Grr otherhalfs parents

[K&A]

Hi girls,

just having abit of a rant, here it goes...

well me and OH go to see his parents and all's well, always abit weird when going to see them cause they like to think themselves very upperclass and im very down to earth. (very happy my OH doesnt take after them)

But im sitting there listening to them talk about what they want to spend there money on next.. and everytime my OH mum mentions the baby my OH's dad roles his eyes (not sure what his problem is)

and because me and OH live with my mum because we want to save up for mortage and renting was just dead money my mum offered one of her spare rooms.. plus its gonna be nice to have my mum there with baby coming along.. and OH's dad has the cheek to ask when we plan on moving out knowing full well we have no intention of leaving for a while.. so i pluck up and say well were not moving until we are financially stable and then oh dear god he says " you need a job first" now it sounds silly but to me thats hugly insulting as ive worked since i was 16 and when i found out i was pregnant i was inbetween jobs and my partner told me he'd like me to leave work and take time to bring up our first child..

My OH's parents dont see it like that, i felt like i had a bright light shinging in my face, he was asking me when i planned on going back, i thought woah ok baby isnt even here yet and then how can i go back after.. whos gonna look after my LO..

Sorry for that, i got really upset and sobbed over it.. i feel such a let down.. my OH was great and told me to ignore him but its easier said than done..

thanks for reading longest rant ever

xxx

 

[beth1234]

Ohhh dear! Its like 'in laws' like living up to their bad rep isnt it!?

What you do - is up to you, and you only!
Bumps mother (although im not with bumps dad - eugh!) she is aaaalways sending me messages on bloody facebook - telling me she doesnt like the names iv picked out, or saying how much shes going to have the baby, errrmm think thats up to me love!

Argh i feel your anger haha!

You should ignore them though - easier said than done but, it seems as though they have some sort of problem eh, with your OH dad rolling his eyes!!

Xx

 

[Annie050408]

Oh hon, ignore them and you stick to your plans- it has nothing to do with them. They made their choices when they had kids, now you and your OH are making yours - they need to back off and respect you as adults. x

 

[K&A]

i feel so much better no ive wrote it down, this site is great, i feel like this pregnancy would be impossible without this site..

you are right, the in laws are living up to the name.. they forget around 30 yrs ago this country was alot different and bringing up children was probably alot cheaper x