Feeling Guilty....

[Star*]

Hey, I was just wondering if it is normal to feel guilty when I leave my baby to play on own. Most of the time when I cook she is in the high chair and I talk to her and she doesnt seem to mind when I clean as she loves the hoover.

I work from home only 2 days a week so on these days she is in the bouncer next to me on the computer or on the floor lpaying with topys and practising to crwal, and I try and play her songs on youtube. Im just im finding it hard to concentrate because my head is saying Im being mean and shes thinking 'why is mummy leaving me'.......I know that sounds crazy!

Any advice or comments would be helpful.....

 

[Piglet10]

errrr... not if you dont want a clingy demanding bratty 15 month old! yes thats what ive got lol i wouldnt change her for the world but she wont amuse herself at all and doesnt allow me to hoover so ur doing right by teaching her young thats its perfectly ok to even be on your own, you should also leave her in another room closeby on her own sometimes so she doesnt always demand attention, like if in a year u physically some day cant give her ur undivided attention and she gets distressed - is THAT fair?!? i tried my best but to no avail i have one of those spoilt bratty kids that throws tantrums that people talk about?! the ones i wuda cursed for being badly brought up!! fate?? xx

 

[twinkle84]

Awww I've thought the very same thing! But I do think they needsome time on own to reflect and try out new things! Also really agree with what u said aboutshaping them as people! We want then to be co
Comfortable enough to entertain themselves and be in their own company! Good luck piglet! I had to smile at your post xx

 

[Star*]

I know what your saying is right! I want her to be cmofortable spending time on her own. I am going to try leaving her in a room close by with the door open and let her play on her own (that will be hard) I even take her the toilet with me, ha! She has got me wrapped around her little finger which I suppose is ok for now but like you said as they get older it gets more upsetting for them as they understand and remember more so best training her in that way now! I just have to be strong and realise im doing it for the right reasons!...

 

[Piglet10]

yeah and its easier for her cos the tantrums are not nice! can i point out my daughter is throwing a paddy atm cos her granda is trying to bring her indoors, shes throwing a fit every time he comes near the back door ( i let her cry and come on in), he looks to me for help " i say , u made ur bed, u lie in it"! its my folks that have spoilt her! and yes she might me my GORG, smiley , sleeps all night perfect little brat, but a brat none the less lol xx

 

[Amy_J]

dont feel guilty!!! i let my lo play alone all the time & he loves it, as long as they are stimulated its good for them to have quiet alone time. id love to play with him all day but id never get anything done!! i try to do alot of the housework during the day when he sleeps but his day time naps are about 20mins at a time now so theres no chance!!!!

 

[xxbeckyxx]

I used to feel the same way but just decided to make up for it by having extra special 'Lizzie-time'. If I've spent a lot of the day cleaning, out + about, cooking etc, then I will set aside time where I turn off the TV etc and focus just on playing and interacting with her. At least I feel like I'm making up for it a bit then!