Hello !!!! Thomas will be 4 weeks old on Thursday and I am still finding it difficult to organise my day. He has no routine at all, eats whenever, sometimes I can spend 2 full hours feeding him/winding him/changing him so cannot do anything during the day. I try to get up for 8 am max, feed Thomas, then when he goes to sleep, I clean the kitchen, wash some clothes, have a shower and express some milk. then it is time for feeding again and from there I can hardly do anything because he is all over the place. Some days he will sleep and i can get on with things to do in the house, some days he is restless and I am spending all my afternoon trying to settle him down. I feel guilty too because I am so tired I am finding it difficult to get up during the night and in the morning. Thomas settles down to bed very late at night/early morning so sometimes have not many hours to sleep. I hardly have any chances to sleep during the day either. My partner keeps telling me I should be able to cope by now with the baby and the house duties so I feel a bit of a failure not to be able to cope, even when he helps me with the cleaning and the baby (which he does quite a lot), I cannot do what i have planned to do. I only managed to have a bath at 2.30 pm today because baby was restless, I could only have had it because my partner looked after him during this time!!!! I keep telling people not to visit sometimes or refuse them to hold Thomas if he has just gone to sleep because usually that means he has been a struggle to settle down before. People must think i am weird!!! I am due back to work end of March and am wondering how I am going to cope at all. Is it normal not to be organised at all at this stage or is it just me not being able to cope with the situation?