well im 18 and in college and planning to go to uni but a week ago i had unprotected sex wit i guy ive known 4 2 weeks bad i know and i think im pregnant and he thinks i am 2 and he said he will stick by me but im so worried coz im really not ready 4 a baby and if i was i couldnt have a abortion. Plus my family would go mad i really need sum1 to giv me advice. I have no 1 to speak to about this
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Hey hunni
The best thing you should do is get a pregnancy test and find out wots goin on
no point in worryin for nothing eh? lol
at least this guy says he will stick by you but obviously if you dont feel readi you will hav 2 talk about it
no matter what you decide we will b here for you to talk to
do you hav msn?
luv lou n keryn xxx
The best thing you should do is get a pregnancy test and find out wots goin on
no point in worryin for nothing eh? lol
at least this guy says he will stick by you but obviously if you dont feel readi you will hav 2 talk about it
no matter what you decide we will b here for you to talk to
do you hav msn?
luv lou n keryn xxx
hiya trish
firstly welcome to the forum
i must say i agree with louise - i think you should test first before you start worrying - you may not even be pregnant.
if the test is positive, its important you think carefully about what you need to do. If you honestly don't want to have a baby and can't face an abortion then the other alternative is adoption, but whatever you choose to do it must be your informed desision, no one elses.
i was in a similar-ish situation as you last year. i had been with my boyfriend for only 8 months at the time, and i got pregnant by accident - i was also 18 and hoping to go back to college.
i decided the best thing to do was to keep the baby - we both did want children, just not so soon as that. now i have finlay and he's 2 months old and my life isnt over by any means, i still will go back to study, yes it'll be harder but still manageable, and i dont regret our desision to contine the pregnancy.
my boyfriend has stuck by me, we're still happy, and i don't doubt that we'll be together for the for-see-able future so i guess i've been lucky. 2 weeks is such a short time to know someone - he says he'll stick around but you cant really say you know him well enough to be sure - don't let that sway you into keeping the baby. imagine you'll be bringing the child up on your own, and if he's still on the scene then it'll be a plus.
sorry to go on a bit, just to let you know theres people here to help and support you hun.
Izzyx
ps, i went to my local Brook clinic to discuss what to do with a counciller before we made our minds up - perhaps you could do that too
firstly welcome to the forum
i must say i agree with louise - i think you should test first before you start worrying - you may not even be pregnant.
if the test is positive, its important you think carefully about what you need to do. If you honestly don't want to have a baby and can't face an abortion then the other alternative is adoption, but whatever you choose to do it must be your informed desision, no one elses.
i was in a similar-ish situation as you last year. i had been with my boyfriend for only 8 months at the time, and i got pregnant by accident - i was also 18 and hoping to go back to college.
i decided the best thing to do was to keep the baby - we both did want children, just not so soon as that. now i have finlay and he's 2 months old and my life isnt over by any means, i still will go back to study, yes it'll be harder but still manageable, and i dont regret our desision to contine the pregnancy.
my boyfriend has stuck by me, we're still happy, and i don't doubt that we'll be together for the for-see-able future so i guess i've been lucky. 2 weeks is such a short time to know someone - he says he'll stick around but you cant really say you know him well enough to be sure - don't let that sway you into keeping the baby. imagine you'll be bringing the child up on your own, and if he's still on the scene then it'll be a plus.
sorry to go on a bit, just to let you know theres people here to help and support you hun.
Izzyx
ps, i went to my local Brook clinic to discuss what to do with a counciller before we made our minds up - perhaps you could do that too
If you only had unprotected sex a week ago then you won't know for a while whether you are pregnant or not as the tests won't pick it up. Why do you both think you are??? As an average, it is estimated thats it takes couples who are trying up to 5 months to fall pregnant although thats obviously not falliable as i found out with my first!
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Yeh how do you know if your pregnant are you showing any symptons?
w8 a few weeks and then check just so you know. and izzy is right if you r pregnant amd dont want the baby but dont want an abortion the only other option is adoption. But you need to think about wt you are going to do.
I was with my partner for 3 months hen i became pregnant (on the pill) and i was just 16 when i became pregnant a montha intp the pregnancy i turned 17 but i too was very scared as i thought wt if my partner leaves me luckily he has stuck by me and we are now engaged it was a very hard decision we thought about adoption. As we only found out i was pregnant at 5 months we never had the choice of abortion which even if we did we would never have thought about it but im glad we agreed to keep the baby and now we have a beautiful baby girl who is now 5 months old.
So just think about what you are oing all decisions are up 2 u and we will b here 4 u if u ever wana speak hunni
luv lou n keryn xxx
w8 a few weeks and then check just so you know. and izzy is right if you r pregnant amd dont want the baby but dont want an abortion the only other option is adoption. But you need to think about wt you are going to do.
I was with my partner for 3 months hen i became pregnant (on the pill) and i was just 16 when i became pregnant a montha intp the pregnancy i turned 17 but i too was very scared as i thought wt if my partner leaves me luckily he has stuck by me and we are now engaged it was a very hard decision we thought about adoption. As we only found out i was pregnant at 5 months we never had the choice of abortion which even if we did we would never have thought about it but im glad we agreed to keep the baby and now we have a beautiful baby girl who is now 5 months old.
So just think about what you are oing all decisions are up 2 u and we will b here 4 u if u ever wana speak hunni
luv lou n keryn xxx
