Feeling deflated after call with GP ...

[summer15]

A call with my GP today has just left me feeling ... I had an early miscarriage (6 weeks) back in October but suffered complications with a large clot and was rushed to hospital. The phone call was primarily a follow up to discuss the bloods the hospital took. She told me they were all 'normal' - fortunately I had seen the actual levels and queried 2 of them because they were higher than 'normal' lab ranges. She just said 'yes slightly but not massively so not worth looking into'
Ok ...
She diagnosed me with polycystic ovaries last year but I also wanted to discuss some other hormone related symptoms that were concerning me moving forward with ttc.
She basically cut me off mid-sentence and said 'I think you are just trying to find a reason for your miscarriage and I'm afraid there isn't one. I will only take the matter further if you have 2 more miscarriages.'
Do I change doctors? Fork out for the tests privately? Or just accept that my symptoms and concerns are all in my head ...
You can be honest ...
Xxx

 

[bunny123]

Sounds like you were being completely reasonable querying your results. That's very rude of the gp! Maybe talk so someone else?

 

[tinselcat]

Unfortunately, I think some people have a very poor manner dealing with people who have suffered something traumatic like you. Or are just plain insensitive.

The GP may well have been right in what she said (most NHS places don't investigate early MCs until you have 3 of them) but there was no need for her to speak like that, however frazzled she may have felt. Unfortunately something like 1 in 4 pregnancies end sadly, and in most cases I think it would be hard to establish a cause.

Sorry to hear of your loss, and that she upset you. I think it is likely that you'd have to go private if you wanted extra tests but I don't know what they would find after 6 weeks & some time elapsed (I'm not at all medical). It's probably worth ringing around private clinics to see what they could offer if it's still preying on your mind.

All the best hun xx

 

[summer15]

Thanks guys. I more than anyone hope she's absolutely right and it was just one of those unfortunate events. I absolutely don't expect them to find a reason for my previous miscarriage, I've just had hormone related problems / problems with Menstrual cycles since puberty so wanted some reassurance that my body is fit enough to sustain a pregnancy. I think it was the not listening that bothered me. I felt she'd decided before I even started talking that I was just a 'baby crazy' lady who's concerns were all in her head. Maybe if I start forking out hundreds of pounds for private tests and changing doctors etc I just confirm this label. O well, as I say, I sincerely hope she's right. Just needed to vent
Xxx

 

[lisey]

Some doctors are truly so insensitive, I don't think they realise how hard it is to go through, I have had many inappropriate comments made about my miscarriages by 'professionals'. I would look into the blood levels more if I were you. I have been told a few times that my bloods were 'a little out of range' when one time I was infact anaemic, another time my progesterone was below 30 and on another my FSH was a fair amount above the amount it should be...the last one could have had a terrible outcome on fertility had I not looked into it more.
I don't think the doctors will do anything in regards to investigating the miscarriage, they are very fixed on the 3 miscarriage rule. I would look into what the blood levels mean or indicate and speak to another GP if possible? xx

 

[summer15]

Thank you. Feeling a bit more positive today, I had my first acupuncture session - the therapist specialises in fertility and listened to everything I had to say. She agreed that my other circulation/hormonal symptoms could have an impact on fertility and whilst I'm not looking for a miracle cure it was just nice for someone to listen with sincerity and not dismiss my worries or make out 'it's all in my head'. I have no experience with the treatment itself - it was a strange feeling being poked with little needles in the hope it will help fertility, but I certainly feel a lot more relaxed and a lot more positive about ttc so that alone was worth the money!
Xxx

 

[lisey]

I am glad the acupuncture went well, I think its worth going down different avenues, I found my acupuncturist far more knowledgeable than my GP in fertility issues. It really does help to be relaxed and positive too xx