Heavy bleeding, no NHS help...

[elcwin]

Hi, I was wanting to see if anyone has been experiencing the same thing as me as I don't know if I'm being treated accordingly.

I'm 6 weeks and 1 day with my first pregnancy. I had a doctors appointment yesterday to make my booking with the midwife and get the antenatal care started.

Yesterday morning however I started bleeding quite heavily, deep red mostly, like my normal period would be, although with no visible clots. I went to the doctors that day and explained and she had the midwife at the EPU call me.

She just said oh well these things happen, sometimes they end before the get started properly, just take a pregnancy test in a weeks time and see if it's still there.

Genuinely the least helpful thing I have heard. I have no friends who have been pregnant so have no idea what's normal, have no knowledge of pregnancy things really, I'm on my own, I'm not registered with the midwife, I've not been offered any scan or check to see if the baby is still there. Feel like I'm losing my mind!! Don't really know what to do. Can anyone give me any advice?

L x

 

[serenitylove]

some proffesionals can be like this but genuinily there is nothing they can do but i think they should at least have offered you a scan if u can afford it u can have them done privatly for about 50quid best of luck to you xx

 

[karenandbump]

So sorry to hear about this - where I live they insist on a scan with heavy bleeding to check what is happending and to make sure the woman is ok but I know from being on here that it's different in different parts of the country. I'd phone a midwife attached to your doctoirs practice for advice.
Hope ur ok
Karen xxx

 

[beth1234]

I agree, the midwife might of seemed a bit bitchy with her comment, but there really is nothing she can say, and these things do genuinely happen, but she should have offered maybe a little more support, like a scan!
Id ring the EPU again and explain and demand a scan.
xx

 

[Mamafy]

Awww hun

I remember similar happening to me when I was 14 weeks pregnant with my son, blood was literally pouring from me and I couldn't walk and I got a very dismissive approach like yourself

 

[Rosie's Mummy]

I hope you get some more practical help

 

[elcwin]

Thank you for replying!! I hadn't thought about private scans before as I thought they would cost a fortune (I've not made mine yet) but I got straight in touch with a scan studio in Perth who are going to see me this afternoon!!! Early scans at this place only cost £25 and the woman on the phone was lovely. Terrified now that they aren't going to find a heartbeat, but I'm glad I don't have to wait another week to find out what's going on...
Thanks again for your help ladies

L x

 

[WILMAFLINSTONE]

Hi elcwin,

Im in exactly the same postition as you!

Been getting positives although mostly faint one since last thurs afternoon.
Had streak of pink blood last wed, some brown on thurs and then more pink red on Sat...I thought I was out and it was over! Then did another couple tests after day and got more faint positives.
Did another last night and got a considerably darker result so started believing it! Then last night I had another pink streak when wiping and lots mor this morning and was more red pink with a little bit of brown at first. Suggesting fresh blood!

So this morning was going to see nurse to confirm being pregnant and my test was negative not sureprised as I only showing up on samples taken later in the day!
So Just got home from seeing nurse....

She did test with my FMU and was neg....showed her the pics and explained that Im tending to get my positives when I test with samples later in the day and she said my pics showed positives although faint! Sending my sample off to labs but I really think I will still get a neg tho as it was FMU!
Told her about spotting Ive had on sat...and that it started again last night with a streak and again today it is worse although still not like a period for me as Im always mega heavy! She said that a lot of poeple do get bleeding thjis early and that is can be normal but that it can also be a loss. She said they wont scan me this early and if I am loosing then there is nothing they can do this early......said I basically have to go home and rest, try not to stress and forget about it for a few days and 'watch this space'......said they wouldnt do a blood test atm so I suppose Ive dont all I can and all I can now do is wait and see what happens.....Anyone know how to hypnotise me for the next few days??

God this is hard and I too kinda feel like a scan would have at least put my mind at rest but they wouldnt do that...its so hard when yes we know deep down theres nothing they can do but its not that easy for us going through it is it!

Good luck and I hope all is well with you...xxxxxx

 

[Anna86]

hey sorry to hear your going through this. professionals can be so cold hearted sometimes which is probably makes you feel even worse but they should have offered you a scan though especially as you have an epu near you. but at that early they may not be able to tell after 1 scan and unfortunately there isn't alot they can do. try asking them if you can get an early scan or go private for 1.

 

[Tonks]

The problem with an early scan is that you might not be able to see anything at all. At 6 weeks I was told there was no heartbeat and my pregnancy was ectopic. It's only when I was operated on that they realised my baby was in the right place. It's only from about 7 weeks that they can be accurate.

I'm sorry you're going through this hun

 

[WILMAFLINSTONE]

Hi Ladies....Ive been looking at this post and also never thought of private scan so just rang my local private hosptial and they ahve said what you have just said Tonks...that its too early to detect anything on a scan as althought were this far along...we also have to minus 2 weeks which the Drs add on so baby is only in my case 3+1 weeks and wouldnt show at all!

So just have to wait and see what happens both of us and pray its all going to be ok xxx

 

[PippaJ]

I agree it may have seemed a harsh comment but there is very little they can do. If you were further along I'm sure you would have been offered a scan, but 6 weeks is too early for anything to show so the only thing to do would be another pregnancy test in a few days.

Sorry too you're going through this xx

 

[serenitylove]

best of luck with your scan i hope i didnt sound callous in my earlier post just read it again and though it wasnt that supportive sorry xxx

 

[scaredmum2be]

When i was losing my other little angel they done a pregnancy test on me and they said to me even if i lost my baby it will still show im pregnant on a pregnancy test at 2 weeks, sorry to hear ur nor getting any help they seem very helpless an kinda rude xx

 

[Mamafy]

Best of luck with your scan hun

 

[elcwin]

Just back from my hosp...they couldn't find a heartbeat. That's what I get for having hope I suppose. He said it was a tricky one, but nothing from the ultrasound led him to believe it would have a good outcome. He was able to see a yolk sac but he said it looked collapsed. Still bleeding quite heavily and having abdominal pains similar to period cramps, although the ultrasound showed no bleeding coming directly out of my womb. He advised me to go to A&E, which I did. If anyone lives in Dundee may I suggest not using Ninewells for your antenatal care. They seemed suspicious that I was there at all, asking me several times "did he really tell you to come here?" and "was he a doctor?!" A&E sent me to the EPU where I was duly ignored for an hour when I gave up and came home.

So that's that.

Thank's for all your kind words and support.

L Xx

 

[serenitylove]

oh im so sorry it wasnt better news for you hun xxx

 

[Tonks]

I'm so sorry hun

Although if they couldn't see blood coming from the womb where did they suggest it was coming from? You can't always see a heartbeat before 7 weeks.

 

[WILMAFLINSTONE]

Ah Elcwin Im so sorry for your loss......xxxxxx

 

[Chrissie]

I just read this whole post, i'm so sorry hope you're okay. I think you definitely should have been treated better.