I really don't know what I'm doing!

[TiffanyJaynexo]

Advice much appreciated ladies.
This is my first pregnancy and I feel like a total idiot.
My first midwife appointment isn't until next Tuesday, and I really wish it would come sooner.

I know I should start eating healthy now but I don't know what to do.

All I've had the past two nights is cheeseburger and chips at my boyfriends house.
I slept in very late today so all I had to eat was that burger and chips, which made me feel sick afterwards. I'll get some cereal later too. I just really want to take care of my little bean. I've stopped taking the agnus castus as that isn't recommended for pregnant women, but I've also stopped taking my multivitamins too, shall I continue taking them or wait until my midwife appointment?

I really just want to sleep all weekend so that my appointment gets here quickly.
I want to go back to bed now too because I am so tired.
This isn't a healthy lifestyle for my baby though.

What do I do?
I feel so lost. I thought TTC was hard.. This is so difficult because It's all down to me. My bean is relying on me.

xxx

 

[mum2b410]

Hi!
It's my first too hun- and it's scary I know, but don't put too much pressure on yourself to be perfect and do everything textbook!
I am 11+2 and I remember feeling really tired and sick initially. I used to be at the gym 3 times a week but I just had no energy at all and I only ate whatever I fancied- which wasn't always particularly healthy. Sometimes I just felt so wiped out that I didn't have the energy to 'be healthy' by getting exercise and eating the right things. Now that the sickness has settled a bit more and although I am tired a lot it isn't as bad, I feel I am more able to think consciously about what I can realistically do in terms of exercise and what I eat.

I think as long as you are taking your folic acid, trying to drink plenty, eat what you can and rest you can't ask anymore of yourself. I've discovered it's a really, really hard time to go through but it will get better hun and when you've seen your midwife you can ask loads of questions and put your mind at ease. Listen to your body and it will tell you what you need. You are not an idiot hun, just the same as the rest of us trying to work our way through this exciting but challenging time.

Hope you feel better soon and if you have any specific questions just ask- the girls on here are always really helpful and share their experience xxxx

 

[TiffanyJaynexo]

Thank you hun, that is such a relief to here.
I've tried to keep myself awake, not feeling as tired now!
Going to sleep soon and get up fairly early, then off to my parents house I think.

I think I was feeling a bit down earlier because I was dehydrated. I was craving a big cold glass of water and once I had one, I felt much better.
I won't take any vitamins or anything until I see my midwife

Thank you so much! & good luck to you for the rest of your pregnancy. It's quite a rollercoaster isn't it. xxx

 

[Princess81]

I would carry on with multi vits, can you get pregnacare or something? All I would do is relax, eat as healthily as you can ie fresh fruit and veg and drink plenty too. Get rest when you need it xx

 

[TiffanyJaynexo]

Well I have a choice..
I actually have pregnacare here, I bought them whilst TTC.
But I also have a bottle of multivitamins that I have been taking every day.
Shall I go with the pregnacare? xxx

 

[Princess81]

I would go with pregnacare as it's more focused on your needs as a pregnant woman and helps with supplying the baby with what it needs for brain/spinal development xx

 

[TiffanyJaynexo]

Okay hun, I'll go and take one now.
Thank you!! xxx

 

[Princess81]

no problem x

 

[TiffanyJaynexo]

Scratch that, I'll take one later today after a meal.
My stomach's quite empty at the moment! xxx

 

[mum2b410]

Thank you hun, that is such a relief to here.
I've tried to keep myself awake, not feeling as tired now!
Going to sleep soon and get up fairly early, then off to my parents house I think.

I think I was feeling a bit down earlier because I was dehydrated. I was craving a big cold glass of water and once I had one, I felt much better.
I won't take any vitamins or anything until I see my midwife

Thank you so much! & good luck to you for the rest of your pregnancy. It's quite a rollercoaster isn't it. xxx

Certainly is!!......Mmmmmmm....a big cold glass of water, that sounds lush! I am craving ice cold drinks at the mo! lol!

Yeh, I think once you have seen the midwife you'll get loads of info on what to eat/not to eat and drink, exercise, rest, etc and you'll feel much more in the know...I know I did! Hopefully the appointment will be here before you know it! xxx

 

[jomc]

Midwife told me the other day to steer clear of normal multi vitamins as they contain Vitamin A which is not good in full doses when pregnant!
I take Pregnacare with the added Omega 3. So maybe take something like that, or Sanatogen also do a range

 

[TiffanyJaynexo]

Thank you!
Going to have a meal soon and will take pregnacare tablet then.

Bit worried today though as all I have done is sleep and this meal will be my first meal of the day :/
Apart from a big bowl of crunchy nut at 3am.
xxx

 

[jomc]

I'm the same... could sleep on pins at the moment!. House is starting to look a bit of a state but managed to get a bit of polishing and tidying done but not attempting the hoovering

 

[TiffanyJaynexo]

Ahah Awwww.
I still feel tired!! Went to bed around 3.30am and woke up 6pm.
Going to try and get up early tomorrow, thinking of going to church and possibly my parents house later on, I can imagine I will be falling asleep everywhere though xxx

 

[meggymum]

steer clear of normal multi vitamins as they contain Vitamin A which is not good in full doses when pregnant!
I take Pregnacare with the added Omega 3. So maybe take something like that

Couldn't agree more with this. xx

 

[knopk@]

Just take folic acid or pregnacare, not normal multi vit. I felt sick and couldnt take pregnacare so just took folic acid. Take it easy and best of luck!

 

[TiffanyJaynexo]

Thanks hun.
Taking my pregnacare at the moment, will mention it to midwife anyway.
xxx