How was your system after a loss as we are ttc.

[Maka]

Hi ladies,

Just wondering how your cycles were affected after a late loss?

I'm so confused with mine. I lost my lo at 21 weeks, it really broke me to say the least but mine and Dhs way of coping with it was to start ttc again as soon as possible. It's been about 3 weeks since I lost her. I've already started work back as I'm trying to get back to my normal routine and of course if I stay home I get sad and depressed so I've been keeping my mind busy.

Anyway about 5 days after delivering her i thought that i was going to stop bleeding as it was like light brown spotting and I felt really good and fine down below so we dtd. Of course I began to bleed again on and off and we have also dtd several other times. When I was pregnant I had lost my mojo and never wanted to mess around and it was like it came back full force and I've been wanting it a lot more not just because we wanted ttc. Anyway like I said I'm in week 3 and about yesterday my bleeding had really almost come to hault but it's like little spotting here and there some brown and some still little pink only when I wipe. I've also had a few small cramps here and there usually just to one side. And the past 2 days I've had diahrrea and heart burn which I had these both a lot in pregnancy.

My ovulation strips came in on Saturday and I've tested everyday since and has been negative. I tested a pregnancy test week after losing her and it too was a negative so I know my hormones have gone down to be negative test. Does any of this sound familiar you to ladies? I was kind of hoping to catch the egg first thing Ive I read a lot that you are most fertile after a loss or delivery. Do you think I might have already ovulated or you think it's still too early?

I'm really confused about my system at the moment as this whole bleeding and spotting is crazy. I usually get Af for about 5 days and only 2 of those days are heavy so 3 weeks of bleeding and spotting has really got my head spinning.

 

[snowbee]

Hiya, sorry to hear about your loss. Ours was earlier than yours, my period didn't return and I needed a bleed inducing. Since then I've had two natural cycles that were 38 and 36 days, now on my third natural cycle and hoping it will be shorter again. I had lots of people say about being extra fertile afterwards but noone can show me any evidence of this and I know as many people that is hasn't been the case for as it has so no idea where that thought comes from.

Sorry I'm no help at all, you could have already ovd or you may not for a while yet. I would keep testing and see what happens. Good luck!

 

[Nemmaj]

Hiya Maka.let me begin by saying a am so very sorry for your loss. I lost a son at 24wks in 2006. I then went on to have a healthy bubba boy in 2008 all together that was 17months later so I basically got pregnant 8/9 months after our loss as my son was prem.
I remember that all I wanted to do was get pregnancy strait away and all I would see was pregnant women everywhere...in the end my consultant told me to wait 6months...and I had bereavement counselling too!
Have they said why you miscarried? Will you be offered anything when you get pregnant again...?
I think I bled for a while and my boobs were a killer! Even writing this to you,is taking me back to that awful dark place,,,,I feel for you....if you decide to go for it strait away....be strong,be realistic but most importantly give yourself time to process and grieve.
Good luck.