Having a wobble....

[Karate Kid]

Heya Ladies,

As the title says I am having a bit of a wobble today. C isn't a brilliant sleeper but the night feeds are definitely for comfort and I am just getting slightly down about how distracted C is getting during the day.

Not really sure what I would do though!!

Sorry this post doesn't really make much sense xx

 

[PeaPod]

I have no suggestions or advice as my little one is the same but wanted to send you a big hug and say hang on in there! Ive spent all day with F at a museum with his cousins amd he just wouldnt feed due to all the distractions. Ended up coming to bed early so i could try to get more into him but i know i'll still be up in a few hours. Im just waiting it out as feel that's all i can do.XxX

 

[KarenC]

Hugs, hun. You're doing amazingly well. I know how hard it can be to feed them when they are so distractable. Tilly is awful when we are out and about. I have to feed her in the car at best or she won't feed at all. I brought EBM in a bottle for when we went out to the zoo a couple of weeks ago and she was better because she could look around and feed at the same time. I don't really know what to suggest about the night feeds. How many times is he up and does he need a feed every time? Tilly went through a phase of waking for milk/comfort sucking just once a night from about 4 months until recently. I would suggest that you try riding it out for a little longer. At around 9 months or just after, babies tend to adjust to a more adult daily rhythm and this often coincides with better sleep. Tilly is 9 months now and has just started to sleep through from 7pm-5.30am. The early morning is still a killer, but at least she doesn't normally wake in the night. Sorry, I'm rambling. Just wanted to offer support - no idea what to suggest, sorry xxx

 

[willowwisp]

Can you express? I wonder whether offering him expressed milk via a bottle in the night would help to wean him off waking. He'd still get any milk he needs, and a cuddle whilst having it, but he won't be able to comfort suck on you?

I find that if H wakes in the night he's very tired and grouchy during the day. You might find that if you can ease him out of the waking cycle that he's more alert during the day.

We've done everything at H's pace, but it got to the point where he'd got himself into a cycle he didn't know how to break with the sleeping, so we had to give him a gentle helping hand with sleep.

 

[Karate Kid]

Hugs, hun. You're doing amazingly well. I know how hard it can be to feed them when they are so distractable. Tilly is awful when we are out and about. I have to feed her in the car at best or she won't feed at all. I brought EBM in a bottle for when we went out to the zoo a couple of weeks ago and she was better because she could look around and feed at the same time. I don't really know what to suggest about the night feeds. How many times is he up and does he need a feed every time? Tilly went through a phase of waking for milk/comfort sucking just once a night from about 4 months until recently. I would suggest that you try riding it out for a little longer. At around 9 months or just after, babies tend to adjust to a more adult daily rhythm and this often coincides with better sleep. Tilly is 9 months now and has just started to sleep through from 7pm-5.30am. The early morning is still a killer, but at least she doesn't normally wake in the night. Sorry, I'm rambling. Just wanted to offer support - no idea what to suggest, sorry xxx

Thanks sweetie, it does feel like I may have to express to feed him if we are going out!

C is up a minimum of four times a night twice he will settle without boob and twice he needs a feed. It would help if it was down to waking two times a night.

I don't know if having little day time routine is hindering the night time. Xx

 

[KarenC]

Hmmmm. We never - and still don't really - had a good daytime routine. I've tried to leave it to Tilly to lead me, but I feel like we live in chaos all the time too. She seems to be settling into a pattern, but usually that is blown out of the water after a few days of it. I've always tried to put her down for a nap after two hours of being awake, but it is more like 2.5-3 hours these days. We don't go out every day, and I know you like to go out, so I guess it's difficult to get C to nap at particular times. I never wake Tilly up to go out unless I have to, and usually time activities around her sleeping. To be honest though, I'm not sure if daytime routine really affects night time sleep, because Tilly has always been all over the place with naps, but has slept from 7pm-6am with a maximum of one wake-up for a feed, and sometimes one other wake up which doesn't need attention, for months now. I hate to say it, but maybe it's just a case of Cassius just being Cassius? Oh no, that's awful. I should try to be more helpful... I'm sorry you're up so much in the night. That must be exhausting.

What do you do in the daytime for naps? xxx

 

[Karate Kid]

Can you express? I wonder whether offering him expressed milk via a bottle in the night would help to wean him off waking. He'd still get any milk he needs, and a cuddle whilst having it, but he won't be able to comfort suck on you?

I find that if H wakes in the night he's very tired and grouchy during the day. You might find that if you can ease him out of the waking cycle that he's more alert during the day.

We've done everything at H's pace, but it got to the point where he'd got himself into a cycle he didn't know how to break with the sleeping, so we had to give him a gentle helping hand with sleep.

Sounds like a good idea! I have a freezer full so I may as well use it for night feeds.

C is such a happy chappy regardless of what kind of night he has had but I am sure that a good nights sleep would be very beneficial.

I am and always have been happy with doing things a C's pace but I feel that after battling for so long with the whole BFing thing that this is just pushing me too much emotionally xx

 

[Mrs Wibbily]

I feel your pain and exhaustion and can sympathise whole heartedly!! It is exactly the same here. Finn can wake up to a maximum of 7-8 each night and each time wants a comfort feed to settle him back. I know it will stop though so now I just co sleep and feed whenever I am to bloody tired to do anything else. Maybe if you give ebm in bottle hubby could do it for you so you could have a longer sleep!? I can't do that unfortunately as Finn won't entertain ANYYHING other than boob when he gets that way! So you co-sleep? Would that help you?xx

 

[tweetyfoo]

I have no advice but wanted to throw in some