Feeling sorry for myself :(

[Vic27]

I face birth to my beautiful baby son just over 3 weeks ago my bump was huge and I'm not just saying that I looked like Humpty Dumpty! A lot of it was fluid as my ds was average size (7.14) and I was all at the front. My concern is how long it's gonna take for my tummy to go down I know it will never b wot it used to b and I've accepted that but I look like I did when I was 5 months pregnant! It's disgusting I can't even look at myself in the mirror I feel awful! Don't get me wrong my son was well worth it and I'd do it 100 times over for him I love him more than anything but I just feel fat and ugly. I won't even undress in front if my Dh and have started having this irrational worry that he's gonna leave me cos I'm so disgusting he says he loves me no matter what and to give myself a break as its only been 3 weeks but I just think how could u love this?! I'm so self conscious out in public and whenever I go out its a sing and dance trying to find something to wear and I end up in tears. I've got my mums wedding in a week and I'm dreading it as we are getting photos taken! I feel awful for feeling like this it's just so hard getting used to my new body am I a bad person for felling this way? X

 

[giz]

Aw bless you.

It's horrible isn't it? I'm still wearing maternity clothes and feel like it's going to be forever to get back into normal clothes. What I'm concerned about is I never actually got back into my pre preg jeans and trousers last time, so I fear the same will happen again and I'll be another size up

It's hard too because it's tough to find time to exercise and it's also difficult to eat sensibly. I will admit to not having particularly healthy dinners since he's been born.

But no, you're not alone. But with hard work and determination you will get rid of the excess.

In the meantime could you try some knickers that pull your tummy in for the wedding?

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dd born 6th Feb 2011
ds born 12th Aug 2013

 

[Rachel80]

This is what I'm worried about, I look like a hippo & I'm anxious to get back to normal after birth - but how hard will this be? I was a 10 pre pregnancy, I'm in 14 maternity at the moment & I'm 36+2. It petrifies me that my oh will go off me & I won't be able to wear nice underwear, fit into my heels & skinny jeans. Sure a baby is worth it but I don't want to be a frumpy mum!

Are you exercising or thinking about starting exercising? Core work, so balance & weights are very good for toning up your middle - crunches & sit ups are of minimal benefit. If you can afford it I'd recommend a personal trainer, I'm getting one as soon as I'm able to start exercising again. I had one pre pregnancy & he really helped me tone up my middle. I have weak stomach muscles as it is from a large abdo op when I was younger. Good luck x

 

[AmyQ]

It will go down! You will probably not have the washboard stomach that all the celebs get 1 hour after birth, you will most likely have a small tummy, but with a good diet (esp for bf) and gentle exercise each day it will come off. I know it's easy to say but just remember how long it took to grow so big.

And magic pants were created for new mummies!

I'm pretty sure I was quite huge for a few weeks and then it started coming off, your uterus is still shrinking down xxx