My husband has made me feel like the uglist woman on the plant... i feel bad for even coming on here and talking about our relationship.. he is a very private person! but i feel like i'm going crazy.. and just need some advice. I'm at the stage of thinking is it just me!!! amazing how men can make you feel like that. I'll explain a little....
Since Jacob has been born we've hardly touched each other... He says i show him no affection - which is probably right! but he makes me feel so ugly. He had never said "well done" for loosing almost all of my baby weight. I used to feel adored... now i feel he just tolerates me. I've told him this and i got no response! I feel like everything i do irritates him... he has a negative comment about everything i do. I probably even breath wrong! I openly asked him if i annoy him - he replyed "yes"... but then jokes!!!! Today I opened up and told him how i feel. I am almost back to my pre pregnancy weight however my shape is now different! My chest is a little bigger (which is nice!) although my back is now a 36 (before i was a 34) and i'm now a DD. My hips are a little wider too. I still have quite a bit of loose skin on my stomach which i feel looks horrible. I had a C section so i now have quite a red scar too... so you could say i'm feeling a bit down about my stomach! I explained to him that my body has changed so much and that i've lost quite a bit of confidence... I told him he never tells me i look nice or that i've done well to loose my baby weight! and that this makes me feel like he doesn't like my post pregnancy body! I wasn't expecting him to tell me i look like a bloody super model but i was expecting some reaction.... he just turned towards the telly and laughed at an advert! I got up and went to have a shower! I felt like the uglist person ever!!!! can he be the most insensitve man in the world or just plain stupid? he then follows me into the bathroom and tries to get into the shower with me!!!!! i would have loved this any other time but now!!! there hasn't been any affection between us in weeks and now he tries it on in the shower after insulting me.... so confussed! I have just told him we need a serious talk! I tolkd him we have a big problem... and he looks shocked! saying "i don't think we have a problem" and then asks what did he do to upset me earlier on.... I know men are from mars but bloody hell.... this one has no idea!!!
He probably thinks it's my baby hormones! and that i'm over reacting! what can i do to make him understand how i feel? and why do i feel like this is all my fault?
Thanks for listening. Any advice is appreciated.
x
Since Jacob has been born we've hardly touched each other... He says i show him no affection - which is probably right! but he makes me feel so ugly. He had never said "well done" for loosing almost all of my baby weight. I used to feel adored... now i feel he just tolerates me. I've told him this and i got no response! I feel like everything i do irritates him... he has a negative comment about everything i do. I probably even breath wrong! I openly asked him if i annoy him - he replyed "yes"... but then jokes!!!! Today I opened up and told him how i feel. I am almost back to my pre pregnancy weight however my shape is now different! My chest is a little bigger (which is nice!) although my back is now a 36 (before i was a 34) and i'm now a DD. My hips are a little wider too. I still have quite a bit of loose skin on my stomach which i feel looks horrible. I had a C section so i now have quite a red scar too... so you could say i'm feeling a bit down about my stomach! I explained to him that my body has changed so much and that i've lost quite a bit of confidence... I told him he never tells me i look nice or that i've done well to loose my baby weight! and that this makes me feel like he doesn't like my post pregnancy body! I wasn't expecting him to tell me i look like a bloody super model but i was expecting some reaction.... he just turned towards the telly and laughed at an advert! I got up and went to have a shower! I felt like the uglist person ever!!!! can he be the most insensitve man in the world or just plain stupid? he then follows me into the bathroom and tries to get into the shower with me!!!!! i would have loved this any other time but now!!! there hasn't been any affection between us in weeks and now he tries it on in the shower after insulting me.... so confussed! I have just told him we need a serious talk! I tolkd him we have a big problem... and he looks shocked! saying "i don't think we have a problem" and then asks what did he do to upset me earlier on.... I know men are from mars but bloody hell.... this one has no idea!!!
He probably thinks it's my baby hormones! and that i'm over reacting! what can i do to make him understand how i feel? and why do i feel like this is all my fault?
Thanks for listening. Any advice is appreciated.
x