I am actually a shit mum :(

[LaurenMM]

You've probably seen in my previous threads that I'm having a nightmare with Angels naps at the moment. It's taking a minimum of about 30-40 mins just to get her down. I've tried putting her down 1.5-2 hours after her previous nap, changing her nappy, fed her, cuddled her, swaddled her etc etc and nothing seems to be working. It's my birthday tomorrow and we're having some friends round and I'm trying to get the house tidy, I had the vacuum lying round, about 50 piles of washing, the dog kept opening the door and escaping, I had cleaning products all over the bathroom; just a state of chaos basically. I was literally in tears with frustration. Angel just was not cooperating at all and I, god I'm actually ashamed to admit this, I told her to shut up I didn't like scream it but I definitely snapped at her and it made her cry I can't believe I did it I felt so horrible afterwards I was just sat on the stairs crying I felt so ashamed of myself I felt like I couldn't even breathe. What's worse is that I know a lot of mummys are going through ten times worse than this and they don't do that I'm such a shit mum. I told my OH I don't want my party tomorrow or anything I don't deserve it. Angel was ok with me after like still smiling etc but I can't forgive myself for that I don't know why I'm posting this exactly I just needed to get it out so please can I just ask that no-one have a go at me for this because I honestly couldn't feel any worse than I do at the minute

 

[Lilelephant]

Babe don't beat yourself up about it we all do stuff like that from time to time
U are a great mum and ofcourse u deserve ur party!

 

[wifeywifey]

Aw hun we all lose our tempers and snap at times it doesnt make you a bad mum. Have your party think you need cheering up x

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[leannesxb]

Hun I have done the same when AJ was screaming and I had so much to do. Its my birthday sat and I am so ashamed of the state of the house I am going to my mums so people can see me there. It doesn't make you a bad person we all have limits and you reached yours. No-one is perfect and it probably won't be the last time in Angels life that you snap at her hun. xxxxxxxx

 

[TORino]

Oh blimey, I must be a really shit mum then.

I tell Tilly to shut up most days

I've even shouted at her in my dark days as well. And I dont feel all that bad about it either

we've all done it Hun. She won't remember. Don't beat yourself up about it.

 

[BabyBrain]

Hun don't compare what you go through to other people and think it's not as bad . No matter how bad things seem for others when things go wrong for us and our babies it's just as important because it's happening in our own lives even if it sounds trivial. Every problem is a problem no matter how big or small.

And please don't feel bad for telling her to shut up, I've done it and most people do it.....and it will not be the last time! We are only human, we might act like super heroes with all the things we do and go through but we are all just doing our best. You are not a shit mum, none of us are.....we are just mums! xxxxxxxxx

 

[LaurenMM]

I appreciate all your support girls I really do. TORino that's the weird thing, when you tell me that I think oh hun I know what you mean we all have limits like leanne said and it just happens and it doesn't make you a bad mum... but when I do it I feel like the worst mother in the world. I just think she's only a baby how could I have done that xx

 

[tinks77]

Don't feel bad, well all have our moments! I've told Grace to shut up as well sometimes she's just yelling so much I can't hear myself think. You had a stressful moment and that's all it was x

 

[Mrs N]

Harrison gets told he is a misog about 20 times a day!! Think we are all guilty of loosing our tempers some times, shows your a good mum that you care about it!! Enjoy your birthday!!
xxx

 

[VikkiR]

As new mums we all know you were frustrated at the situation, not your lo, chin up xx

 

[katie_lou]

Hun your an amazing mum xxxx

 

[pinkyprincess]

Please don't say you are a shit mum. My OH covered my newborn babies mouth when he was crying once, I don't think worse of him, people sometimes crack, as long as its not harming baby it's ok. If you need to go out the room, shut the door and breathe! Or come on here and have a moan.

 

[LaurenMM]

Thanks guys it means a lot, thanks to you all I do feel a bit better knowing we've all done it. I don't like the fact I did it and I do feel terrible but I know I'm not alone at least. I was just stressed at the situation and even though it was a snap I know I'd never ever harm her, I think I'll be treating her like a proper princess after this I've never done it before and I think I probably would've been ok if she hadn't of started crying, that's what is killing me knowing I made her cry. Granted she didn't cry for long and as soon as I did it I picked her and cuddled her and she immediately stopped so hopefully she still loves me a bit xx

 

[prettypenguin]

Oh hun I have told Charlie to shut up loads! Were only human atvthe end of the day don't beat yourself up about it x

 

[littlemiss83]

Aw lauren, I swear, I have done the same thing to both LO's it makes you feel so so terrible after doesn't it. Sometimes Kayden doesn't take his naps well, sometimes its days on end. I rely on his naps to do housework & look after other LO, so when he doesn't nap right, i'm all over the place, washings everywhere, cleaning stuff everywhere, basically loads of stuff half done. I know how frustrating it is. It will pass, its only temporary. I found it best to tackle one thing at a time. Even do a quick list...what is the top priority, tackle that, even if it takes days.

xxxxxxx

 

[l_maclean]

I've done the same, and so has my OH (granted I got really annoyed with him) but sometimes you just need to let it out. The good thing is they have no idea, and certainly won't remember it. Xxx