Feeling a bit hurt...

[Steelgoddess]

I don't know why but i feel a bit low...

I spoke with my Mum about the sex and what not and she was happy but she said she was shocked as she thought it was a girl and what not... She also said can i be honest? I said okkkk...

She then said "Im happy its a boy but a little girl would of been lovely because they are so... (cant remember what she said exactly... something to do with them being lovely )etc etc"

 

[millylillyrose]

im sure she means well....but she should read the manual of things not to say to a pregnant woman...esp about her baby! she should have kept that little comment to herself.
My mum really wanted me to have a little boy, but because her husbands 3 children have all had girls within the same year and she wanted to knit a blue blanket. lol. mothers!!!

I'd have loved to have had a boy first.....if i could pick, but thats a secret Im totally over the moon either way.

 

[MissSara]

I know how upsetting this can be as i gave my nannan some blue wool to knit something for baby to which she replied " i am so disappointed that this isn't pink wool"

I'm sure you mum doesn't mean to upset you and doesn't even realise what she has said, its just one of them things that sadly everyone around us has a preference....... i bet she doesn't even realise what she has said.

The main thing though and this is what i had to keep telling myself to stop myself getting upset is that it is MY baby and i didnt care what sex i was having as long as he/she was healthy and well.

 

[nickilubs]

Course you would be upset by that. Little boys are lush! They are soooo cuddley they tend to love hugs more than girlys. Im sure soon as he is here he will be completely loved by everyone. Your mum had you she probably just remembers how you were growing up and wanted you to have the same experience because you were(and are) so lovely!

 

[HideiLu]

Aww hun I think my parents felt the same, but they have got used to the idea of yet another boy!

OH was wanting a boy really really badly, but last week turned round and said he doesn't think he would have minded a girl at all!

Sometimes I think people just get an idea in there head, but the reality soon overides their expectations and they won't even remember thinking about it xx

 

[Redshoes]

Steelgoddess
No-one can help having preferences, things they'd like or expect, I am certain your Mum has just had visions of her with a Granddaughter, and now she knows he is a boy she will start having lots with her Grandson and before you know it that conversation will have been forgotten Sometimes people say odd things regarding Baby's sex, but I don't think they realize how hurtful it can be, despite them not wanting to hurt, I hope you're OK

 

[mrs_tommo22]

People are so hurtful when it comes to commenting on babies sex etc, but i genuinly rthink they dont mean any harm!

Just brush the comments under the carpet and please try and ignore her!

She will be thrilled eitherways when hes born!

Congrats again on your son - now you get to think of names!!!

 

[Steelgoddess]

Thanks so much for all you're lovely comments, I spoke with my sister too and i feel tonnes better, im starting to get really excited and ur right i dont care what anyone else thinks she did say that a boy suited me well and i think it does especially seeing i grew up with mainly boys not giirls and genrally get on better with boys(god that sounds dodgey!)

Thanks again

 

[NickyB]

Oooh, that's a really unkind thing to say... one thing to have a preference but to make you feel you've disappointed someone in your family over something you have no control. Especially, and please no offence, your history, I think she could've thought better of saying that

 

[aramintalovegrove]

We all have our preconsceptions about what it would be like to have a certain se, when he is here Im sure she will spoil him rotten!

 

[MagicMarkers]

Im convinced im having aboy even though we dont know and would be totally thrilled either way !! Have to physically restain myself from buying stripey things !!! ( most of the time, must admit i have a few boy bits that if were having a girl we'll just have to girly up with a skirt ) So long as your happy hun everyone will just have to get used to it, you'd have thought she'd have a bit more tact by now but once LO's here she wont care if theyre boy or a girl, after everythuing youve been through dont let her spoil this for ya, im sure shes thrilled and its just remembering how adorable you were as a kid thats making her say that !!

 

[Bagpuss17]

It's odd how many people/family come out with such comments. I often hear comments that a daughter is for life but you lose your son as soon as they get married

Makes me cross and it can be hurtful but I look at my DHs relationship with his mother and I know that it comes down to how close you are as a family regardless of gender whether you lose a son/daughter when they're grown up and married.

As a Mum of a son, let me tell you they are sooooo loving. All the midwives said the same about boys being very loving to their Mums especially compared to girls.

You're Mum will be spoiling him rotten once he's here, she'll be smitten

 

[mibiuk]

Hi Sharne,

First some of these and also congratulations on you having a boy

I know I said I wasn't going to find out but I have broken my own rule on this one but you could harldly miss it im having another BOY!! I am sooooooo over the moon, a girl would have been nice to have the set but loads of people who DONT know what I am having say boys are easier and I can say like most others on here with boys my son is so loving and patient.

To add insult to injury we dont get on with my husbands mother she has not wanted anything to do with us since our son was a year old the old cow intentionally never came to his 1st birthday party making up some old b**shit as usual but she has never forgotten her other THREE grandsons. I personally think it is that we have a son and she was soooooo hoping for a girl but hey tuff titty I have no control and would not want to make that choice. So when she finds out this one a boy then she certainly wont want anymore to do with us, but then shes a sad case anyway.

I agree with what others have put on here, I dare say that when you mum sees your little man she will be over the moon and people can and do say some very hurtful things sharne its just human nature.

Well all I say is up the BOYS! (nothing against you ladies have little girls either )

Take care
Kathy x

 

[Steelgoddess]

thanks girls for the lovely replies, i feel fantastic today i have so much to look forward to with a little dude the only thing is having to wait but im so excited nd nothing anyone says or does will stop that...