How to remain positive?

[MillyMeow]

Hi,

I am new to this forum but have been TTC for the last 14 months. Me and my OH are both in our early 30's and I feel like my biological clock is ticking louder than ever.

We have both seen our doctor and although I thought she would fob us off, she has been surprisingly supportive. Last month we also purchased a CB ferility monitor (we had heard great things about it!) but after so much hype I am very disappointed that it hasn't worked for us this month although I realise that it is only the first month.

How does anyone remain positive when it feels like everyone around you is annoucing their pregnancies (some their second) when we would just be happy with one. At risk of sounding childish I feel really upset when I hear "it was so easy for us to conceive - we caught straight away". I want to be happy for them(especially for those closest to me) but I can't help feeling very envious and even more upset that it isn't us.

Any tips gratefully received.

MillyMeow

 

[Young Mum 21 x]

i understand ur disapointment and frustration!
when your TTC everyone seems to be getting pregnant..
it will happen. and ive got my fingers crossed for you
try and stay positive!! x x

 

[Esperanza84]

I know how you're feeling! I've been trying for 12 months without ever getting a bfp. But I try to think that some day, the time will come for me as well and Im sure your time will come as well.

I try to keep busy, to do a lot of stuff, and if I a bit down, I do some excercise! That helps!

I dont know if this was a good answer, but I can say that I definently understand how you feel and that you just have to try to hang in there! Your time will come hun! Im sure of it!



xx

 

[Olive]

Hi Milly,

I think that most of us know where you're coming from. I tend to have up days and down days. Days of feeling quite hopeful and days where hope is completely dashed and I feel so low. I think we're all the same. It can be really all consuming.

I hope you're ok. The PF is great for chatting when you're feeling good or bad and venting your frustrations. Everyone can relate.

Big hugs

xxxx

 

[LouiseB]

I think you are echoing the feelings of the vast majority of ladies in ttc, whether they admit to it or not

Especially when you feel under pressure and are trying new ways to help things along and it STILL isn't happening.

How to remain postive?

I'm not sure you can really.

Some people seem to start to reflect on their situation better, "things will turn out how they are meant to" and all that bollox but i think that if you want something so badly and are trying so hard and it still isn't happening when it happens for others... i think it's hard to see a silver lining.

The only time i feel remotely positive is when i distract myself from what i want and think more about what i have, but i can only do that for so long lol

 

[jomc]

Ive got no idea! I take each day as it comes... I have lots of good days and lots of bad days. On my bad days I talk to DH and he tells me its perfectly normal to feek like sh#t, and for once he has the sensible head snd makes me see that its just a matter of time. Its not if I get pregnant but when I get pregnant.
And when that doesnt work I sit down with alot of junk food and watch may favourite dvd in my pj's

 

[jomc]

 

[kirlou]

I know the feeling after 17 months, I have to say it really helps me to come on here and vent or even just read through someone elses posts. Fx it happens for everyone soon!!

 

[MillyMeow]

Hi all,

Thanks for your replies and really good advice.

I guess what really does help is to know that you are not alone - there are other people in your situation. You can easily forget that when you are hearing constant quick and easy success stories!

Good luck to everyone and hope it all happens soon for you all!

MM

xxxx