First night out after having the baby?

[Yodabo]

Hi all, Just wanted to know when you all went out for the 1st time after having your baby?

We've all been invited to a house Halloween party when Drake will be 4 weeks old. I've told lee that I don't fancy playing pass the parcel with the baby with a load of drunk people all night and he said he'd ask his sister to have Drake. Now the thought of anyone having him so soon fills me with dread!! I just can't do it, there's no way I'm ready and don't think I will be for a long time! My mother offered to take the baby for a walk while I had a kip the other day and I said no. I just can't bare to be away from him..so I'm staying here with my little boy while lee takes the others now... Which I'm more than happy about lol

I can't remember when I first went out with my others

 

[flexilexi394]

I probably wouldn't b able to do it either! I think if you know you're not ready, just don't do it! X

 

[Lacey's Mummy]

With Lacey I didn't go out until she was 6 months and even then I only lasted a couple of hours! I just didn't feel ready to leave her even though she was with Tim! I'm hoping I can go out sooner this time but it's confidence to with me as I hated the way I looked after having Lacey and felt like everyone starred at me even though no one was! If your comfitable going out then go for it and have fun but if your not, I'm sure your friends will understand! x x

 

[MrsR]

First night out after DD was when she was 10 months old x

 

[Yodabo]

First night out after DD was when she was 10 months old x

I can see me being like this. I'm not a going out type of person anyways. I think I might feel ok ish if he's left with lee but time will tell!

 

[ERIN84]

I feel like a bad mother now!!

I went out with my best mate when Emily was about 4 weeks. She was at home with daddy.

Rob and I went out together for a meal for the sirt time last saturday. My best mate had Emily but brought her back to me when we got home. i wouldnt want to be away from her overnight.

 

[ria__x]

I feel like a bad mother now!!

I went out with my best mate when Emily was about 4 weeks. She was at home with daddy.

Rob and I went out together for a meal for the sirt time last saturday. My best mate had Emily but brought her back to me when we got home. i wouldnt want to be away from her overnight.

don't feel bad hunni! i went out around that time aswell. well infact we all went to a family gathering when Riley was a week old! which was a bit upsetting for me but i got through it. i don't really fancy going out much but when i do i make sure someone babysits Riley at our flat so he's not out of his comfort zone.

anyway just go out when you think you're ready! don't let other people pressue you like i did. i stay in with my ickle man all the time and if i go anywhere like friend's houses i take him with me xxx

 

[x.Lilly.x]

I went out when Joe was around 4-5 months old as I breastfed for 3 months so couldnt of gone out then anyway.
That was for my birthday and my mum who Im very close to had him for the night.
Personally I couldnt of left him at such a young age as I think they need there mums there when there very young.
I think leaving them with your partner is differant though to leaving them with like a family member because thats there dad and is as much a part fot here life as a mum is if u no what i mean
But each to there own

 

[x-misspinkuk-x]

with my DD i went out when she was about 2 months, i only lasted an hour though!

with this baby im planning on going out for my birthday and baby will be about 6 weeks.

 

[karenandbump]

I went on a work Xmas do when H was 6 weeks old and left a bottle of expressed breast milk for him. I missed him like mad but it was nice to dress up too! I didn't stay out for drinks after the meal tho so wasn't out long.

I think u have to do whatever feels right to you - no wrongs or rights here as long as bubs is safe. This time i reckon i'll be so tried that it will be about 10 years before i go out at n ight again!! ha ha !!! x x x

 

[inky]

I don't feel ready to leave Cahal yet, I nipped to the chip shop one night last week, was only gone 10 minutes and he was with his daddy but it nearly killed me!

 

[ria__x]

oh yeah i agree i only leave Riley with 2 people, Alan (his daddy/fiance) and his mum who is my godparent. i couldn't leave him with anyone else!! i think i've been out about.. 5 times without Riley. 2 of them being nights out, 2 of them being meals with fiance and seeing a film. and sometimes in the week if i'm getting a bit stressed as OH is working all the time, Riley goes to his Nana's (OH's mum) for the morning, as soon as i wake up i walk straight there as it's only round the corner, don't wanna miss a thing! xx

 

[JJ Mum]

I totally understand yobado - I think it def depends who the baby is left with too, I would trust only my OH ,my sister or my Mum so soon, and my mum's not local. Not many people would want to babysit 3 kids , plus baby anyway,my mum will only agree to one at a time, babysitter would have a breakdown, so not going to be a problem ! ha

I think as mine are much older, I think to keep us going places as a family, little Devon will go everywhere and grow old before his time!

 

[Apple]

My first night out was after my sons second birthday and that was only to a meal! I never liked going out much anyway before he arrived. If I was to stay out late while my partner took care of my son then I would be in a mess the next morning and wouldn't be able to cope looking after him having had no sleep. If we had relatives rear by it would probably be a different case as I could rely on them a bit more!

 

[Yodabo]

Yeah I know what you mean apple. I'd be fine leaving him with the hubby but he doesn't do night feeds or get up with him as he's a heavy sleeper! So it's either get drunk and suffer, don't get drunk or don't go out haha! I think i'm going to wait till he has a proper routine and sleeping through. At least then I can feed him and put him to bed and have whoever is babysitting to come over and watch him rather than he go over their house. My other kids are no problem at all thankfully, They'd help out if need be!