How Common is a "Missed / Silent Miscariage"?

[Julia]

Hi Girls,

Apologies for asking such a morbid question BUT I can't get it out of my head that when I go for my scan at 13 weeks, they are going to tell me that I lost the baby weeks ago. I suffered a miscarriage with my very first pregnancy and the symtoms were terrible pain and lots of bleeding that went on for days. With my second pregnancy I had a beautiful little girl.

My friend went through the devastating experience of a silent miscarriage and she said that she stopped feeling sick a couple of weeks before and her boobs stopped hurting (all her symptoms went but she did not expect the baby to have died).

Sorry to be depressing but I can't stop thinking about it...

Love Julia xxxxx

 

[lea m]

I have wondered the same tbh!
I had never heard of it until last month when one of my friends, and her sister both had missed miscarriages!
Im sure they are still pretty rare though! Try not to worry! I know thats hard as I worried like crazy for a few weeks!
Im sure everything will be fine for you!!

 

[Julia]

Thanks LeaM,

I think they are fairly uncommon so fingers crossed I will be okay. Once I get something into my head I can't shift it! I am 10 weeks pregnant so only have 3 weeks to wait! I have even wondered about buying a doppler but I am afraid this will make me worry more if I can't hear anything

Still feel sick, knackered and have sore boobs so symptoms are still with me..hopefully this means that bean is also still with me!!!

Thanks for your reply!!

Julia xxxx

 

[lea m]

Im sure he is!!
It is hard not to worry though isnt it?
I had a scan at 6 weeks and was so worried then!! Now Im worried again for my 12 week one in 5 weeks lol
Then I will worry about my 20 week one lol

 

[smile]

This worried me aswell the highest figure I could find was 1 in 100 pregnancies which is obviously low - but i could not find out if that was ALL pregnancies (including chemical pregnancies which miscarry before implantation) or only those that implanted if you see what I mean.

It is not rare but it is not common either - unfortunately early miscarriages (before 12 weeks) are common - about 1/4 but the important thing to remember is that the vast majority are absolutely fine the first 12 weeks are a nervous time, I found it useful to remember that what wil be will be - to be sensible and not to take risks but not to panic either, but everyone is different.xxx

 

[nori]

Sounds like we are having our scans around the same time. I was really worried at the start of my pregnancy as i have a few health issues myself. I had a scan at 8 weeks which reassured me for a week or so and now i am worried about my next . Its only natural but one ever happens happens.. nothing you can do about it so not worth worrying (she say!) lol

Claire x

 

[uncle_bens]

I'm scared to but I found this:

"About one percent of all pregnancies end in a missed miscarriage"

http://www.womens-health.co.uk/miscarriage/missed.html

 

[Becky]

I had a missed miscarriage and found out at my 12 week scan that baby had died at about 7 weeks.

I have to say that I had noticed for a couple of weeks that I hadn't been "feeling" pregnant - I wasn't feeling sick, no sore boobs and there was another niggle that I couldn't quite place. I remember saying to my husband on the way to the scan that I was hoping that the scan would help me connect a bit more with the pregnancy.

When I went in for the scan I would see that the midwife was taking time to find baby which I felt was wrong, she asked me if I was sure of my dates and I said yes. I knew then something was wrong and when she said they would like to do an internal it was certain in my mind.

In some ways it was a relief to me to know why I'd been feeling un-connected to my baby but I was gutted too.

This time, it is my big fear again and everytime my symptoms ease off for a while I panic a bit. But the thing is, there's nothing to be done about it. I can't change what's going to happen so I am trying my very best to enjoy what I have, while I have it, however long it may be.

All I can say is to try the same, you don't want to look back and realise you worried away your pregnancy. Not easy, but you have to try!

 

[Julia]

Thanks for your replies, girls.

You are right - what will be, will be.

It makes me feel really selfish moaning about my 12 week scan whilst there are so many unlucky women who are struggling to conceive and wonder from month to month if they have been lucky.

I don't know why I am worrying so much - I have absolutely no reason to worry. I think it goes through every pregnant woman's mind within the first 12 weeks.

It really does me good to air my worries and realise I am not the only one!

Thanks again for your sensible advice and also the web link!!

Julia xxxxxxx

 

[lea m]

Your not selfish to worry about your LO hun!!

 

[peanut1982]

Hi Julia,
You are certainly not being selfish, these niggles are in natural and in all our minds from time to time I'm sure. We have our 12 week scan tomorrow and although I'm excited all sorts of worries keep jumping into my mind, missed miscarriages being one of them particularly as I've been pretty much pregnancy symptom free. I'm sure all will be well but guess this is just the start of many years of worry for us mum's to be!
All the best and look forward to hearing all about your scan, I'm sure it will be here in no time!
Sarah x

 

[babydust]

this is something that i am really worried about as it seems to happen to me alot i have had 4 missed m/c now some of them i had no idea anything was wrong and the other half my symptoms seemed to get less, your right that what will be will be thats the way im trying to look at it, i wish i could be put to sleep for my scan as i really dont think i could go through it again. Its only natural to have these worries but im sure everything will be fine