how do i help my partner?

[Anna23]

just before christmas my partner lost a child, she was still birth and his ex was 6 months gone aparently she had pre eclampsia, now how can i help him becasue he oviously isn't over the loss of his daughter? i'm not sure what to say half the time and am worried i'm saying the wrong things when we talk about his daughter oviously she is a part of him and is important and i respect that etc... i even talked him into going to her grave to lay flowers down for her which we feel helped a bit. Also i think this pregnancy is worrying him a bit and i'm worried if i am carrying a girl it may bring back memories for him of his daughter oh and the worst thing is i'm due 27th dec and he lost his daughter on the 19th dec, if i have a c section which should be a week before my due date it will be on the same day which worries me or around that time. I have 2 healthy children and had very good pregnancies so i know nouthing will happen to this baby and i'm not worried however i know he is worried and i'm not sure how to help him deal with his worries and greviance, mabe someone who has been through simalar could help? or anyone with advise would be greatfully taken
Thanks
Anna

 

[nicnic]

i went through i simialr thing where my partners ex had an abortion at 22 weeks behind his back then told him on fathers day what she had done, later that year i then suffered a mc and now im 8 weeks preg again,
he was devastated with what his ex did and all u can do is be there, nothing u say or do will change things or help just let him know u r there for him xxx