violet13
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Hi Ladies,
I've known my bestfriend for almost 10 years and we've hit a hard and rocky patch of late. I moved to cyprus as my OH is in the military and I wanted to be with him, that was 18 months ago, we got married in april and my friend who I will name *Mary was one of my bridesmaids.
Everything was fine for the first month when I came back to cyprus, I'd talked to her about having issues getting pregnant and she offered to be a surrogate which was amazing of her to do as she doesn't want kids of her own but would carry mine for me, but now she is having some serious issues at home and me being 2000 miles away can only do so much. I was rushed to hospital about 3 weeks ago and instead of being concerned she went round our friends claiming if it wasn't for her I'd not of gone the hospital...all I did was ask for some advice on wind pains because thats what I assumed it was, it was my appendix. They also found an ovarian cyst which is nothing except that a cyst, she then kept asking and asking over and over about it, it felt like she was wanting me to have problems the biopsy confirmed it was fine nothing serious it just blocked my fallopian tube and now ovulation should be normal and I've done an OPK and I will use it this month.
Anyway she annoyed me over bragging to friends about her being the reason I got seen to at hospital and even the cyst annoyed me alot, but I ignored it. Until I saw a message which my OH showed me, he didn't realise she had been flirting with him throughout the entire conversation when he was explaining why I'd gone to hospital, she is known for sleeping around and never staying with someone longer than a few months and as much as I love her and she has been a good friend, little things are adding up from way back when to now, also flirting with my Husband has well and truly pissed me off (excuse my language) Another friend has had input in this and has said "she's single, lives in a flat and is in a job that makes her unhappy, she's jealous of you, feeling threatend by a yet to be baby as it will take your attention away from her" I also found out she offered to be a surrogate but that if she got attached to the baby she would want to keep it herself....I'm truly shocked and that was why she kept pestering me. We got news we will be coming home soon and well now we need to think about sorting our pets out and getting them back, which I told her but yet she sent me message after message over her problems even though she'd orginally asked about what was going on with me as in healing from surgery and yet again the cyst! and kept adding extra stress onto me knowing full well stress has been a key factor in my appendix getting ready to pop and me not being able to get pregnant so after I asked her for some space...I did it politely and said I'd still be there for her but didn't need extra stress, she ignored me completely and then bitched about me to all our friends who have said I'm not the type to not care about her feelings or problems to which she has just started asking about when we're coming home then proceeded to go on a massive ramble in a depressing manner, I have been through it with her too many times, she refuses to see a dr and just wont listen to any advice I try and give.
She has a bad habit of holding grudges for the smallest things, not really thinking of others except herself and only being there for you when it suits her as in benifits her....I can't deal with it anymore. I love her I do but I have to think of my family now and I need some advice from you lovely ladies as you've always been there to support me and everyone else but you've never just done it for your own cause we do it to help everyone on the fourm. Its also going to be horrific when we move to a new base as she does just turn up at peoples houses whenever it suits which she cannot do and I for one don't need it, I want a baby now and if it means I have to cut people out of my life...so be it.
I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place now xxx
I've known my bestfriend for almost 10 years and we've hit a hard and rocky patch of late. I moved to cyprus as my OH is in the military and I wanted to be with him, that was 18 months ago, we got married in april and my friend who I will name *Mary was one of my bridesmaids.
Everything was fine for the first month when I came back to cyprus, I'd talked to her about having issues getting pregnant and she offered to be a surrogate which was amazing of her to do as she doesn't want kids of her own but would carry mine for me, but now she is having some serious issues at home and me being 2000 miles away can only do so much. I was rushed to hospital about 3 weeks ago and instead of being concerned she went round our friends claiming if it wasn't for her I'd not of gone the hospital...all I did was ask for some advice on wind pains because thats what I assumed it was, it was my appendix. They also found an ovarian cyst which is nothing except that a cyst, she then kept asking and asking over and over about it, it felt like she was wanting me to have problems the biopsy confirmed it was fine nothing serious it just blocked my fallopian tube and now ovulation should be normal and I've done an OPK and I will use it this month.
Anyway she annoyed me over bragging to friends about her being the reason I got seen to at hospital and even the cyst annoyed me alot, but I ignored it. Until I saw a message which my OH showed me, he didn't realise she had been flirting with him throughout the entire conversation when he was explaining why I'd gone to hospital, she is known for sleeping around and never staying with someone longer than a few months and as much as I love her and she has been a good friend, little things are adding up from way back when to now, also flirting with my Husband has well and truly pissed me off (excuse my language) Another friend has had input in this and has said "she's single, lives in a flat and is in a job that makes her unhappy, she's jealous of you, feeling threatend by a yet to be baby as it will take your attention away from her" I also found out she offered to be a surrogate but that if she got attached to the baby she would want to keep it herself....I'm truly shocked and that was why she kept pestering me. We got news we will be coming home soon and well now we need to think about sorting our pets out and getting them back, which I told her but yet she sent me message after message over her problems even though she'd orginally asked about what was going on with me as in healing from surgery and yet again the cyst! and kept adding extra stress onto me knowing full well stress has been a key factor in my appendix getting ready to pop and me not being able to get pregnant so after I asked her for some space...I did it politely and said I'd still be there for her but didn't need extra stress, she ignored me completely and then bitched about me to all our friends who have said I'm not the type to not care about her feelings or problems to which she has just started asking about when we're coming home then proceeded to go on a massive ramble in a depressing manner, I have been through it with her too many times, she refuses to see a dr and just wont listen to any advice I try and give.
She has a bad habit of holding grudges for the smallest things, not really thinking of others except herself and only being there for you when it suits her as in benifits her....I can't deal with it anymore. I love her I do but I have to think of my family now and I need some advice from you lovely ladies as you've always been there to support me and everyone else but you've never just done it for your own cause we do it to help everyone on the fourm. Its also going to be horrific when we move to a new base as she does just turn up at peoples houses whenever it suits which she cannot do and I for one don't need it, I want a baby now and if it means I have to cut people out of my life...so be it.
I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place now xxx 
