Don't know what to do next

[Browneyed Girl]

Need some advice if anyone can help. I've been trying for about 15 months to get pg and have had no success at all. I'm waiting for my referral to come through for IUI/IVF and I'm wondering whether to have one last throw of the dice and try soy? My cycles are fairly regular although seem to be getting shorter and I'm just worried about messing them up especially if IUI starts sooner than I think it will. Would it be too much of a risk?

Also my oh is finding it really tough at moment, every month is a kick in the teeth and its getting him down. I think the spark has gone for him a bit in the bedroom dept because he's thinking about timing and why were doing it rather than just enjoying it iykwim. I've said not to think of it like that and I don't discuss where I am in my cycle but after this long he knows anyway. I hate to see him down and this is another thing that is making me think soy might be worth a go because a bfp would help how he's feeling too. Argh!

I'm on cd 3 so I've only got a couple of days to decide. Any help would be great xxx

 

[Browneyed Girl]

Anyone?

xx

 

[cosmicgirl]

Soy did nothing for me other than mess with my cycles and give me banging headaches. I'd leave we'll alone tbh x

 

[shutterbug]

Hi Brown-eyed girl - just had a quick read of your post - when you talking about trying soy do you mean intralipid infusion?

kind regards,

shutterbug

 

[Browneyed Girl]

Thanks ladies. I meant soy isoflavones. I'm swaying towards not trying them but I don't want to regret trying everything I could have xx

 

[Dee28]

Hey, I'm having the same dilemma and still undecided, I started a thread in ttc that has a good range of replies that might help. I have a fertility referral in October so if I do it next month is my chance as I wouldn't want to take anything that may interfere with or skew test results. It's tough, I'm sit between thinking I've nothing to lose and not wanting to mess my cycle...I'll be watching your decision with interest! Xx


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[Vickyxx]

When I was waiting for my ivf to start I just gave up on everything, no drugs, herbals, weird sex positions etc... I decided to just try and forget about it all (which is not easy I know) and give my body and myself a break before getting started and bugger me I fell pregnant the week before my treatment was due to start, I felt like a walking cliché!!

Sometimes a break is good, have sex cause you enjoy it not cause you have to and try and remember what life was like before all of this.

I know its hard to switch off I spent so long thinking it would never happen but it did so dont lose hope hunny and go and enjoy yourself before starting your treatment xx

 

[laurat]

I decided before I had the IUI to just go natural with everything like Vicky. I felt that no drugs etc and things like soy wouldmean that by the time that I actually had the treatment then it wouldnt be effected by any other factors if you get what I mean. However some people use soy all the time anyway do they not so might not be classsed as interfering. It is up to you and I know the temptation to try all things. My first IUI was a sucess and so hope yours is too if you have to wait that long!

 

[ScotchEgg]

While we were waiting for ivf we stopped everything too. It gave us a bit of a break before ivf as that's really tough.

 

[Browneyed Girl]

Thanks for replying and it's good to see a few lttc'er success stories

I decided not to try the soy in the end - I was too worried in case my levels of anything were too high or low when it comes to IUI/IVF testing, I'm a real worrier and I know it would do my head in wondering if it was my fault for taking soy!!

It seems that my chat with my oh seems to have sunk in a bit as well. We've seemed closer than ever in the last few days and have even dtd 3 days in a row which hasn't happened for a while We're just trying to enjoy ourselves and take the pressure off. I know I can't switch off completely but I don't want us both to be driven insane by this and we'll need our energy for IUI/IVF so I think we need a bit of a break so no ov tests or anything this month.

Thanks for giving me your views, i think it may have stopped me making a mistake

xxx

 

[Dee28]

Glad you've come to a decision and you feel positive about it, that's the best you can ask for! Xx

 

[Browneyed Girl]

Thanks Dee, did you decide whether you're going to try soy? xx

 

[Dee28]

Not yet, I'm going to see how this cycle goes, only cd14 so have a few weeks to decide, still in two minds so I'll probably bottle out! Xx

 

[Browneyed Girl]

Ah it's difficult to know what to do for the best isn't it! Good luck with whatever you decide xx