Frustrated

[BecaM]

So my doctor sent me for 21 day bloods last month. Got to the hospital and they couldn't find my appointment so sent me away. Went again this morning and they wouldn't do it because I hadn't fasted. No one told me I had to fast so now I've got to wait another month! I'm just so angry and frustrated right now. Feels lim everything is against me right now. 2 friends announced they were pregnant last night, neither of them were even trying.

 

[holli]

Hey I had mine done in march I think at my local doctors and I asked if I had to fast and they said no so not sure why they told you to fast, i know how you feel on that it's a massive kick in teeth I'm sick of getting snap chats of my 2 family memebers that are pregnant especially when af arrives and then you get a snap of baby clothes or tummys moving I'm the only member of my family now to not be pregnant / have kids, we just gotta think positive good things come to those who wait they say.. we've been waiting a year and half now so praying we haven't got to wait much longer! When are you going back to get your bloods done? Xx

 

[BecaM]

Hey I had mine done in march I think at my local doctors and I asked if I had to fast and they said no so not sure why they told you to fast, i know how you feel on that it's a massive kick in teeth I'm sick of getting snap chats of my 2 family memebers that are pregnant especially when af arrives and then you get a snap of baby clothes or tummys moving I'm the only member of my family now to not be pregnant / have kids, we just gotta think positive good things come to those who wait they say.. we've been waiting a year and half now so praying we haven't got to wait much longer! When are you going back to get your bloods done? Xx

I spoke to the doctor in the end. She said if I can get them done tomorrow it should be fine. Apparently she's asked for glucose as well. No idea why. Just feels like one hurdle after another and no closer to answers

 

[Donna88]

Glad you managed to speak to a doctor and that they managed to get you in for tomorrow instead. Would have been nice if they'd let you know you needed to fast, or at the very least why they were turning you down. Good luck for tomorrow and for the rest of your journey.

It is so frustrating when everyone around you seems to be getting pregnant, especially when it seems to just happen for them. But as hard as it is try not to get down about it, just stay positive, it's great for them but your time will also come.

 

[Alexis2017]

Awwwww I was really hoping for you this was your month. I am fed up too. What if it never is our turn ? It's a worry that plays on my mind on a daily basis now. There isn't anything to take that away. Wishing you baby dust for July. I am approx 8dpo....so 5 days left till af, no symptoms at all so I will be joining you in August test thread which will be my birthday I will be testing ! Let us know how the docs go and how you get on. It's a great 1st step. I am here to talk or PM me if you ever need to vent/chat xx

 

[BecaM]

Awwwww I was really hoping for you this was your month. I am fed up too. What if it never is our turn ? It's a worry that plays on my mind on a daily basis now. There isn't anything to take that away. Wishing you baby dust for July. I am approx 8dpo....so 5 days left till af, no symptoms at all so I will be joining you in August test thread which will be my birthday I will be testing ! Let us know how the docs go and how you get on. It's a great 1st step. I am here to talk or PM me if you ever need to vent/chat xx

Thank you Hun. I know what you mean, the more people seem to get pregnant around me the worse it gets. I said to my husband this morning "I just want to be normal". He said "you are normal". I said "no, normal these days is getting pregnant at the drop of a hat not even trying, that's what everyone I know seems to be doing but not me." I must admit I did have a cry and threw my wallet across the floor in frustration in the car park. People must've thought I was headed to the psyc ward.
Hubbys got to take a sample in so he's doing that Tuesday because they have to have it within the hour or its not viable. And I have managed to find a hospital nearby that does walk in blood tests so I'm getting there for when it opens in the morning at 7am because ive got to be at work at nine. Its all so complicated/stressful and some people are so rude and uncaring.

You're not out till AF shows. Some people don't have any symptoms until AF doesn't show so keeping my fingers and toes crossed for you xxxx

 

[Lander]

Hey I had mine done in march I think at my local doctors and I asked if I had to fast and they said no so not sure why they told you to fast, i know how you feel on that it's a massive kick in teeth I'm sick of getting snap chats of my 2 family memebers that are pregnant especially when af arrives and then you get a snap of baby clothes or tummys moving I'm the only member of my family now to not be pregnant / have kids, we just gotta think positive good things come to those who wait they say.. we've been waiting a year and half now so praying we haven't got to wait much longer! When are you going back to get your bloods done? Xx

I spoke to the doctor in the end. She said if I can get them done tomorrow it should be fine. Apparently she's asked for glucose as well. No idea why. Just feels like one hurdle after another and no closer to answers

Ah the glucose test will be what they wanted you to fast for. They still should have just done the 21 day bloods. sorry this is making this more irritating for you.

