I want to thank you Purplepebbles for posting this, I have the same feeling. I am 42 and when I found out I was pregnant it shocked the hell out of me and my partner. This was our first pregnancy, we never used protection for years and nothing happened so we both thought that it never would. I was scared as I didn't know what to do. I went to the doctor who sent me for a scan and I was 7wk and 6 days when the scan happened and I could see my peanuts heart beat. It was amazing but scary at the same time, all I could see was a blob on the screen, but the heart beat was there. As I am 42 the midwife wanted me to have a combination scan at the hospital which my partner and I had already said we would do the additional tests because of my age etc. I called the hospital and made the appointment for the combination scan and because they had not done my first scan they wanted to do an additional scan. My combination scan was for the 1st October but the scan that the hospital wanted to do first was booked for the 16th Sept. I agreed to the dates and thought nothing of it, but my partner was working late on the 16th, I told him, not to worry it was just a regular scan and as long as he was there on the 1st October then there was nothing to worry about. My scan on the 16th showed that my peanut no longer had a heart beat, I was telling the woman it does have a beat i have seen it. No it no longer did. I miscarriage my peanut at 05.30 Thursday 19th September, I was 11 weeks and was planning on telling my mum as a birthday surprise on the 20th September.
Now I just have the feeling that this was my one and only time at being pregnant, I know what you mean Purplepebbles when people tell you that hey you got pregnant before so you can do it again, my midwife, and gynecologist told me the same and told me hey dont worry about your age etc, but I have the feeling that this will never happen. I will never see another peanut inside me, never have rock solid boobs again, never get the chance to get fat and just say what the hell I'm pregnant. Then there are the other thoughts, what the hell will I do if I do get pregnant again and this happens again to me. How will I cope with another loss ?? This was my first pregnancy and my first miscarriage, I have no idea how other women cope with multiple losses and my heart truly goes out to you all.
I dont have my first period since my loss yet and I dont even know when it will come or how it will be.
Oh god my mind is such a mess. I have a two great scans of my peanut (from my scan on the 16th Sept) and I keep them close and when I see them I say to myself, we can do this again !! but then I think it took so long for this to happen and it will never happen again this was my one and only time.
Purplepebbles you are really not alone with your feelings, and I'm sorry to everyone for my long reply and also to everyone that has had a lost of losses. Got to go and get come tissues now !! Hormones again................