I think we are going to break up

[Tasha20]

I have never spoke about my relationship on here, but im sat here in tears as I really think me and OH are going to break up.

We have had many years of ups and downs due to our business situations, which I have supported him with all the way.

He doesnt seem to get stuck into one thing, but many things which has caused a massive strain on our relationship.

He has now jumped into something else and it has come to a totaly blow tonight

He said that I would be happier without him and that I should start thinking about what I would do if we did!

I can't believe it, it was as if he wanted me to say it, im so upset I just cant believe hes allowing this to happen

Thats only a very small portion as to what been going on, but basicly its do with business.


I cant believe im having to think about that happening, I live in a rented accomidation, and im not working (sahm) at the moment.
I would be totaly fu*ked

 

[Jaidy]

Oh my god Tasha im so shocked to hear this.... What a time for him to say such a thing.

Sorry if I sound a bit stupid, but when you say its all down to business, you mean he has his own business or to do with his job, am a little confused!

Has he ever mentioned anything like this before, or was it a bolt out of the blue?

How do you feel about him, and the situation?

Maybe its wise for you guys to have a real heart to heart and get to the root of all the problems?

Sorry to hear your going through this, but im sure you two are very strong

 

[Loola]

Oh Tasha hun! I agree what an awful time to be thinking of making a decision like that. I hope he is just stressed out with the busines situation, surely he wouldnt want you to split up now that you are pregnant after all the TTC you did? People say awful things to each other in arguments that they dont really mean. Mine and OH's arguments are always really nasty and we always say we are going to leave each other, but thats never going to happen really, I hope the its the same for you in this instance. I take it you dont want to split up with him?

 

[beanie]

chick, do you think he is "testing" you, in that you are hsving another baby, there are busiess issues - perhaps he is really frightened and is pushing you away. You need to talk openly with eachother - sending you a massive hug

 

[Snuggle]

Aw hun I think you need to talk things through properly with OH. Surely if you love each other then a business isnt going to come between you?

 

[claire_louise]

not got any advice just wanted to send a load of

 

[Tasha20]

thank you everyone.

I am sorry I havent replied sooner, as I came onto do it, OH came home.

He runs his own businesses, I used to help with two but both are no longer happening due to not working out.

He has one main one on the go now and is going into another.

I was just worried about what it did to us before, causing so much stress and upset in the relationship.

I know he is doing this because all he wants to do is support the family, and look after me and Olivia, but we were so nasty to each other because of the stress he was under (running more than one business and trying to do more than he could) and I felt very alone.

We have been very distant with each other over the past few weeks, 1 due to him being very busy and 2. me being very hormonal and not wanting to be intimate or be around anyone.

I do love him very much, I don't want to break up and after the chat we had when he came home, he dont either.

When he came back he said that all he wants is to make sure our home life is better, and didn't mean to go off like he did. He said that everytime we go through something like this, its down to money, money is always the root cause of our problems (im sure we are not the only ones)

I agree it is, if we had abit of extra cash, he wouldn't have to do what he does, and our relationship wouldn't suffer.
You know you supposed to get through these bad times together and I just felt as thought by taking on more, they werent going to get better, they were going to get worse, it worries me.

We had a long chat and its seemed that we have sorted things out, he said he spoke to his mom (which he doesnt normaly do) and she said it was most like down to money and that if we stop talking to each other, even when we are angry, we wil end up not caring, which is right.

She also knows im pregnant (didnt want to tel her yet) well knowone told her, she worked it out herself, she said I had a glow and so did his dad say that too.

So after talking and hugging I think we will be ok.

We are going to try and make an effort more, and I have said to him that we need to set some time aside for us, his mom has also said about having Livi more to help out, which is very helpfull.

We just need to talk more.

Thanks again everyone

 

[Anna23]

aww glad you have talked and sorted things out soz i didn't see this message earlier

 

[Tasha20]

thanks hun

 

[Jaidy]

I think your 100% doing the right thing Tasha, your such a grounded person, I know you guys will be fine. The first few weeks of pregnancy are so tough, on everyone. It will all get better in time, especially now things are all out in the open and have been discussed. So glad your feelung better

 

[Tasha20]

Thank you very much Jaidy

Yeah we are doing fine now, feel abit more like we know where we are with each other

 

[purple13]

i'm really glad you've worked things out hon

 

[claire2711]

glad for ya

 

[Mildly]

Glad you and OH are getting on better

 

[Tina & Gabs]

Glad things are back on track hun; relationships are very hard

 

[Tasha20]

Thanks everyone.

It is hard, but I think we will get through all this

 

[trixipaws]

oh babe i'm sorry i missed this. i hope all is well now?

me and my bf have said terrible things we didnt mean (well i didnt and hope he didnt!) when stressed. iv said to him twice this year that i dont want to be with him anymore. and at the time i was so incensed i meant it. its VERYYYYYYYYYY hard sometimes im sorry i dont kno what else to say hope ur ok

 

[Tasha20]

Thanks hun

Yeah we are fine now, its just my hormal self I need to tackle next

We will get through it, im sure

 

[trixipaws]

oh, yay! glad to hear u sound more positive

i think getting thru rough patches shows a strong loving relationship, after all if u dont care for someone why would u bother arguing or getting upset over things, you'd just ignore things or bugger off wouldnt you!

i have less wisdom on hormone tackling been a slave to them myself this week!

 

[Tasha20]

Thanks Trix.

Its what we both said, and his mom said to him also.

We do love each other very much, I want to be with him for the rest of my life.

Aww hun I can imagine with the hormones, I remember what I was like, keep your chin up though, your stronger than you think