I shouldn't be doing this.

[PrettyFx]

ok so I told myself that blogging about this was the last thing I would do, because it just gets my hopes us. In fact I told myself I wouldn't think about it, and I've failed that succesfully so I may aswell blogg to other TTC women. Me and my darling husband (DH) have been TTC for well I'd say that this is the first month that we have looked out for ovulation and taken health advice etc. My boobs are sore (I'm due for AF on the 25th) and I cant remember them being sore this far in advance. I have random twinges in my stomach, but i fear I may be looking too much into everything, I read somewhere else that another blogger has had stomach pains like she has been doing sit ups... I have that too, but below my ribs and around the top area of my stomach? so maybe thats not anything to get "excited" about so to speak. Well I just wanted to talk to people that are doing the same critical analysis to themselves as we speak. I'm telling myself that if im not pregnant this month, theres always next month and the month after... but hmm I dont know really how long I can do this, it drives me nuts. But God Willing I am praying for a BFP (Big fat positive) at the end of the month...who isnt!

 

[Kezzamunster]

Hey prettyfx

Sounds like my symptoms

Do you know how long your cycles are & when your normally ovulate?

I've been using ovulation prediction kits & they pick up the hormone surge that let's you know in the next couple of days you will ovulate, I got my surge on Monday & had extremely bad ovulation pains on Tuesday, felt like my right ovary was going to burst out my tummy alien style & my boobs are unbelievable sore as well

As long as you've had sex majority of your fertile days then there is a good chance of getting your BFP

Remember that although the egg doesn't live too long, the sperm can

So think your in your official 2 week wait now

Hope this has helped a little & keep us posted with any symptoms you've got

xxx

 

[littlemiss83]

Hi PrettyF

I have strange stomach pains. Like sit ups, they are at the bottom of my stomach, but sometimes I can feel them in the middle of my stomach, and stabbing pains all over. I'm going through the same as you, I have symptoms but haven't missed a period. I am due my totm tomorrow but have recently stopped taking the pill and was on anti-biotics, so i'm not sure if my symptoms are jst my body playing up.

When I had my first child, I had symptoms straight away, and even took a test that was negative coz I was convinced I was pg. When the dates were worked out, I knew from 1/2 days after conception, which is wierd, but our bodies work in mysterious ways.

Good luck

 

[Drummers_wife]

hey luvie,
it was my 1st month ttc last month and i was the same symptom spotting but still had AF bang on schedule!! was totally gutted! but i know how unlikely it is for your 1st month!!

i dont wana be a dampener- just dont try to be too disappointed if it turns out to be nothin
really hoping you get your BFP for xmas when are you testing??

Im due to ovulate on boxing day so AF due 9th Jan not testing til after AF cos i POAS 3 times last month for nothing so its far too expensive before AF is due x

 

[PrettyFx]

Hey Girls...

Thanks for all the instant support, it feels good to be able to talk to someone about this who isnt the husband, who by the way is oh so calm about this. Typcial Man. its women that have to go through all of this, and the most they can do is say "it will happen when it happens". I took two OV tests last week and they both came up positive so we were making love around those days and for the whole week, as according to my calander I was ovulating later than what the test said. So we had to do it all week, great for him, not so great for me lol.

Littlemiss83 i really hope that you get the answer you want i know how hard it is to assess every little symptom.

miss_wigglez: i know i guess if im not pregnant then we just keep trying, its so hard though when my sis in law gets pregnant first time trying! goodness and the fact that she cant stop gloating about how "fantastic her fertility is" just makes it a whole lot worse because you question whether you are fertile or not! urrrgh

Kezzamunster: I hope your pregnant! the waiting game is awful! but hopefully you will get the BFP you want!

I'm due on Sat 25th, but with FR you can test 4 days before ur due? so I guess the 21st will be the day I test... or maybe later!?


babydust to everyone xxxxx

 

[littlemiss83]

I got FR today - BOGOF in Boots btw. And you can test from 6 days before totm is due. But its less accurate the further away you do it.

I've never had to go through having symptoms before (apart from my first pg) i've taken tests but normally because totm is late. For me, having majority of symptoms at the same time is strange thats why I'm jumping the gun and testing on day totm is due rather than waiting til its late.

 

[Drummers_wife]

hey, dont listern to your sister in law- everyone is different! it will happen when it is all right i suppose!!
i hate people who say things like that- why try and upset someone just be happy for them and try to support them - if nothing good to say then dont say anything!!

im hoping to get my BFP soon and im really hoping all of us do cos we all clearly want it soooooooo much x and our precious little babies will be so loved it will make all this worrying worth it xxx

 

[PrettyFx]

littlemiss83 i think your doing the right thing by waiting, but it doesnt make it any easier. I have a strong feeling that your probably pregnant considering the fact that your having the symptoms all at once. But just be prepared, Im trying to convince myself that its all in my head, which it probably is. ahh I guess we will just have to wait and see.

