Feeling a little down....

[Karate Kid]

Hey Ladies,

Just re-posting something I posted a short while back because it is still buggin me.... just wondering if anyone has experienced this?

Both my husband and I decided not to tell our parents we are TTC and I just want a tiny bit of support from someone.... you ladies are really the only people I can talk to.....

Hubby's mother is already being a pushy MIL and keeps on asking when we are going to start trying.... unfortunately she found out last weekend because overheard a conversation hubby and I were having when we were around there place. Now pretty much everyone in hubby's family knows and to be frank I just feel like crying.... Hubby's twelve year old cousin asked me if we were pregnant yet on Saturday and I nearly burst into tears.

We have only been TTC for three months now but I am already feeling the pressure and this just adds to it. To top it all off my SIL is pregnant for the second time and her and her husband seem to have no issues what so ever. Hubby's BIL has taken upon himself to be a right tool about everything and may sarcy comments to hubby which really gets him down. SIL isn't exactly being ultra supportive either....

My parents think I am way too young to have children (I am 24) and think that I should continue being a career woman.... I have a fairly good job but it's not for me, I don't love it.... Children on the other hand make my heart smile and I adore them.

I told three of my closet friends who know me inside out. They are being so supportive and they know how long I have wanted children for.

I just feel under so much pressure now to please everyone.... yet I know exactly what Hubby and I both want.... which should be enough,

Feel like AF is on her way and just wish that Saturday would hurry up right about now!!

Sorry for the rant but because of my whole parents Vs. in law situation I feel like I am stuck between a rock and a hard place. I know it sounds silly to care about everyone else but I guess that's just my personality.... need to toughen up!!

xx

 

[hayes]

Im so sorry to hear this how very upseting for you. Sounds like your in laws need to chill out and leave you and your hubby alone for a bit, its polite for them to ask but not b pushy!!!

Im very lucky in that my in laws are fab but my pressure frm my mum feels very intense atm!! So i no how you feel but it can take time and try to ignore them if they make you feel down.

Fx it wont b long for you.

Michelle. x

 

[Clairabella]

It's a very difficult time when you are TTC. I'm sorry to hear that your in laws have upset you and some people can be so heartless at times. It sounds like you have some very supportive friends and all of us on here are always here to offer you some support.

We have not told anybody that we are TTC but my SIL has recently found out she is pregnant so non of our family seem to be asking us about TTC at the moment....

Fx for us all soon xx

 

[prrrmeow]

I'm sorry to hear you're feeling under so much pressure.....i'd be tempted to tell them all that you've changed your mind and are going to leave it another year or two. Then you'll have a bit of breathing space to take things in your own time, they'll be dissapointed at first but really they shouldn't be taking it upon themselves to tell everyone on your behalf anyway!!

I have a pushy ex MIL (they do it because you're young and they look on you the same as their own kids)

Fingers crossed for you and don't be worried about doing things in your own way x x

 

[Karate Kid]

Thank you all for your kindness it's much appreciated. Manged to speak to hubby tonight about it all and he is going to have a chat with his mother.

Thunk I just need to stay true to what hubby and I want.

Baby dust to you all xx