I think my relationship might be over

[wannabmamma]

OH and I had a talk last night and he has decided he wants to wait untill were married to have kids and he doesnt think that will be untill he is in his 30s, hes 21 now and im 23. His whole view on children has changed, we dont seem to agree on how to raise our children and he pretty much said that he will set all the rules in the house and all that. I just feel like we want different things now and i actually i dont think i like the look of how our relationship will be. I love him i really do but i just feel stuck, we have been together 4 years now and he wont even talk about getting engaged and i just feel like screaming!!! i think the age difference is setting in now even tho i know its not much but i dunno what to do. he is going away for 8 weeks with his college friends and i was dreading it but now it doesnt seem so bad. I think a break might do us good and maybe this summer will give us a chance to decide what we really want.

 

[DaisyPurple]

how do you feel? x

 

[wannabmamma]

im so upset and confused!! i want kids now but im willing to wait 3 years if that would help but he wont comprmise

 

[kellylou]

i think the break will do you good if he is unsure then there is no point forcing it, my hubby was the same we were 25 when we had this chat and are 30 this year and we have just had a baby.

I was more emotional and wanted a baby and just didnt care about other things where as my oh thought with his head only and would not commit until he was ready financially and emotionally it was hard but we got there in the end xx

 

[DaisyPurple]

its not my place to comment on your relationship hun, but sometimes when you want to be a mum its such a strong feeling that sometimes the urge can obscure our judgement on prospective partners, on the other hand, your boyfriend is at 21 possibly just not ready to settle down and have kids yet, its a life changing decision and one that ideally both partners have decided on together, you will need a lot of support when a baby comes along and a resentful partner is going to be no use to you, compromise is the only option, while you wait for him to catch up with your maturity level, dont forget that boys are allegedly 2 years behind us girls emotionally that still makes him 19 xx