Feeling fat and miserable!

[Laur_250]

I know im pregnant and we're supposed to put on weight but sometimes I look at my body and want to cry, i've just got no control over it anymore. I cant stop eating and i always want sweet things and crap at the mo.

I know everyone says 'you dont look like you've put any on other than bump' but its in places you'd never imagine it going like my back/arms/top of legs and its bound to get worse. And my bellys got so big I cant imagne it going down much after baby.

I want this baby so much and will sacrifice anything but its still so depressing to think that my body is gonna be ruined forever and at this rate i'll never fit into my wedding dress 9 weeks after the baby! (timing not planned!). I need to eat all the time, does anyone have any ideas of snacks that keep them going throgh the day that are healthy-ish?? I need help and I know I could try swimming,etc but I really cant face getting into a costume so have just been walking as much as poss but even thats hard work! Anyone got any advice??xx

 

[JulesK81]

Hey hun, not got much advice I am afraid but I know exactly how you are feeling so thought some virtual hugs were in order!!!

I sometimes feel the same about my body, people say it doesn't look like I have put a lot of weight on, but I know I have and it's in the places you mentioned - back, top of arms and top of thighs. BUT as hubby keeps telling me, it's because I am creating the most amazing miracle I could, so try not to let it upset you too much.

I actually got married in Feb (was originally set for Aug, but bubs would only be around 4 weeks old!) and I look back on piccies and cannot believe I ever fit in my dress. I used to moan all the time about being a heffer, but I look back and think I'd kill to have my hourglass shape again!!!

Like you, I have been eating a bit of crap and as lame as it sounds, I can't help it! I also eat loads of fruit and veg so my three meals a day are healthy, just the sweet snacks in between!!! I find that red grapes and strawberries help as they give sweetness without all the crap and as it's been hotter, ice lollies have been a godsend and also filled the sweety hole!

Try not to worry about it now, enjoy the rest of your pregnancy, eat as healthy as you can, enjoy the bubs AND then think about getting your pre-preggers body back. I for one shall be hitting the gym hard once 6-8 weeks has passed!

Chin up x

 

[dannii87]

I've never been bothered by my weight and to be honest, I'm not overly fussed now but I hate looking frumpy and I feel like I do a lot lately. Like I've let myself go just because I'm pregnant if you know what I mean?! I feel like people must be looking at me thinking "she's not eating for 10!!"

Do you like Snack-A-Jacks?! I love them. They're less than 10% fat... Also a box of grapes? I'm like you though, I'm eating so badly!!

I've seen your bump pic though hun and you're juuuust fine the way you are! You don't look like you've gained any weight all through your bump pics?

I know it's harder for you because you have a wedding dress to get into after baby is born but I can't imagine you'll have lots of trouble xx

 

[Lindsay]

Hey hun having looked at your bump piccies you look like you have nothing to worry about but I know what you mean about feeling like you do. It's my arms, hips and bum which have expanded and I sometimes look at myself in the mirror and think OH MY GOD but then I remind myself that I am growing a special little someone

When I had Jacob, I was quite naive and was shocked to see that I had been left with a flabby tummy but honestly it does go down (you could always wear the fabby M&S pull in pants for your wedding ) I breastfed Jacob and think that helped me to loose weight too. Please don't be putting pressure on yourself to loose all the weight in time for your wedding though, you need to enjoy being a mummy You will look beautiful

I have got a really sweet tooth but find pineapple, rasberries and strawberries are good and healthy. I have been eating lots of chocolate but now limit myself to 2 rows of a block per night I haven't got any for tonight though so it will have to be the cadbury fingers I have got in the cupboard!!

Xxx

 

[Laur_250]

Thanks everyone! I know it may not look like ive put much on but I suppose its just when I sit down and notice the new bulges and cellulite plus with my tummy looking so big its making everything seem alot worse! Im just praying that breastfeeding helps get rid of some of it for me! I know its all worth it though its just every now and then (usually after eating something bad!) it hits me and i feel sad! I have been eating fruit so will just stock up on even more to nibble and get a bumpr pack of snack a jacks in from tommorow!xx

 

[Tatum29]

I feel the same way - I was SO slim before this pregnancy and I've put on 3 stone! I'm literally dreaming about losing the baby weight, I cannot wait! Feeling big has made me less confident too, it doesn't feel like me! Hang in there, you WILL lose it afterwards - I did with my son with no real effort!

 

[Sydneysmum]

Self image is not always related to the way you actually look. You're likely to be tired and feeling low so don't be too hard on yourself. You're probably blooming wonderfully at the moment and don't forget most men feel attracted to a pregnant woman!

You're carrying the most marvelous miracle inside you at the moment and there's plenty of women around who would do anything to be pregnant. So enjoy this time - you may feel cumbersome but you will look back on this time in the future with some fondness . Yes, your body will change but then so will your life beyond recognition but looking back, I wouldn't change a thing. I view my stretch marks as my battle scars and a rite of passage - I've been there and done that!