Lxx

 

[LuckyLaura]

Good luck Beca I hope it all got sorted for you xx

 

[BecaM]

Thanks everyone. Managed to get my bloods done Thursday in the end. Hopefully it'll be alright. I was quite proud of myself as I had to go by myself (hubby was at work from 6am and I had to be at work by 9am, bit tight). In the past my whole body has seines up in shock of having bloods taken so my hubby always comes to distract me, which doesn't always work. My hands and arms seize up like a T. rex, my feet all curl in and my whole body contorts, it's Beverly cpscary and painful. This time I had to sit in the waiting room for an hour and a half before being seen but I managed to do it without incident. It's such a little thing to most people but I was ridiculously proud of myself for keeping it at bay. Xxx

 

[MoominGirl]

Sorry you're having a rough time. Glad you got through the blood test and didn't have to wait another month. I know how you feel about things just not going right. Somehow we just need to pick ourselves up again and keep going but it's hard. Hope it all goes well for you and you feel like you're taking positive steps.

 

[LuckyLaura]

Thanks everyone. Managed to get my bloods done Thursday in the end. Hopefully it'll be alright. I was quite proud of myself as I had to go by myself (hubby was at work from 6am and I had to be at work by 9am, bit tight). In the past my whole body has seines up in shock of having bloods taken so my hubby always comes to distract me, which doesn't always work. My hands and arms seize up like a T. rex, my feet all curl in and my whole body contorts, it's Beverly cpscary and painful. This time I had to sit in the waiting room for an hour and a half before being seen but I managed to do it without incident. It's such a little thing to most people but I was ridiculously proud of myself for keeping it at bay. Xxx

well done

You did great hehe xx

 

[Alexis2017]

Well done for going and getting those bloods done! Thats me out again ...7th time trying. I feel frustrated too. We just have to keep on trying.

 

[BecaM]

Well done for going and getting those bloods done! Thats me out again ...7th time trying. I feel frustrated too. We just have to keep on trying.

Aw Hun I'm sorry. I'm in my 17th cycle so I know how you feel. No one ever said it'd be this hard

 

[LuckyLaura]

So sorry Alexis xx

 

[BecaM]

So I guess we are due an update.... The hospital has LOST my blood results so I've gotta get them done again
My DH test results came back. Not good. Where as 4% of sperm is normally viable in any sample, only 1% is swimming in the right direction in ours But of course we can't be referred for help yet because the hospital LOST MY BLOODS! Agghhhhh

 

[MoominGirl]

I'm so sorry to hear that BecaM. Big hugs. If that was me it think I'd be having an absolute fit!! lost once - OK it's frustrating, mistakes happen but second time, totally not on!! Are you getting your bloods done at the GP? If so could you go to phlebotomy at the hospital instead? It's usually drop in and might reduce the risk of them being lost in transit.

I'm sorry about your OHs results. The numbers you give, do they refer to morphology? Just want to pass on a bit of our experience I wish I'd know 6 months ago. My OH had an abnormal sperm analysis, our problem was motility rather than morphology. Everything else was fine. Count was actually way above minimum. He did a repeat sample a month later which was a little better but similar and still abnormal. Not long after that we went to a seminar and were told that repeat analyses should be at least 3 months apart as that's how long it takes for sperm to be made. Armed with this and a commitment to improving our lifestyles a bit (helps with motivation!) he did a third sample about 4-5 months after the 2nd sample. Motility was hugely improved - fast moving sperm had gone from 8% (1st sample) and 20% (2nd sample) to 52% (3rd sample)

We were told by the fertility consultant (based on the 1st and 2nd samples as 3rd hadn't been done at this point) that there was no hope of us conceiving naturally and nothing we could do to improve his sperm. I beg to differ. Although we're not pregnant yet, no one can argue with the numbers on paper. I still hope we can conceive naturally but at least we know the sperm quality is better should we need IVF.

Also OH has been taking Wellman conception vitamins, vitamin c, zinc and omega 3 as well as trying to eat more fruit and veg etc and trying to exercise a bit more. He has already lost over a stone without really trying!!

Hope this is helpful and good luck!!

 

[BecaM]

So finally got my test results, all good, everything normal. But AF is 4 days late, great now my cycles messed up.... Except turns out, 2 sticks later I've got a can't believe it!

 

[Alexis2017]

Over the moon for you. See when you least expect it! I am going to the docs on Thursday to ask for for tests. Wishing you a happy 9 months x

 

[Babbybo]

Congratulations!!! Delighted for you.

 

[JaneyJan]

You must be over the moon, so happy for you