First night at home with newborn

[BexTez]

It's 4am and I've not slept yet!
Baby girl has been feeding fine and not too bad sleeping in hospital, tonight she was having none of it! Slept in my arms and latched on fine about 10pm, then I put her in the Moses basket, she screamed!
Took her back out, fed again, put back in and more crying! She then got herself in such a state that she wouldn't even feed, just kept headbutting my boob and pushing me away.

She's finally feeding again but probably won't go in the basket, and I can't see myself ever sleeping again!

Someone please tell me this is either fixable or normal, I can't stand seeing her so distraught! xxx

 

[Elfs Mummy]

Completely normal she's been apart of you for 9 months and doesn't understand that she's a desperate person yet.
I conslept with both my children in the early days as it was the only way to get any sleep x

 

[Browneyed Girl]

Neither of my babies would sleep in a Moses basket. Make sure she's really settled before putting her down and persevere for a couple of days but you may have to look at other options. Get your oh to take it in shifts with you until you can put her down xx

 

[Shepherdess]

totally normal for the first couple of weeks, it's so tough. can you oh sit up for a while? I'd also suggest putting a hot water bottle into the basket for a bit to warm it for baby

 

[mummywanabe]

My son was the same HATED his Moses basket we bought a next to me cot and he slept .

 

[BexTez]

Thanks everyone managed to get a grand total of 2 hours sleep in the end lol, fun!!
I spoke to a feeding support worker who said it may have been that she was falling asleep at the breast before being properly full, and advised me to stimulate her when feeding to make sure she has a full feed. She also advised me to pump my mega full boob as baby couldn't feed from it being that full, and this morning she had a massive feed and is now awake but content in the basket, so she can be in it!
Just going to be a swift learning curve, but it's good to know that others have been through this and that it does end at some point! Hard to get any perspective at 4 am with a screaming baby!

xxxx

 

[lisey]

Its very normal, you could try swaddling to make her feel more cosy and snug. I also found white noise helped, ewan the dream sheep was my friend lol xx

 

[kumber]

As others have said, totally normal. We had three good nights and three bad so it's still up and down here at 6 days old

 

[snowbee]

My husband and I had to do shifts the first couple of weeks staying up holding him as he wouldn't be put down at all. We found a combination of the dream sheep, light on, radio on, covered in a blanket that smelled of me worked best. He didn't like the hood up on the basket nor did he like being swaddled. We also decided to co sleep after a while and that works really well for us now. Luckily he soon got the hang of it and he sleeps pretty well now, it is just the initial fighting it we get screaming with.

 

[Rooster30]

Whilst it is normal, it probably doesn't make you feel hugely better does it? Especially when you are so so tired. With my daughter we initially co slept for three days, then we discovered a few tricks that worked a treat. She loved the feeling of being cuddled. Any way you can replicate her basically being in the womb might help (did for mine)' we swaddled her, and she slept in like an insert in the crib so it felt less roomy and more cosy, and then she fell asleep to Ewan the Dream Sheep who has a nice pink glow and plays white noise. Worked a real treat with my DD. Good luck and really hope you get sleep soon

 

[BexTez]

Thankyou for all the advice ladies, we ordered Ollie the owl (the new version of Ewan the sheep!) and I think it'll really help, I've been playing her womb noises on an app and she goes right to sleep with it! And she likes being swaddles too

We've had 3 nights now of waking every 2-3 hours for a feed, which is soooo much more manageable! I think the main thing I learned was not to let myself get frustrated, it makes her cross and then we get nowhere! The steepest learning curve in the world! xxxx

 

[Pemsy]

I have had similar nights with my daughter. Can you place the Moses basket on the bed by your side? If you offer constant touch she may fall asleep a and then you can place them back on the Moses stand. I do something similar with our cocoonababy x

 

[Dianeea]

That is really fine! I mean, your child is doing a natural thing. However, in your part, it is really tiring. I can really understand you. I think you can call your husband to assist you.

 

[TORino]

I used to put a rolled up towel in a u shape underneath the sheet in the Moses basket for my daughter. It sort of hugged her while she slept - they did it for me at the hospital when my girl was admitted at a young age and it was really soothing to her.