Feeling very unhappy in my relationship!

[xxxcarinnaxxx]

I suppose I am just after some support or possibly advice. I found out late that I was pregnant. As it turns out, I was unknowingly pregnant when my boyfriend decided to take a job three hours away without discussing this with me (we have been living together for three years). He stays at his parents during the week and comes back at least for one night and one day at the weekend. It broke my heart that he took a decision which would mean he was away the majority of the time and, more importantly, without discussing with me first.

Since I found out I am pregnant, I have said that I need his support. Truth is I am still getting over the fact that he took such an important decision without talking to me. Eventually, he decided that he may need to come back but kept saying it was an impossible decision. I was diagnosed with gestational diabetes - very high readings! and I am on insulin four times a day. I also have a heart condition which also complicates the pregnancy. He has now decided that he needs to move back which I am of course happy about as I really do need his support.

My issue is I am just not happy generally. I keep telling myself that things will be better when he is back but I know I am not happy. He has always been a very selfish person - something I got used to and accepted but this has made this whole situation even harder. When I try to talk to him about my unhappiness, he tells me I need to look past it or that I am exaggerating. I feel very alone as a result.

I have assumed that my hormones are not helping but I am not sure how to find myself in a better frame of mind and be happy for the sake of my baby and my health - as my priority is to deal with my diabetes

 

[Sprk]

Hi there. Sorry to hear you are going through a tough tme. I wish I had some magic words to really help and make you feel better. I know, first hand, what it is like to feel ths way, as I once suffered with depression. How I am not saying you have depression...please don't get me wrong. I hope you OH moving back helps, but I also recommend you mention this to your mw. Let her know your feelings and that you aren't sure they will improve. There are support groups out there, or even finding someone to talk with one on one can be a big help. Of course, we are here for you too

 

[babysunshine]

sending hugs. There is alot going on during pregnancy inside your body and it can affect mood and the way in which you think. Not sure what stage your at but at some stages of pregnancy its common for hormones to take over.

 

[Ashbee]

I know our situations are different, but i only see my OH 2 nights out of the week also (until we move in to our new house in June). I have been VERY upset and felt like there is no support.. which he doesn't seem to see as he obviously bought the house but im not sure men really get the "emotional" support bit. Do you think your OH will move back?

Ash x

 

[xxxcarinnaxxx]

I am in my second trimester and actually my due date is 16 August which I see is two days before Sprk He says he wants to move back but whether this happens or not, I just want to stop feeling so upset and alone - it'll me cope better my health issues as well. I am seeing my midwife on Tuesday so I might see what she has to say. Thank you