Miss_Wigglez, i agree, our babies will be very loved, i pray that we all get the BFP we want and SOON! little miss 83...keep me updated, when are you testing ? xxx

 

[littlemiss83]

Hiya

Just to let you know, took both my tests this morning and both were negative. I'm more shocked than I would've been if it was positive. Coz i'd totally convinced myself that I am. I still feel as if I am, i'm defo not imagining whats going on. I bought a cheap pack of 3 tests today, no plans to take them, dunno when I will, just wanted to get them in before xmas.

If I still have these symptoms by say next week, i'll be booking myself a docs apt to figure out what the heck is wrong with me! I'm starting to get a bit worried. I had breast cancer when I was 17 and i freak out at the slightest thing wrong with me.

Hope all is well with you!

 

[Olive]

Hi Prettyfx. Just wanted to say hello and wish you luck. I lurked on this forum for quite a while before posting, but it's great to vent to other ttcers and everyone is so supportive. Hope you get your bfp soon.

Wishing everyone else bfp's as well. Littlemiss - sorry to hear about your past. Hope everything is ok. Sure it will be hun.

xxxx

 

[PrettyFx]

littlemiss83 im so sorry to hear about your breast cancer, but im sure its nothing to do with that, you should probably book a doctors appt because you COULD be pregnant. I did something silly today... I did a test, obviously it came back negative, but i was reading so many stores about girls who did tests a few days after ovulation and they came positive. I have a strong feeling im not pregnant now, and im pretty gutted. I dont quite know how to feel, of course I feel disappointed, you must be feeling the same. I guess the symptoms are all of AF which is due next week at some point, or maybe i was wrong about when i was ovulating, and maybe im ovulating now? I don't know. Im just gutted now. I'm so worried that i will never get pregnant, thats in the back of my mind. I really wish i had the guts to go to the doctor and ask for a fertility check up or whatever they call it. I dont know why we do this to ourselves, when people get pregnant every day after one night stands or random sex. urghhhhhhhhhhhhhh SO ANNOYED!

xx

 

[littlemiss83]

Reading through this forum has got me thinking exactly what you said. There are so many people out there, desperate to have kids and cant have any, yet people having abortions and un-wanted children all the time, life really is just so unfair.

How long have you been trying for?

 

[PrettyFx]

I know i completely agree, every time i read about an abortion i actually well up, because its horrible that so many of us want babies and many more women dont! goodness.

Well heres the thing, We have been trying well just this month, however we never had protected sex and have been married (and consumating) for almost 3 months now. Im not desperatly worried about the proir 3 months as we didnt always necessaily do it around ovulation or in particular ways.. but i DO worry that i hadnt got pregnant in those few months... urgh. What about you? how long have you been trying? and when is AF due?

xxx

 

[littlemiss83]

I was chatting to one of my friends today and I told her of my issues. She commented on how she doesn't think she'll ever get pregnant, because she's never been pregnant and often has un-protected sex with her partner. But I told her that it really needs to be certain times of the month ect...she was shocked, she didn't know. So I suppose in that sense, maybe its a case of doing the deed at exactly the right time. What about these tests you get that tell you when your most fertile..have you tried them?

Since my daughter (whos 6) started school last year, i've been soo broody coz i feel like i've lost my baby. lool Me and the OH discussed having another, and decided we wanted to but there always seemed to be some reason for waiting...house/money ect. Then a cpl of weeks after, I went on anti-biotics and u need to use extra protection, so I discussed this with OH when the whole baby stuff was mentioned again. We agreed to stop using protection while on the tabs, and re-asses the situation after. If its meant to be it'll be, if not then it wont.

 

[PrettyFx]

I used them yes, but it was all very strange, I got a positive line two days in a row, but according to my "chart" i didnt ovulate untill 6 days later, we tried to have sex as much as we could that week... (sorry tmi), i did feel pretty confident about being pregnant this month, but now... i have a strong feeling that its ALL in my head.

Honestly hun, I think you will get pregnant..! Especially since you know you can have children as you have already had one before.. congrats for the little one starting school by the way, I bet that time flew by ever so quickly!

x

 

[littlemiss83]

Its all so exciting, thinking you might be pregnant, becoming pregnant and having a baby, but, it is really amazing how quickly they get bigger, I know you probably hear loads of people saying that, and you wont understand til you have your own, but it kinda leaves a gap coz you've nurtured a baby/toddler for so long, theres an urge to hold a baby again..lool

Thats annoying about the fertility thing. You'd think it would be accurate to the day. I'd definately say you need more time to try, and after all, this is the first month of you taking notice of ovulation ect. One of my closest friends went through IVF for years, and if I remember right she said that you need to "try" for a baby for a year, before they do it, i'm not sure how it works now, but apparently you dont know for sure if you have any fertility probs untill you've been trying frequently/unprotected for 12 months. I'm not sure how true that is.