FEELING LONELY AND LEFT OUT.

[NIE]

Does anyone else feel that their friends are moving on without them?

All of my friends are at different stages in their life. Some have finished having their families, and others are single. I just don't feel like I fit in with any of them any more. They are all still good friends and are there if I need them, but I don't feel that we are as close as we all have different priorities right now.

I am really glad to have this site to chat to others going through similar probems, but I do miss the close friendship. I even miss meeting up for lunch with them as I feel like a pain complaining about feeling sick with the food smells, or the tiredness.

I am going to a physiotherapy antenatal classs tomorrow night where all the mums 2 b will be 16 weeks. Hopefully I will meet some new friends going through the same things.

This is only a one off class so it will be difficult to start conversations with strangers. I am feeling a bit nervous about meeting new people but I feel I need to.

Thanks for listening.

 

[libs]

I had this when I had DS - I was 18 and all my friends were off to uni etc and I was the only pregnant person I knew

I never really picked up with them all - by the time they were having children, DS was 10 and we had moved on again - still the same now as I am the only one to deal with a teen.

I did find new friends through mother and baby groups and nursery etc and they fufilled my "baby talk" need

 

[NIE]

I think I am going to find it difficult to make new friends as I can be quite shy with strangers. Hoping to meet someone I can be friends with. xx

 

[kitty86]

Im findin it difficult to hunny.

I dont have many good friends and the ones I do have seem to be busy alot or working.

I had 2 really good friends who I was really close with and they seemed to have turned there back on me all of a sudden. I text them now and then but they never text back. God knows what I have done to them.

Add me to MSN Im always around. If you ever need a chat (chances are so do I) then give me a shout. My addy is [email protected].

 

[frangelle]

Is this your first? I felt like this the first time round, I had one friend with a child, who I didn't see very often, and now I have 5 friends with children and 2 who are pregnant. Although I don't see my friends without children as often as I used to we still catch up now and again. Could you not talk to them and tell them how you are feeling?

 

[Josephine_Beth]

The most regular person I see is my other half, live with him

The last 2 months I have been working long hours and when I do get the day off I just wanted to laze about. I am self employed, so I don’t have the money to go out and spend like I use to. My friend’s seem to have forgotten about me on some level but they do text and call a few times a week.

Being in Cyprus, the weather is a lot warmer, bugger that, it’s a heat wave lol They all tend to head up to Ayia Napa at the weekends, laze on the beach and head out at night. For me, this is too tiring but no one ever actually asked if I would like to go, so on a level, I feel very left out. All my friends are married engaged or have families aka they have their own lives and I rarely ever see them anymore. To be honest, it fits in with my work and gives me more of my own time, saves money and such.

As long as they acknowledge you, I think you’d feel better but for them to totally axe you out, you need to talk to them. I did and they came to an understanding, a real friend doesn’t have to be there every second, they will be there when you really need them!