Feel like I'm going around in circles

[Tarah]

I've come to a point where this relationship is starting to depress me. I just feel like I get taken for granted and that it's so one sided sometimes and that it's all about his wants and needs I feel I get nothing in return. We do get on most of the time but just feel it's the same old arguments and he uses the same old excuses no matter what the argument is about and he just doesn't see how unreasonable his behaviour is sometimes.

He then comments on the fact that he can never do anything right and I'm thinking you don't even try I don't ask for a lot from him I don't drive so the only things I really ask him for is to pick me up from work in the evening I do so much for him. We were suppose to go to Mamas and Pappas on Sunday morning I had been looking forward to it then he say he cant be bothered and that we should finish painting all it needed was another coat cause I had done one the day before and he didn't even start it to 2pm so we could of still went in the morning. I know it may seem like I'm being a spoilt brat but I'm not as I said I don't ask him to do a lot so to make me happy why wouldn't he just have taken me.

I'm just starting to think that maybe I will be happier being a single parent. I'm just stuck in a rut I blame myself a little bit cause I've just allowed him to continuously apologise for his unreasonable behaviour and do the same thing over and over again it's a vicious circle. He was sorry yesterday and today back to square one he insulted me I said something back then surprise surprise I'm a scruff and a scratcher his sick of cleaning up after me that's why we argue. I don't know what planet his on he mainly cleans up after himself., but that's just him no matter what we argue about its like that's his weapon of defence to use.

 

[mylullaby]

It sounds like you're frustrated, but I really don't think you should make any decisions about your relationship while your hormones are raging. I'm not saying it's only a matter of hormones - just that they're probably playing a part in how you're feeling.

Sweeping generalisation here - men can be inconsiderate arse holes at times, but it doesn't mean we don't love them. We just have to find ways to deal with them. Why not set a new date to go for your M&P trip and then you'll have that to look forward to - make sure he knows how much and that you'd really like him to stick to the plan this time.

As for the relationship being one-sided, I think it's important to see a relationship as teamwork - so maybe you could have a chat (when you're not mid-argument about something else) about sharing the workload / working together, etc before baby comes along and changes your whole world

 

[yuku]

It sounds like you're frustrated, but I really don't think you should make any decisions about your relationship while your hormones are raging. I'm not saying it's only a matter of hormones - just that they're probably playing a part in how you're feeling.

Sweeping generalisation here - men can be inconsiderate arse holes at times, but it doesn't mean we don't love them. We just have to find ways to deal with them. Why not set a new date to go for your M&P trip and then you'll have that to look forward to - make sure he knows how much and that you'd really like him to stick to the plan this time.

As for the relationship being one-sided, I think it's important to see a relationship as teamwork - so maybe you could have a chat (when you're not mid-argument about something else) about sharing the workload / working together, etc before baby comes along and changes your whole world

I agree with you that"We just have to find ways to deal with them" , smart woman will harvest lasting romantic love.