had big arguement with OH

[angiemum2b]

Hey ladies,
Well I am totally upset ans sick to the back teeth of my OH.
I went to visit family in notts yesterday I was gone from 8am until 9.30 last noght so I hadn't seen OH at all, when I got back home he was drunk, slouched on the sofa, lil one was screaming for his bottle, and he's got colic so he's in pain so i put bab in his chair because I didn't want OH to hold him because he was drunk!
I went to put his bottle in the warmer, when I come back in the living room OH was holding him I asked why he said because I haven't seen him all day, so I said to him 'he is crying because I think he's got trapped wind. then all of a sudden he holds the bab up and says if I'm sooo s**t at feeding and winding then I better not hold him and gave him to me! total over reactment !
then because I went to notts with my mum, he started having a go at me saying my family is always round the house making him a prisoner i his own home ? ? ? ( I thought it was our home) ? and started to shout at me in front of the lil one which started him to get upset and cry, so I got his bottle and went upstairs away from OH for a bit.
I was upstairs for about 2 hours and the lil one hadn't stopped crying at all, I couldn't stop him, then all of a sudden OH came in the bedroom looked at me and the bab crying laughed and walked out not offering to help me or anything!
I tried for another hour and then started to get upset myself and rang my mum to come and help me with the bab.
I went downstairs to tell OH my mum was coming back and he kicked off again!!!!
We've not spoke since and for some reason I am kinda of thinking it's all my fault and I'm to blame for all of it, I just don't know what to think anymore.

I mean if he's having second thoughts about me and the baby he should have thought longer before trying for a baby with me and making such a commitment to me.

Am I over reacting when I am thinking he's selfish ? ?

I now don't even want to see him let alone speak to him.

Help I need some girlie advice

 

[hannahbet20]

you are not over reacting if hes drunk and you dont want him to hold the baby its up to you because god forbid anything happened and he sounds like he was acting really childish you did the right thing by getting out of his way because to argue with your little boy around would cause him upset it sounds to me as if you did everything right i dont know the situation with your family but if he had such a problem why not talk to you instead of getting drunk and shouting.

i think hes in the wrong hun don't beat urself up he will come around, my oh is very similar, and laughing at you whilst you are obviously having a hard time is really not nice.

i hope you feel better soon honestly i think youve done nothing wrong.

xhannahx

 

[x-kirsty-x]

it just goes to show which one of you is more mature - you walked away which was probably the best thing to do, while he came up and laughed at you!

Just wondering, if he was looking after the baby why on earth was he drunk?? (unless i've missed something but thats what it sounds like!)

 

[violet-glow]

He sounds so childish, getting drunk because he feels left out because you've gone to your mums. He needs a slap hun lol I cant believe men can be so childish and getting drunk while hes meant to be looking after you little one is not on.

He was drunk, so maybe just the drink talking, have a sit down with him when hes soba and not moody... she what he says.

Good luck xx

 

[JMC]

Thats terrible

So he left the baby to scream because he was drunk

Totally irresponsible

Having a baby doesnt mean the end of drinking, but it should never effect the baby. I cant believe he was minding the baby whilst slouched out drunk

Not your fault so dont worry.

Let us know how your getting on

 

[Lindsay]

oh angie hun sorry that you are feeling so down, don't be blaming yourself though hun your Oh needs to grow up and act more maturely. I know how frustrating it is having a colic baby who won't stop crying - have you tried infacol? My midwife recommended it and it has been a godsend for us.

JMC I read it like he was drunk while looking after baby, but when I read it again I think it means that angie had the baby with her and OH was at home alone getting drunk??? then again I could be wrong!

Xxx