Does anyone else feel this way?

[xshauna_bazx]

I want me and my partner to have a baby so much and sometimes i think about it and get really scared even though i know i want it so much. Im terrified of pain lol so i don't think i could cope in labour, i also worry i wont cope...maybe its because im young? i get really nervous thinking about it and im not even pregnant yet lol am i the only one that gets like this?

 

[catty1]

No

Of the top of my head, list of things I'm scared of includes: miscarrige, labour, something being wrong with potential baby, having lots of people staring at my bits, stretchmarks, sore nipples, needing a c-section, tearing and giving up coffee.

I don't think anyone ever feels 100% confident, you just go with the flow and take it as it comes. If you try to think about it all at once its too overwhelming. I bet you will be fine in labour, you will be to excited about meeting your baby to care about anything else. That's what I'm hoping anyway!

I hope you get preganant soon

x

 

[xshauna_bazx]

Thanks for that im scared of all that too lol x baby dust to you x

 

[deebaba]

I want me and my partner to have a baby so much and sometimes i think about it and get really scared even though i know i want it so much. Im terrified of pain lol so i don't think i could cope in labour, i also worry i wont cope...maybe its because im young? i get really nervous thinking about it and im not even pregnant yet lol am i the only one that gets like this?

I dont think ur the only person that feels like this im the exact same ill be a total worrier i think... wen is get my bfp i think i might just stay in bed till i give birth im so scared that getting stressed out and doing something like lift something or bending down to pick something up will result in mc or harm the baby lol..... its ironic that something that u want so much can make u sooo scared at the same time....

hope u get ur bfp soon

How long u been ttc??
Xxxx

 

[xshauna_bazx]

thanks yeah imagine when the kid is older how worried we all will be much more problems then lol. about 4 or 5 month mmc first month. what about u? xxxxx

 

[flexilexi394]

hope you dont mind me crashing in

I am 17 weeks pregnant and its perfectly normal to feel all what you guys are feeling. but once you are actually pregnant and the more your pregnancy goes on, you just know that you can do it no matter what. and suddenly realise your doing it for a baby and that feeling makes all the fears of sore nipples and labour go away. as for giving up coffee, im certainly not giving up anything of the sort! lol. theirs a few things they advise to cut down on and the odd thing not to eat but in all seriousness its not as bad as you may think. trust me the thought of labour is my biggest fear yet, but im just going to take it in my stride and have lots of pain relief lol! x

 

[deebaba]

thanks yeah imagine when the kid is older how worried we all will be much more problems then lol. about 4 or 5 month mmc first month. what about u? xxxxx

Oh god i kno ha and wen they get older... we have been trying for nearly 2 years had mc first month as well.... were r u from??
Xxxxx

 

[xshauna_bazx]

not at all hun, yeah labour has got to be the biggest fear lol. thank god for pain relief!
Oh i dunno what im gonna be like when im actually pregnant lol x

 

[xshauna_bazx]

Cumbria what about u? xx

 

[deebaba]

Scotland what cd r u??
xx

 

[xshauna_bazx]

cd16 havent ovulated yet lol what about u? xx

 

[Misstinkerbell]

Hey hun

You really are not the only one to feel like that! We have been trying for 2 and a half years now and as much as i really really want a baby i am so petrified something will go wrong because of my age, I'm 37 in 2 weeks, theres the risk of mc, downs syndrome, complications with the pregnancy and the birth so even if i do fall pregnant the worrying will not stop until i am holding a healthy baby. Last month i did a pt and i thought i saw a positive, i felt sick, i felt so scared, all these thoughts started running through my head which i didnt expect if i got a BFP, i dunno whether all women feel like that at first, but anyway turns out it was my eyes playing tricks on me but it just goes to show that getting pregnant is stressful enough but being pregnant adds a whole to meaning to the word worry, so it looks like we are all in the same boat, its an emotional time for all of us but when we are all holding our little miracles in our arms for the first time then all of that stress and worry will be forgotten about, until they start walking of course, then theres the terrible twos, then teenage years.....OMG does it ever end!!

Thats why its so great to be able to unload our fears on here, it makes you realise youre not alone!!
I hope you OV soon!
Baby dust to you all!

 

[xshauna_bazx]

Thanks, your soo right and its great on here because you can write your feelings and no1 knows you
when i got my bfp when i mmc i was shaking i was sooo nervous, im so glad im not alone lol xxxx
baby dust to everyone

 

[deebaba]

cd16 havent ovulated yet lol what about u? xx

cd 1/2 she got me yday lol soo another month of bd

xx

 

[xshauna_bazx]

ah well good look for this month!!! x

 

[Vickyxx]

I think the idea of child birth is enough to scare any woman. I was a birthing partner for my sister last year and it was such a strange experience, she made the contractions look easy, no screaming or shouting just some low moans, she then spent three hours pushing with NO pain relief and then eventually she had to be cut and have a forcep delivery this is the only bit that was scary but more because the doctors were crap and didnt explain to her what was happening, but it was over pretty quick and then she had her beautiful baby girl and it was like euphoria!!

During labour she said to me I cant do this anymore and I said to her, you have to because your my big sister and if you can do it then it means I will be able to do it... and she did, so my fear of labour has reduced ........ although I have already said I want all the drugs that you are legally allowed to give one person ha ha

 

[xshauna_bazx]

awww, im the same i want all the drugs they will give me lol x

 

[BabyLover]

I feel the same thing as well, we have been TTC over 4 years and i think scared sometimes because my friends friend, had her baby and then 6 weeks later drop dead from a blood clot, which was bought on by her pregnancy...just goes to show you and now that has shit me up because I am overweight and you are more of a risk of developing blood clots, then alone having the strain of being pregnant as well....so that is the main thing I am scared of because she didn't even have any symptoms, nothing...all she was doing was at home and drop dead because the clot had travelled to her heart from her ankles....

I am petrified now, I aint scared of labour as much except for the thing of it being painful but that's my most fear. So you are feeling perfectly normal to feel like this. All I say to myself is I am going to have a lovely baby at the end of it and live life normal

x