me but i don't want a local as thats also scary! I'm worried that something awful might happen as i nearly didn';t make it whilst giving birth to my son. God i am SO nervous please can someone talk some sense into me?!! lol!! If this is ur first baby PLEASE pay NO attention to my worrying as i don't wanna cause anyone else to worry!! I've tried talking to my consultant and he brushes it aside saying wait until the preop in october on 29th!! Hello?? it's keeping me awake atm, it's affecting everything i do! I know it's ridculous but sheeeesh, easier said than done lmao!! Also a bit worried about my PND coming back as i had that slightly with my daughter. The consultant has requested i have counselling to try prevent it which is fine by me. OK maybe i need a few virtual slaps?! what do you think?! is anyone else anxious?

 

[flexilexi394]

hello! well if youve had complications in the past its only understandable for you to be anxious this time! if i were you, when you go to the hosp just make them aware of your concerns and they will reassure you a lot im sure. its hard having that sort of worry without many people that understand (pf is great for this reason lol) as not going through it themselves etc. my advice would be tell the staff you have that you are scared and need reassurance and need bloody good looking after! im sure they will be keeping an eye on you anyway as you have had these complications in the past, they have to watch you to check on you and prevent it happening again! you ll be ok xx

 

[serenitylove]

firstly i soooo understand your fears although i didnt have your complications im bricking it about another section speak to your mw and make sure when you write your birth plan your biggest fears are written in it so they are aware how your feeling xx

 

[MrsK]

Hi, too be honest I am also terrified as well. My first was born normal however at 32 weeks no complications just had to stay in special care for 2 weeks. This time I know what is in front of me and everytime I think about it I actually feel faint! My placenta is lying slightly low so if I make it to 34 weeks they will decide if I can give birth myself or will need a C Secation so again I am a nervous wreck about this as I dont know what to expect.

As well I am just turning 31 weeks and I know that if you had a pre-term labour before the chances of this happening again are higher so this is also now on my mind - too be honest I am feeling emotional at the minute (would love a good cry if I could get started), I think I am losing it a bit lol! I totally understand where you are coming from.

 

[midnightrose25]

Hey thanks for your messages ladies, I know it's a frightening time. Sometimes the unknown can be just as frightening as the knowing. I have a friend who's also having to have a csection, tomorrow actually, and she's nervours and frightened and this is her second. I seem to be great at trying to reassure people but i just can't reassure myself! I tell her she's done it once before she'll be able to do it again, and the hospital will look after her she'll be absolutely wonderfunkle...
yet when it comes down to it, i just cannot listen to all the positivity i'm throwing out to other people. It's keeping me awake at night. My midwife is german the language barrier is a pain in the arse as i can't really talk to her properly. I've got to see her on tuesday, i feel like if i try and talk to her i'll be hurried along or she won't listen, or i'll be laughed out the surgery. I cannot WAIT to get my baby in my arms, cuddle, love, get baby home and be back to the norm. But i gotta get surgery out the way, and being stuck in hosp, any complications and the pain out the way first lol! damn it listen to me! This is ridiculous and it's keeping me awake at night!!!! x