Feeling a little worried

[Nat_lou]

Hello Lovely people,
I just wanted to ask, is it normal to feel worried and anxious at 15 weeks +2?
I had my 12 week scan, everything was fine. I've not got another scan or midwife appointment now until 20weeks which is 9th March. It just seems so long to wait.
At the beginning, i've suffered alot with sickness and tiredness but just recently, i've felt more "normal" again and the sickness and tiredness has stopped.
I've been thinking about booking and paying for a private scan, just to reassure myself in my own head that everything is okay.
I've been reading about people having mmc and last week, a friend at work found out that she has miscarried at 14 weeks.
It's just made me really nervous now and my head is just full of mixed feelings about what could possibly be going on inside of me with this tiny growing human.
I feel like i just need reassurance that everything is okay, or confirmation that it's not okay.
Is a private scan the right way to go about that? Would they even tell me if anything was wrong?
Thanks for taking the time to read my long, complainy post. I'm just really unsure in my own head.

 

[KHTW]

Hi Nat,

From my experience you can feel anxious at 12, 20 and 40 weeks all the same. The way I cope with it is by having privet scans in between NHS appointment. For example my first scan wasn't until 14 weeks so I had a privet one at 11+4. Then I heard a heartbeat at midwife appt at 16 weeks. My 20 weeks scan is not until end of February so we are having privet gender at 18+3. Then after 20 weeks scan I need to survive until 24 weeks midwife appt to heat the heartbeat and then we have additional nhs growth scan at 30 weeks. We may then have a presentation scan at 34 weeks (or 28 weeks).

Of course later on you will feel baby move more and more which is very reassuring xx

 

[Wednesday]

I felt similar around 15 weeks and ended up booking a private reassurance scan for myself.

It did help as I could see baby was fine x

 

[Nat_lou]

Thank you for replying.
I feel like it's just such a long time to wait between scans or appointments and i just don't know if everything is okay for not but still have to wait another month before finding out. It's been playing on my mind for the last 2 weeks now.
I mentioned a private scan to my partner and he was more excited that it would be soon enough that we could find out the gender.
He's been great and listened to me about my anxiety about it but he just says that everything is fine and i would know myself for sure if it wasn't.
I've read about people having bad experiences with private scans and them not giving much information, wether it be good news or bad. Which makes me feel a little worried about that.
At 15 weeks, we've had 1 scan and not yet heard the heartbeat.
When i go to my midwife, she seems to spend more time talking about Harry Potter than actually doing anything pregnancy related with me.
She took my bloods once and a urine sample. Is that normal?
This is my first time being pregnant so i've never experienced any of this before. I ask my mom but it was 30 years since she last had a baby and things are alot different now.
I feel stupid if i try to talk to my friends, like i'm just been silly and feeling insecure. But, this is literally all that i think about every day nearly all day.
Is it normal to worry so much?

 

[Wednesday]

Yes it is normal, dont worry!

If you book a private scan from 16 weeks they can usually tell you the gender if you want to know.

Ive had a few private scans and all have been lovely, much nicer than the NHS ones

 

[Nat_lou]

Thank you. I think that i will ring around today and get a few quotes, find out how much it costs to just put my mind at ease.

 

[Princess81]

It all sounds normal, but it can feel like a long, long time. Especially when you aren't feeling movements yet.
Your midwife would have taken urine and bloods for your booking samples, to make sure your iron levels etc are ok and that you didnt have a urine infection brewing.
It's a long slog between the 16 and 25 week midwife appointments, but the thought is that you have your anomaly scan at around the 20 week mark.
Most midwives wouldnt listen to the heartbeat at such an early gestation, because (a) its not in the guidelines and (b) we arent guaranteed to hear it as baby could still be sat behind the pubic bone at this time - all youre doing then is causing worry because there wouldn't be anything you could do about it as a midwife at that time.
You could always try and see if you can get another appointment with your midwife in between times, just for reassurance if nothing else.

 

[Shanivy]

Like everyone else says it's all normal. You worry about everything. Try not to focus on a mmc because that will drive you insane. It does feel like a long time between appointments especially for FTMs. Your bloods and urine are normally taken so don't stress. Also feel free to ask them anything at the appointments rather than coming away worrying. It's not stupid if you've never been pregnant before

I had a private scan at 14 weeks due to quite heavy bleeding and my maternity unit not seeing me. I would have went insane if I hadn't booked it. They do a baby wellbeing checklist which means if anything was wrong they can tell you. And can advise seeing a midwife etc. They checked the hb, fluid etc with mine.

Mine was babybond which I know a few other ladies have used. And the lady doing my scan was the same woman who did my NHS scan, so I felt reassured that they knew what they were doing. It really helped me relax. I've another booked for Wednesday for gender. Xx

 

[Felicia]

Don't worry,... Stress is not good

 

[GBLiz]

its normal to start feeling better at 15 weeks- i did. You could get a private gender scan or maybe buy a doppler to check heartbeat?

It doesnt help when you know a tragic story about someone losing a baby late. It sticks in your mind like anything. But honestly if the 12 week scan was ok you are pretty much 99% definitely ok.