hormonal feelings or true feelings?

[paul_notts]

ok il try to keep this as short as possible.
so my girlfriend 20yr old and is 25wks pregnant..
we was living together and so in love perfect relationship both so loving ect.
about one month ago we had a little arguement in which would normally be resolved and forgotten about the day after, this time she took it so serious packed her bags moved back to her mums told me she didnt love me or want to be with me said she needed space wanted to be away from me to sort her head as it was a total mess.
the first 2wks she hardly spoke to me at all no matter what i said i tried everything. these last 2wks shes been abit better shes said she loves me and wants me and weve met a couple of times in which she was kind of loving but nothing like she used to be. but when were apart (she at her mums me at home) shes so blunt with her txts and i feel so unloved and unwanted and it makes me doubt if she meant it when she said she does love me and she does want to be with me. i admit sometimes she is ok shell text pictures of our bump or pics of baby things shes bought but the mixed signals and everything just really messes with me head i try so hard to understand her hormones and emotions ect but when shes so blunt i cant help but feel so low. i love her with all i have and miss seeing our bump get bigger and touching n holding it please any advice would be greatful

 

[kat1988]

my advice would be to be there for her and if you still want to be with her make sure you let her know without adding too much pressure, it's likely all the emotions are baby related and I wouldnt be suprised if the bluntness and lack of coupleyness are because she feels vulnerable and it's a defence mechanism. I can't say for sure as I'm not her but I know my emotions are all over the place and I feel very vulnerable and even lonely even though I know my other half would do anything to help

hope that helps a little and it works out in the end xx

 

[paul_notts]

yh feeling alone and vunerable i thought myself but when i sometimes pretty much have to beg her to meet up i then doubt it... because surely if you felt lonely youd want to see your partner? i could be wrong but thats why i ask as women yourselves youd know more :S

 

[kat1988]

not necessarily, also if she does seem overly emotional (even for a pregnant woman!) have a think about the possibility of pregnancy depression. common symptoms include alot of things associated with pregnancy anyway like mood swings changes in appetite and sleep patterns but also importantly changed feelings of self worth, capability and changed views on relationships, that would not be an easy subject to approach but it's a possibility
xx

 

[Inga]

I have a friend who was pregnant and very unhappy with her babys dady. She was planning to move out, and all the little details about him sounded really bad. They are having a second baby now, they have been on holidays together, everything is fine. My guess is she is very strongwilled person, it's the pregnancy hormones.

Why don't you surprise her, take her to romantic weekend getaway. You will be seeing pregnancy hormones until baby is born, but beeing supportive and helpful is what you need to be.

 

[paul_notts]

thanks kat il look into that and i tell her everyday im here for u and bby no matter what and i tel her shes beautiful to which she always says shh i aint, she does hav days where she says shell just cry at anything but obv that is normal so i cant read into that. see part of me does believe she loves and wants me because she has met up wit me several times (and bby father or not if u didnt want or like someone u wouldnt meet up kiss cuddle when leaving ect) but then wen she is on "a bad day" my word she so makes me think shes not interested at all thankyou for both your advices though really i am

 

[Hunnie]

This is has been such a wake up call to me! I acted the same way as your GF is doing with my OH and I didn't realise the effect it must have had on him. I put mine down to hormones and a combination of depression. We are both ok now and back living together.

 

[Froslass]

I too felt like a i hated my OH during pregnancy. I felt confused, and alone. Especially as the pregnancy was a surprise. I love my OH so much, I feel awful for the way I treated him sometimes!

I would think its hormone related, hope things work out for you guys!