This is the first time I have posted, but over the past 4 years I have found myself regularly on this website looking for answers and hope.
I suffered my first miscarriage over 3 years ago now and have a beautiful, healthy 22 month old boy. My husband and I decided to try for our second in March and got a BFP just over a week ago. I was so pleased. I think I was 6-7 weeks (long, stupid cycles!) It took over 2 years of TTC our son as I suffer from PCOS and ridiculous cycles. Unfortunately yesterday morning I started to spot with cramps. I already knew, call it women's intuition, but I knew this pregnancy would end in miscarriage. And yet here I am, barely able to function through the despair and wondering how much more I can take. I think the blind hope makes it worse, you tell yourself you know it's going wrong and yet you keep hoping. Even now as I bleed heavily, a small part of me thinks of all the posts I've read where women have passed clots and have gone on to have healthy babies. Who am I trying to kid eh?
I know it gets easier with time, I've been there already but right now, it feels like my life is falling apart at the seams. Made worse by the fact that I can't look after my own child due to bleeding, exhaustion, tears and guilt.
I know there are no answers to the questions that plague me (why me, what did I do, why again?) and I know it's not fair and I know there are others who have been through much worse but I suppose it's all so personal. I haven't spoke to a doctor yet, I guess I will phone tomorrow as I need to cancel my midwife appointment, not sure if I need to have a scan, it was awful last time as you are surrounded by happy pregnant ladies. If anyone has anything that helped them get through the emotional pain I would be so grateful to hear it.
I suffered my first miscarriage over 3 years ago now and have a beautiful, healthy 22 month old boy. My husband and I decided to try for our second in March and got a BFP just over a week ago. I was so pleased. I think I was 6-7 weeks (long, stupid cycles!) It took over 2 years of TTC our son as I suffer from PCOS and ridiculous cycles. Unfortunately yesterday morning I started to spot with cramps. I already knew, call it women's intuition, but I knew this pregnancy would end in miscarriage. And yet here I am, barely able to function through the despair and wondering how much more I can take. I think the blind hope makes it worse, you tell yourself you know it's going wrong and yet you keep hoping. Even now as I bleed heavily, a small part of me thinks of all the posts I've read where women have passed clots and have gone on to have healthy babies. Who am I trying to kid eh?
I know it gets easier with time, I've been there already but right now, it feels like my life is falling apart at the seams. Made worse by the fact that I can't look after my own child due to bleeding, exhaustion, tears and guilt.
I know there are no answers to the questions that plague me (why me, what did I do, why again?) and I know it's not fair and I know there are others who have been through much worse but I suppose it's all so personal. I haven't spoke to a doctor yet, I guess I will phone tomorrow as I need to cancel my midwife appointment, not sure if I need to have a scan, it was awful last time as you are surrounded by happy pregnant ladies. If anyone has anything that helped them get through the emotional pain I would be so grateful to hear it.