Hi it's great to hear some feed back, you know it's not always easy being a bloke because it's really a women thing, and I know it's not easy being the women either...
However I feel really in the middle here, I mean that, now I am fair a sincere in what ever I do.
Now I don't know why this girl became suddenly snapped, and one minute telling me on the Friday she can't wait to cuddle up next to me, then after moving her in, tells me something different 48hrs later, then tells me finally that's she pregnant. But tells me it's another mans... Strange thing is at the time we meet she told me she forgot to take the pill and also that she had not been with any for a while, hence the need to wreck the bed room for 6 hours
at the time.
Now I don't understand the bluntness after she asked for a 34" TV only 14 days before hand, then I am nothing all of a sudden though I heard she went to a clinic on the 19th Oct but I am not sure which one.
Then I think maybe it is mine and she hates the fact that within it's self has control to change your life. May be she feels that she not ready or I was not the person, hence the sudden change in personality towards me.
Since I was cooking for her every day when we moved in etc... Not the normal thing for most blokes I know but I enjoy my food and so cook. So I really can't get my head around it. Where the problem is because if I was such a bad bloke why bother asking me to do all the things then suddenly tell me to go. Has now sense at all, and before you think this is a normal relationship, not quite, she's sent me in the excess of 200+ photos of her self, we spent upto 8 hours daily online, till she moved to the UK, I am told that she can't wait to be me nearly all the time then POW, after picking her up from work, and giving her a orchid that day, cooking a candle lite dinner, tells me, I can't see you any more. Reason very lame, I have study and I don't have time for you and your be upset if I don't see you. Anyway I talked and said we can work through that the I ends up staying and she cuddles up. Next day she does breakfast, I takes her to work all is fine she emails me telling to finish and as it happens I had my stuff there so I had to go back, I went there later that eveing, and I hugged her as she walked accross the bridge, she said I was going to change her mind, I said nope just going to show you a couple of things, so I showed her the photos that we had and all that she sent me and the things that she spoke of, nothing was determined the reason why and I had park outside to show and collect mine stuff and go home, then she says park the car and stay, so I did. While in bed she cuddles upto me and says she's sorry. For what exactly not to sure now. I takes her to work then she off to czech that day all is fine texts me, she supposedly had a appointment in czech, on the monday I wished her good luck, next I am told via email it's over, I thought ok, wrote a nice letter saying I only wanted to understand and I need to collect my stuff and this did not make no sense at all, other than I felt used. Then the bomb shell I am pregnant, by another man before me. OH SWALLOW HARD, I broke down in tears at this point. Then I research it I went to see her, and she got in the car I was trying to talk about it, and she was more interest about the money that she owed me. Then she lost it after I asked if she had a scan, saying she could not help getting pregnant, then mentioned about the moneys and broke down and cried, and went upstairs home.
I can't see how I am everything one minute and nothing the next... Please forgive me here, but we all know strange things occur, and if I did sleep with her in that month, there is a chance too, so I don't know how she can say shes 100% sure, on the other post I have put a calendar up. so you can see what I mean, and because she was not taking the pill consistly I would have thought this would have a change in the bearing of Ovuation. I have read it's between day 11 and 21 which puts me very close.
And as per the other post I made I was hoping others would post there views so she can read the thread her self.
Because she was not consisant in taking the pill, it wont be as it is in the book, true, and I slept with her on the 20 -22 of aug, I told on the 31 Oct shes 13 weeks so it's a tough call.
But she thinks 100% it's not mine so, there we have it... I seen her slam doors, be stressed, breakdown in tears over silly things, she was not feeling well few before like sick, then it pasted. So there are a few pointers.
Then a read about the rejection of the partner. Which brings me here, she will be 17 weeks now this week, I don't even know at what time I should see the bump. Which would confirm it.
So there you go what you think, not easy to walkaway know that you could have a child the other side of the world in a few months time.
So does this make sense the rejection side of things and at what time do you stablise, or does this not happen till after the birth?
At the end how do I see her make sense, of all this, as I care really and clicked very well, I don't know what to do really, makes me think alot and worry, since for her to talk to me is not asking much so I can understand. And if she is pregnant then the choice has been made, she can't change that end result, but if she's wrong then she will be looking at a part of me for a long time, and as for termination that's an emotional scar for life to.
So hats the answer, I can't just sit back and do nothing...
So I thought she could read other females comments here, may be she will see I care what ever the case my be but being the way she has been to me has no real reason, as I've been calm through out and been supportive all the way.
Many thanks for your input it's helping Wayne
