I am a newbie and need some advice :)

[Emma Louise]

Hi I am new to this site and need some advice.

I am 18+5 days pregnant with my second child, we do not know what we are having yet. I have a daughter who will be 6 in March she is really looking forward to being a big sister but sometimes gets jealous of me and my partner as it isn't her real father and she knows that Mummy and Mark will be looking after baby alot when it is born.
We try and include her in everything we do but sometimes I feel guilty as for 3 years it was only me and her. I do not want her to feel jealous towards us or this baby so would like to nip it in the bud but how?? Any ideas please? Thank you Emma

 

[MrsR]

Hi! Welcome. I brought my DD up on my own for 3 years but I was very very lucky as she is very maternal and loves babies so when we told her about tge baby she was very excited. We make sure we involve her with baby things such as asking her to help choose clothes, fetch wipes, nappies etc also we let her hold him (with us sat next to her and supporting her arms with ours) as much as she wants to. We also try our best to have 1-1 time with her where we do something productive like baking or making stories (we made a book about baby's arrival). She also likes to read to him and sings songs with us. I think it's just trying to involve them as much as possible as well as finding time with just her. I'm lucky as DD regards my OH as her dad and loves doing things with him as well as me, so he does things like takes her sledging and for bike rides and I do baking and pictures with her. We also bought DD a present 'from baby' and whilst I was pregnant she enjoyed talking to and touching my bump, especially when he was kicking. Maybe you could take her to your 20 week scan?

Good luck x

 

[cherrybinky]

Its very hard I can imagine. Im with someone who has 2 little ones already to his ex. His ex then went on to have 2 more babies with her new partner and I sometimes feel that the eldest gets his nose pushed out at their house with 3 little sisters there. He is very attention seeking and gets upset and whines a lot. I try my best being step mum when theyre here and do things with them and give them cuddles but over at their Mums its a whole different story I guess. I would say involve her as much as you can with baby, get her helping out where she can with little things and make sure you have moments with her on her own when baby is sleeping etc so she doesnt feel left out. Im sure things will be ok fx x

 

[Wobbles]

I have no advice sorry but I have moved this to the baby and toddler where more members who could offer advice may see it x