Like Jules I'm eating loads of fruit at the moment which is great because so much of is so cheap. Danni's suggestion of Snack-a-Jacks is also good. I carry a granola bar in my bag - ok so they're not so low in calories but because of the oats and nuts and stuff they fill you up for longer. And there's cereal too, and dried fruit and liquorice (which also has iron in it and it's a good laxitive as an added bonus).

You're right about the breastfeeding. It's exhausting producing all that milk but it does burn off the baby fat at some rate!

Repeat after me 5 times "I'm lovely and I'm going to have a lovely bubba"...

 

[millylillyrose]

oh hun its miserable i know, just try to fight your jumk cravings, take fruit with you and drink more water. rasins are a good alternitive to sweets.
ive been trying to go to the gym just to cycle. theres no way i can face a public pool right now!

 

[Bubalu]

While I'm not too worried about my weight gain. I am worried that I'm eating too much junk and not enough fresh fruit and veg. I just love chocolate and ice cream at the moment ...and then moan about indigestion and acid reflux. I think I need to take the advice given here and get myself a load of tasty fruit (then I wont feel guilty for having a little ice cream on the side with it).

Laura, I'm sure you'll be fine...you have 2 months to lose weight and good body shapers can take you down at least a dress size too.

 

[Laur_250]

Thanks everyone! Today Im gonna go shopping and just buy loads of fruit and healthy snacks to keep in the flat so I can always snack without going for chocolate or ice cream, thats my weekness too Butbalu!! And I agree sydneysmum it is alot to do with how you feel as during the day I sometimes feel really good about myself its just in the evenings when im sat down being lazy looing back on what ive eaten that day that i start feeling crap! So today I will try very hard to eat more fruit!xx

 

[abcd1234]

I feel very frumpy too atm, and like others i thought i was huge before i got pregnant, i was convinced i had the biggest belly ever and now i see pics and think WTF lol, even if i could look like i did at 20 weeks pregnant id be happy atm!

I've honestly got to the stage where i dont care if my belly is flabby anymore, i just wanna be able to bend in the middle.

I've bought a tummy support band to wear after she's born, my mum tried it on (shes a size bigger then i was before i got preg) and it makes everything harder and she said its comfy so i could easily sit in it. It'll give me the instant confidence i'll probably need if im going out but i wont need to worry about diets etc.

I've eaten pretty badly through my pregnnancy and now im convinced i'm gaining an extra chin, BUT i've been measuring myself throughout and i've only gained inches on my boobs and tummy, you're probably the same, its very wierd finding my belly is bigger then my boobs and i always feel i look massive in pics, but its cos im not my "normal" shape.

Hopefully you're just having a bad day, i posted about this at about the same stage actually, i wish i could find the post cos it's so similar, its totally normal to feel how you do

 

[Mildly]

I feel the same I've put on 2 and a half stone and have gone up two dress sizes I'm going to try really hard to eat sensibly this trimester to try and avoid any more unnecessary weight gain.

I think every pregnant lady goes through these feelings, it is natural when your body is going through radical changes. I know you are going to look great at your wedding Laura and can't wait to see your pictures

 

[Lindsay]

I will make you feel better about your junk food eating!!

Yesterday I had an horrendous day and feel embarrased about it now

It started off so well, | had my breakfast fine then MIL and FIL came round and I gave us all a slice of Strawberry sponge for our elevens'. I then decided that I fancied a McDonalds for lunch and had a chocolate donut for afters. As DH was on nights last night, I went round to mum and dads for tea and they got a chinese takeaway

I am going to be better today cos if I carry on like that I will be the size of a house. I have been food shopping now and bought lots of healthy things to eat now.

Xxx

 

[Laur_250]

Its good to know its not just me (although not good that you all feel miserable too if you know what I mean!!). I actually did quite well yesterday I went shopping and bought some fruit which I ate yesterday and a punnett of cherries which im gonna eat today, a multipack of snack a jacks, some of those ginger elevenses bars, a tub of lemon sorbet ice cream (its like frozen yoghurt and although prob sugary it will help with my ice cream craving and is low fat!) so now I have healthy snacks to eat! I think its really self cotrol as loads of tmes yesterday I wanted chocolate or cake but I just said NO to myself and overcame it! I went out last night too and everyone said I was massive but in a good way as its only on my bump so that made me feel better too that i dont just look fat! The funny thing is last night I had loads of dreams about being in a cake shop and orderng loads of cakes so my body still wants it but I felt so good waking up knowing I hadnt given in!! I have one of those belly band support things too I bought it before I was pregnant to wear with a dress i had and i will definately be using that too, like you say if you feel thin it will give you confidence and help you stay happy!!xx