How Do I Get Over This?

[Becc]

I'm sorry you're getting yourself all upset over this chick,

I understand that he needs to let his hair down every once in a while and have a break from the baby... but where is your break? From what I can tell you don't get much of one and you really should try to make some time for you. Perhaps you should both go on nights out together or maybe even have a cosy night in when he can take care of Angel and you can pamper yourself... facial, nails, a nice bubble bath etc. It sounds like you really need some relaxation time to me... you're probably wearing yourself out, which could be why you're getting so tearful and you feel you're blowing things out of proportion.

I spose that the other way to deal with it would be to think of these times as yours and Angel's 'girly night in' and try to enjoy your chance to chill out and snuggle up with her. Maybe baby is getting upset because she can sense that you're feeling fed up?

Anyway, I hope some of this helps and that you start to feel better bout everything xx

 

[GBLiz]

I know how you feel!

My OH is the most likeable guy in the world, and everyone loves him. I get irritated with him sometimes at the gym where we work, because he's having a laugh with the members that come in. Its so stupid!! Its great that he is so friendly and makes a good atmosphere in the gym! But I dont have any friends here and nobody wants to have a laugh with me because im hardly 'the fun one' when im trying to care for a baby in the back office...and i dont really feel like having a laugh with them anyway!

Probably best if you tell you OH how you feel and tell him you know you're being stupid and that you're irritating yourself as much as you're irritating him! Then at least he'll know , that you know you're acting like an insane female!! It will help if you (and me!) have some time out of your own but i know that isnt easy as it sounds.......

 

[ella]

Im the very same so I dont have the answer, but my OH does drink and does come home about 3 am - but he doesnt go out a lot. We always fight when he does and he makes me feel like a horrible nag. I dont have real friends here either, and although we do go out together he always wants to come home early when he is out with me and stay out late when out with his mates.

I do find though if I force myself to say nothing that night when he comes in, I have calmed down by the morning and he is not drunk so if we do argue - he is not as wicked and does not call me horrible names. My problem is I cant sleep at all when he is out and I need my sleep at the moment so I think it is selfish of him to stay out so late - but he just says it is only once in a while and he is just hanging out with friends.