Hey
basically....
I am 7 weeks with my first and i have just split with the father as he is controlling. He constantly wants to know where i am who i'm with etc even though we have split.
he lives in a block of flats full of drugs (heroin, cannabis, cocaine) all of his friends come to him as he deals.
last week a filthy needle was found on the grass outside full of heroin and the police are always there.
I was living with him when i conceived in the 1 bed flat where his friends and customers were knocking on the door at all ours for drugs. the flat is also freezing as the seals have gone on the windows and he can't afford to keep the heating on.
I really dont want him at the scan or to have anything to do with my pregnancy. I know legally that i have the rights to do this and morally i know it is wrong.
I have told him that i wont stop him seeing the baby once it is here but i dont want to spend the upcoming months stressed as it is no good for me or the baby.
he is no demanding he comes which is causing arguments as i want my own father at the scan as i am only 18 and my mother who i was very close to passed away at the age of 48 not even 12 months ago. he is aware of this and finds it unreasonable.
I really dont want to but i have been told that i should get a solicitor ready for a custody battle when the baby is born but after self harming and suffering with depression in the past i am worried that i won't win and he will get custody.
Please help
basically....
I am 7 weeks with my first and i have just split with the father as he is controlling. He constantly wants to know where i am who i'm with etc even though we have split.
he lives in a block of flats full of drugs (heroin, cannabis, cocaine) all of his friends come to him as he deals.
last week a filthy needle was found on the grass outside full of heroin and the police are always there.
I was living with him when i conceived in the 1 bed flat where his friends and customers were knocking on the door at all ours for drugs. the flat is also freezing as the seals have gone on the windows and he can't afford to keep the heating on.
I really dont want him at the scan or to have anything to do with my pregnancy. I know legally that i have the rights to do this and morally i know it is wrong.
I have told him that i wont stop him seeing the baby once it is here but i dont want to spend the upcoming months stressed as it is no good for me or the baby.
he is no demanding he comes which is causing arguments as i want my own father at the scan as i am only 18 and my mother who i was very close to passed away at the age of 48 not even 12 months ago. he is aware of this and finds it unreasonable.
I really dont want to but i have been told that i should get a solicitor ready for a custody battle when the baby is born but after self harming and suffering with depression in the past i am worried that i won't win and he will get custody.
Please help