here we go again....

[Applecider]

Hey guys. Not too sure what I did wrong this month but AF is here .... on time.... but here.. I did everything I was supposed to, I did it every other day leading up to OV and did it on the day I had positive and the day after.

Whats the best way forward here?

I read a study that women who exercise have a much better chance of conceiving so I feel im going to do some Jogging this month and lots of walking. Im also going to take a realxing month, no thinking about how to sort my debt every ten seconds and might take a week or so off here to stop me thinking about it and looking at my ticker?

Im also gonna get a massage this month, I love them!! I was very stressed this month I suppose. So gutted. Been off pill 7 months now so was hoping that would have been outta my system. Any advice gratefully receieved xx

 

[Lander]

Just keep trying hun, I don't think you did anything wrong, it just hasn't happened yet.


Lxx

 

[vickib_1984]

All you can do is keep trying 90 percent of couple have to try on average of a year to fall babe xxx

 

[Applecider]

I know thanks girls.... just hopeful!! Im going to just relax I suppose see how that one works out!! xx

 

[Samsgirl]

nothing you did wrong chick or didnt do...just little swimmers swam right past the egg...he he....thats how i think of it when it doesnt happen. typical men, just too keen!! cant see something when its right in front of them xx

 

[faithangle]

Stay strong hun it will happen its just taking its time. Its not fault of yours sometimes their just a little shy. Good luck for next month fx x

 

[cosmicgirl]

I know how you feel, you think you've done everything right and then bam, the witch. Fx for your next cycle xx

 

[mustard]

Sorry the witch got you, very best of luck for this cycle.

 

[PotatoHead]

Sorry the witch got you.

Try to keep a PMA - I know it's easy to say and harder to do but negativity is bad!

Good luck and plenty of baby dust for next cycle x

 

[maybe baby]

Hi Hun,

Sorry she got you, in some ways I'm not the best person to give advice as I'm still here TTC 13 months later!

I understand how things can get stressful and it's annoying when everyone says chill it will happen.

I'm not too bad at getting preggers just not at staying preggers, I always try a new tactic each month, this month I've been eating a low carb diet and eating no sugar.

Last time I got preggers before this month I took Agnus Castus and had 2/3 Fruit and Vegetable smoothies a day.

I'm fancying trying something new next cycle assuming the witch shows up, I kind of wanna try AC again as I got a BFP but it did make my cycle longer, I've even thought about trying a progesterone pessarie, a bit of a controversial one but I don't care anymore.

I've been told by the fertility docs to cut out alcohol completely, but I'm not sure if I will totally (she says with a glass of red in hand lol), but I might.....

Have a good night.

xx

 

[Joey2011]

This is so hard as it's totally out of our control and if you're a control freak like me then it's a complete nightmare!!

I'm forcing myself to think differently this cycle, that it will happen when my body is happy for it to happen and until then I need to enjoy my life. It's hard not to obsess about it and blaming yourself for doing something wrong is only going to make you feel worse, you've done nothing wrong at all. I've been given some advice recently and it's that your body is a vessel for a baby so it will happen when your body wants it to and when it's right. I'm giving myself until September, not sure why! It's my birthday that month so I'm going to view September as my goal. If I'm not pregnant by then I'll think of a plan B and like some of the other girls on here, I'll try doing things differently.

Try giving yourself a longer term goal rather than willing it to happen each month, things may be easier for you then. I'm hoping it works for me as I turned into a complete fruit loop last cycle!

Good luck!

Xx

 

[Applecider]

Thanks guys im not alone here I know I just want it sooooooooooo much!

Maybe - Fruit smoothies here we come!! Im thinking maybe im a little underweight so I put some pounds on this month in the hope of making a bigger 'vessel' (Joey that made chuckle!) Maybe with everything I had on my plate this month I just wasnt ready. I hadnt been taking my vitamin or folic acid either so this month I shall be very good!!

Yes Joey im a massive control freak!!!!! Can you imagine? im totally out of control here!!

Lots of dust to you lovely ladies

xx

 

[Liv_luv_laff]

Hi - know the feeling!
You can sort of find it easier if you can find a reason why it's not worked this month like you didn't bd at exactly the right time, or your dates were slightly off, but when you've done everything by the book and still it doesn't work it is blinkin annoying!! I feel the same!!

I read somewhere though that if you do absolutely everything right though there is only a 1 in 4 chance that the it'll fertilize properly and implant properly and everything... I really think that when it's right it'll happen.

Keep going!

from a fellow control freak!!

 

[corky]

It's always awful when you've tried you're very best and you're unlucky hun, we all know how you feel. Having a healthy diet and exercise is supposed to be really helpful so go for it also i've heard bananas are good because they have a lot of potassium or something like that try not to be disheartened it will happen it has to xx