Harry will only settle for me

[First Baby White]

As above Harry wont stop crying for anyone bar me not even his Dad at the moment. DH gets upset by this but Harry just screams and screams till he comes to me. Has this happened to you and how did you resolve it??

 

[Snuggle]

I dont know when they snap out of it hun, Maddison is still like this now and is nearly one

 

[Becky&Willow]

Willow is still the same now if she wakes up crying or is ill or upset she will only settle for me, i think it is becasue she sees me all the time where as OH is at work so she is used to me.

hopefully it will get better for you, give it time.

 

[Snuggle]

Willow is still the same now if she wakes up crying or is ill or upset she will only settle for me, i think it is becasue she sees me all the time where as OH is at work so she is used to me.

hopefully it will get better for you, give it time.

I put it down to this too. Hubby was really upset in the beginning but has got used to the fact that when she wakes up in night or is ill, she will be wanting Mummy cuddles

 

[Squiglet]

Are you booby feeding first baby white? Lil miss is the same cos boob is food AND comfort for her... but even if you are bottle feeding most babies in their first few weeks will only settle for mum because your smell and voice are the most familiar things in the big, noisy bright world... They get over it in a way... Lil miss much prefers that I put her to bed at night still even if not booby feeding as i give her security but DH can do it during the day now without tears

 

[DebbieM]

Luke's the same. We have had this very same conversation about an hour ago during one of his screaming fits (although they arent half as frequent as they used to be, I have to admit). However, he just wants boob - not for food - just for comfort to get to sleep. It's very frustrating. I hate that only I can settle him. It's not good for any of us really but I'm hoping it will be something that just resolves itself over time.

 

[First Baby White]

Thanks for your responses
Squig - I bottle feed but did breastfeed at first so that could have something to do with it. I geuss I will have to ride it out but feel so sorry for DH and I also worry about what he will be like when I am eventually brave enough to leave him with someone

 

[jennywren]

we just peservered with OH having DS and he started to settle with OH from about 6 months (if he got really hysterical) but from about 3 months if he was just clingy/windgey. Its giving a balance between the two really, which is alot easier to do when not B/F of course. Get OH to give bottles, get him dressed, bath him, change him etc at least one of those things at least once a day. You pop down the shops for an hour and leave him with DH as well - will give them both confidence x

 

[mamichuli]

I know what you are going thru, we had this with Ani at that age, but they do outgrow it, and now she has times when she prefers me and times she prefers daddy!

Lisa

 

[LisaJ1986]

Angel alternates. Daytime she will only settle for me and nighttimes OH. Daytime is just me and her so she has to.

 

[DaisyRose]

Hiya,

I can sympathise, we have the same thing with Ruby (the other two were the same too). Although she has got a little better, once she starts crying J simply cannot settle her and I have to take her. I'm breast feeding so I think that has a lot to do with it. I've suggested that J holds her differently to how I do when I'm feeding as she starts routing as soon as he puts her anywhere near his chest; she then gets really frustrated when she can't find boob!!!

If it's any consolation, they do grow out of it eventually. I'd say persevere and your little man will form a special bond with your OH.

 

[abcd1234]

I also worry about what he will be like when I am eventually brave enough to leave him with someone

I had this worry too, poted about it a few weeks back, and finally had no choice but to leave her on monday due to an exam. She never settles for anyone but me and i've never let her cry so i was all worked up about it.

As it happens she cried for 5 mins then slept, woke up, took her bottle, cried for 5 minutes then slept!! She was fine, and ok i'd rather she never had those 5 minutes of crying but it showed me that if needs must be others can settle her.

I'm not about to try it though lol, i'm still not happy to hear her cry.