feeling down

[jennywren]

I feel down today

I just feel Fat TBH. You cant tell Im pregnant and I was fat before and now I just feel fatter. To make it worse im going on a holiday in 1 week that I dont want to go on, i feel parinoid going on holiday as I feel a fat mess and like everyone is looking at me and now I cant find any swimwear or nice clothes to buy.

I just wanna curl up in a ball and wake up and have had the baby, and lost loads of weight and be back to my original size years ago of a size 14

 

[cloud9]

(((((((((((Jenny))))))))))))

not sure of anythinghelpful to say hope you feel better tomorrow

 

[jocymum]

I keep getting days like that
How come you don't want to go on holiday, can I go instead...pleasssseeee

 

[Icecream]

I have noticed that I look more pregnant/more fat in certain clothes. Try some things on in fromt of the mirror, or even try some different things on in a shop to see.

 

[sazzleevans]

Hi

Sorry to hear that your feeling down. From your posting i assume that you have been larger than a sized 14 for a little while before getting pg? If this is the case i assume you had these feelings before being pg too??

I dont know what to say that can make you feel better but as an outsider i can only say you have lots to be happy about. You have achieved what I assume you set out to do in getting pg and thats something to be proud of. You may still be over weight but you have something to look forward to and as you have recognised you have a weight issue that makes you unhappy you can aim to try and sort it out after the baby is born.

When on holidays just try and relax and remember that you have so much to look forward to. You maybe over weight but you have something growing inside of you which you can be proud of.

I know its easy to say but just remember that your mood during pregnancy can effect your babies character. If your stressed during pregnancy your baby will have a tendancy to be the same.

Have you thought of buying yourself a antinatal yoga dvd which you could do at home?

Sarah

 

[jennywren]

Hi

Sorry to hear that your feeling down. From your posting i assume that you have been larger than a sized 14 for a little while before getting pg? If this is the case i assume you had these feelings before being pg too??

I dont know what to say that can make you feel better but as an outsider i can only say you have lots to be happy about. You have achieved what I assume you set out to do in getting pg and thats something to be proud of. You may still be over weight but you have something to look forward to and as you have recognised you have a weight issue that makes you unhappy you can aim to try and sort it out after the baby is born.

When on holidays just try and relax and remember that you have so much to look forward to. You maybe over weight but you have something growing inside of you which you can be proud of.

I know its easy to say but just remember that your mood during pregnancy can effect your babies character. If your stressed during pregnancy your baby will have a tendancy to be the same.

Have you thought of buying yourself a antinatal yoga dvd which you could do at home?

Sarah

yes mate you assume correctly, ive been overweight for a while, and ''tried'' to loose it, but TBH never really tried hard enough (wouldnt never quit drinking, did the healty eating part but no exercise etc) so yes I had these feelings before and wasnt keen on going on holiday before. I used to look forward to holidays untill the past 18 months where ive not

I do plan to try as soon as the baby is born to work very hard on loosing the weigt and try and get back to a size 14 (size 12 ideal, but size 14 ill be chuffed with) when I say as soon, I dont mean like the day, im talking when im healed etc lol but you are right, i have something wonderfull growing inside me and that does make me and OH VERY happy and im looking forward to the birth and impending weight loss, then I will be on cloud 9!

Its not just the weight though, were going away with OH's Dad and SM, Bro and Bros GF and there all big drinkers and its for FIL's 50th and I know there going to be lashed every night (possibly some days) and im going to find them boring and annoying, resulting in me being bored! Thats another thing im not looking forward to!

Thanks for all your replies though, especially you though sazz, you made me read right now there are more important things in my life! I just get these depressing days but I think alot of it is down to hormones

to everyone

 

[jocymum]

I see why you aren't very keen now chick !
You might find you enjoy it more than you think, I find I can't be bothered to socialise much at the moment because most of our friends are drinkers ( and smokers ).
Just remember you are not fat -- you are pregnant
Sorry if I sounded un-caring, it's just I ain't had a holiday for 6yrs and i'm flippin desperate---I could fit in a (very very) big suitcase and keep you company in boring soberness
jo

 

[jennywren]

I see why you aren't very keen now chick !
You might find you enjoy it more than you think, I find I can't be bothered to socialise much at the moment because most of our friends are drinkers ( and smokers ).
Just remember you are not fat -- you are pregnant
Sorry if I sounded un-caring, it's just I ain't had a holiday for 6yrs and i'm flippin desperate---I could fit in a (very very) big suitcase and keep you company in boring soberness
jo

yes lol your welcome to fit in to my suitcase to keep me company ha ha ha

 

[sazzleevans]

Hi

Glad your feeling a bit more focused but dont feel ashamed of feeling fat. If you are larger than a 14 at the moment and have been smaller then it can change your mood.

I put on a stone and a half during my 21 weeks of pregnancy and am now trying to burn it off. Its not easy and you can be too focused so i am mixing it with treatments such as reflexology which is helping as a treat.

When i do get pg next time i am going to try and start swimming, if i can. Is it possible for you to go swimming of something like that?

My neighbour is a larger girl and when she got pg she took advice from her doc and managed to get to 40 weeks and not put on any weight. This was hard but it did help her after as she just had her original weight to deal with.

Do you mind me asking where you are going? Most sunny countries has a vast amount of fruit etc about maybe you could treat yourself to smoothies istead of alcohol. Thats something i have started to do and have just bought a machine to make them at home. I am determined not to start drinking. If i coul do it for 21 weeks i can continue until i am ready to try again. Its not that easy when people keep offering you alcohol but if you try and stay focused and make the drinks fun and have different types then it can be really nice.

Remember your weight was an issue before you get pg but for the next 9months you something more important to consider and if you can focus on that and get back to the weight issue after. You could always start with swimming now??

If your not confident about going to classes why not push yourself and sign up for one now..like antinatal yoga. After the baby is born you will then be in the swing of going to classes and maybe feel more confident?? I dont know but it might just work????

Great to chat to you. I am off to NY on the 19th November as a treat following my sad news last month. I am going on my own and just focus on what makes me happy. You could do the same but just with afew more faces about..

Sarah

 

[missac]

hope you start to feel better Jennywren, I know how you feel about feeling fat, body changes are always tricky to deal with even if they are for a good cause!

Sending you lots of warm fuzzy hugs xxx

 

[rusks]

oh jenny i still feel fat now we are all different, my bump is now starting to form and i am starting to look more pregnant. you'll get there hunny, its all in a good cause remember at the end of the day xx

 

[jennywren]

thanks ladies