Don't know how to make it right?!!!

[mel0013]

Hi long time no speak,

Hope all you lovely ladies are healthy and happy this new year xxx

I'm afraid I'm on the want again! I've messed up big time with my dear OH and don't know how to fix it. Today we were talking by text about having a 2nd baby (DD is 9 months) he'd already agreed about having another child when twat that I am I went and said having more was a "deal breaker" I know I'm a moron.

He's now very upset and says he knows where he stands now. I've tried to apologise and explain myself better but he's not having it and we're spending the evening in separate rooms.

I feel terrible for not thinking before I speak, does anyone have any idea what I can do or say?

I feel so stupid

 

[redbear]

Oh no, i dont know what to suggest, maybe give him time to chill and try talking again, or walk in with sexy undies on and see if that cheers him up? xx

 

[mel0013]

Ive tried explaining I didn't mean it like that and that I just didn't think. He now doesn't believe that I love him and has to think about how he feels.

It's not looking good for my relationship at the minute.

 

[BunnyN]

How do you really feel about it? Is it really a deal breaker for you or did you just say that because you already know that he agreed? I get why he'd find it upsetting but it sounds to me more like you were just trying express how it was something that was super important to you but you were not actually trying to threaten that you'd break up if he didn't agree. If that's the case maybe try saying how sorry you were and say you were just trying to express yourself and its an expression that slipped out its not really what you meant to say.

 

[mel0013]

Thank you bunnyN that's exactly it. I've told him it was just poor choice of words, I didn't think before I spoke, I didn't mean it, I do love him but he's just not having it. I think all I can do is let him sleep on it and try and talk again tomorrow xxx

 

[BunnyN]

Aw, sounds like you are right he just needs a bit of time for the rawness to wear off. I'm sure he'll feel better about it and acept what you are saying after a while.

 

[Lyllian]

Don't walk in sexy undies!given the nature of your argument I don't know how it would come across if you suddenly approach him for sex the very same day?

 

[BunnyN]

Hope things are better now.

 

[redbear]

Don't walk in sexy undies!given the nature of your argument I don't know how it would come across if you suddenly approach him for sex the very same day?

I was kidding but if she lets him use a condom i dont see how it would matter, it works for everything with my husband. But he has a suer high labido cant think of a time it wouldnt have worked on lmao. xx

 

[Lyllian]

Don't walk in sexy undies!given the nature of your argument I don't know how it would come across if you suddenly approach him for sex the very same day?

I was kidding but if she lets him use a condom i dont see how it would matter, it works for everything with my husband. But he has a suer high labido cant think of a time it wouldnt have worked on lmao. xx

lol does it, maybe I should try it but...so bloody tired...lol

 

[Donna88]

Oh no

Sit him down and talk to him, explain how it wasn't said how it came out and that you didn't mean you would have broken up with him if he hadn't agreed to more kids. Tell him you do love him and that you wouldn't want to lose him over anything.

I hope he comes around and realises you didn't mean it how it sounds

 

[mel0013]

Thank you everybody uve been a big help. We've talked it out and we're going for baby no.2! See you in "waiting to try" xxxxxxxxxx

 

[redbear]

ooohhh exciting! Good luck! xx

 

[Donna88]

Ooooh exciting and glad you worked things out

 

[BunnyN]

Glad you worked it out And exciting that you have plans for #2. Any idea yet when you will be TTC?

 

[mel0013]

Glad you worked it out And exciting that you have plans for #2. Any idea yet when you will be TTC?

I'm booked in to have the coil out on the 30th of this month and the time is going so slowly! Doing my best to distract myself from counting the days xxx