babyelmo
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Good morning ladies. I feel like I need to vent a bit, things are getting on top of me today.
Today my oh has gone away on a stag weekend. This has raised massive trust issues for me and i'm doubting whether I want to be in a relationship with him any more. Almost a year ago I caught him with another woman while we were at a party. He claimed that he was so drunk he didn't know what he was doing. I don't see that as an excuse at all and I questioned what he sees as appropriate boundaries. We managed to move on from it but i've always had doubts at the back of my mind and I don't feel as though I fully trust him. This has now made me question whether I should be raising a child with him, how fair is it to bring my son into that kind of relationship? We don't live together, we're furiously house hunting in the hope we can find somewhere before the baby is born, if not he planned to move into my house for the time being. I'm just not so sure any more, and it's scaring me to think I could be on my own. I brought my dd up on my own as her father was a violent alcoholic, but I don't know how I will cope with two children.
Added to that i've got to go to court next week. My dd's father has applied for parental responsibility, claiming that if she becomes ill while in his care he cannot legally get her medical help. I suspect it's more to do with the fact that he had got wind of the fact I was considering moving from Hampshire to Essex. I got some advice from a solicitor who basically told me that parental responsibility means very little and that he cannot stop me from moving within the jurisdiction of England and Wales. Unfortunately, I cannot have legal representation on the day as my legal aid application has been turned down since they think he will be granted PR, despite the fact I have proof he has been drunk in charge of her, self-harms and threatens me with physical violence. It's all so stressful.
I've not slept properly in weeks because of this damn spd, and on top of that my phone has broken this morning. That seems to be the thing that has tipped me over the edge! I just cant stop crying this morning, i'm a hormonal mess!
Sorry for the long post
Today my oh has gone away on a stag weekend. This has raised massive trust issues for me and i'm doubting whether I want to be in a relationship with him any more. Almost a year ago I caught him with another woman while we were at a party. He claimed that he was so drunk he didn't know what he was doing. I don't see that as an excuse at all and I questioned what he sees as appropriate boundaries. We managed to move on from it but i've always had doubts at the back of my mind and I don't feel as though I fully trust him. This has now made me question whether I should be raising a child with him, how fair is it to bring my son into that kind of relationship? We don't live together, we're furiously house hunting in the hope we can find somewhere before the baby is born, if not he planned to move into my house for the time being. I'm just not so sure any more, and it's scaring me to think I could be on my own. I brought my dd up on my own as her father was a violent alcoholic, but I don't know how I will cope with two children.
Added to that i've got to go to court next week. My dd's father has applied for parental responsibility, claiming that if she becomes ill while in his care he cannot legally get her medical help. I suspect it's more to do with the fact that he had got wind of the fact I was considering moving from Hampshire to Essex. I got some advice from a solicitor who basically told me that parental responsibility means very little and that he cannot stop me from moving within the jurisdiction of England and Wales. Unfortunately, I cannot have legal representation on the day as my legal aid application has been turned down since they think he will be granted PR, despite the fact I have proof he has been drunk in charge of her, self-harms and threatens me with physical violence. It's all so stressful.
I've not slept properly in weeks because of this damn spd, and on top of that my phone has broken this morning. That seems to be the thing that has tipped me over the edge! I just cant stop crying this morning, i'm a hormonal mess!

Sorry for the long post